How can you tell if he/she is a bad girl/guy or good girl/guy?

[Anonymous]

[Finchie40]

Sadly you really never know , it’s a 50/50 chance we take. Things I mainly I look out for in a girl , is her personality, How she treats others , Does she have a caring heart? and most of all is she selfish? If I feel a girl has a selfish personality that only cares about herself I will lose interest in her , cuz I know she wouldn’t take a relationship seriously , it would be her way or no way , if she doesn’t prioritize me , I will not be able to prioritize her , a girl that knows how to remove her inner selfishness for me , is a girl I will keep by my side as much as possible , cuz I will so do the same for her , As long as she values and respects me I will so do the same for her , I want a girl that stays under the sheets with me , not one that runs to the streets when she doesn’t get her way. Sadly most girl’s today are selfish and do not know what that means. So my ass is remaining single , until I find that girl that knows what it means to be in a relationship , you can’t expect someone to remove selfishness for you, if you can’t remove it for them, you can’t expect someone to want you if you can’t make them feel wanted in return , it has to go both ways or it’s just a waste of time , basically thanks for a good time, but not a long time , No relationship is perfect , but when you find someone that stands by your side and removes selfishness for you , you would be the biggest dumb ass on the planet to kick that person to the side, Love only grows when 2 people wear each others shoes and remove selfishness for each other , if you aren’t capable of doing that? then you are best to remain single , I can’t give my heart to someone that can’t give me their heart in return , when a relationship turns one sided, meaning her way or no way , she is best to not let the door hit her in the ass on the way out , cuz she dug her own grave , Life is too short to be someone that only cares about themselves. I will try to fix what is broken with us but , if she isn’t willing to fix it with me , she is best to go live her selfish life back on the streets where she belongs.

[Monalisa77]

When i first meet people i struggle to not come across as if im talking about me, its just a natural thing to do and it doesn't mean im a selfish person.. I think i look out for others and care.. and i always back up people who i feel r being treated unfairly.

[Finchie40]

It’s ok to be yourself and talk about yourself in the beginning but as time goes on and a girl starts to only think about herself and does what she wants to do like it’s her way or no way , she is best to continue on her selfish road , I will not commit to a girl that treats me like a convenience period

[Joker_]

I'll answer this from the perspective of a guy with an interest in girls. This is because I am a guy. And because I have an interest in girls, contrary to popular belief.

So how do I ascertain whether a girl is good or bad?

Well first I should mention the importance of distinguishing who she is good or bad with.

Sure you might immediately think it would be nice if she was good just in general, but in actuality you would find you really only want her to be good with you. Obviously it's preferred that she has the capacity to be courteous to others. But there needs to be a viscerally distinct sense that the way she acts with me is better than the way she acts with, for example, @Degenerate.

You definitely don't want a girl who stays up one night boning one guy, then the next night bonking the other guy. Take caution with girls who emit misallied behaviour like that.

So by contrast, we can deduce that a girl who is good has demonstrated loyalty. The highest order of good is manifested when they exert loyalty like no other.

One method of testing a woman's loyalty, credit to @Degenerate for coming up with this strategy and actively employing it, is by informing her at the first opportunity that you have an absolutely deranged deformity downstairs. If she stays, you know she's the one. So far, none have stayed.

Now you should know exactly how to figure out whether she is good or bad.

[Degenerate]

lol...

[Sorrento-Sun]

Sometimes you can tell if someone is a bad person after your first encounter with them. Just by the things they say or by the way they behave.

But I never assume someone is nice after a first encounter. It's so easy for people to put on a fake persona. But they can't keep that up long-term.

So time reveals who people really are. But you have to spend time in real life with them to see how they behave , respond and react in different life situations before you can see who they really are as a person.

A guy I used to know seemed like a really nice, honest and sincere person. Buyt within 4 months , I started to see signs of covert narcisstic tendencies. I started to observe him more when i started to detect suble red flags. Over time, it was apparent he was actually a dangerous person. I had to plan a strategy to get him out of my life without him retaliating in a narsistic rage.

Some people may not be bad people, but if they don't have the same morals and values as yourself , the relationship or friendship is likely to drain you, physical , emotionally and mentally.

I trust my gut though. I never ignore my intuition about someone. People can lie and deceive you well , but your intuition is like an inner GPS... it's guides you and let's you know when something is off with a person. So many times i have ignore my gut feeling and ended up really hurt. So I trust my gut over my perception of someone.

[TenderFantasy]

How they treat you.

Everyone is different and has different tolerance levels on what they constitute as acceptable in a relationship.

If you're referring to outside of a relationship, then I guess how they treat others? I mean, someone can look like an angel on the outside, but be an asshole on the inside. That's how complicated, unfortunately, life is.

[MrOracle]

You have to vet people. This requires a lot of discussion and asking questions, focusing on morals, values, and life goals. And this needs to be done BEFORE you commit to a relationship with someone.

Just as important, you need to be prepared to end the relationship if you discover major red flags. And often you will. Most people don't vet their partners up-front because they are lazy, apathetic, or because they don't want to discover a reason not to be with someone they have an attraction to - and this is why most relationships fail. People are doing the equivalent of buying a used car sight-unseen. That rarely ends well.

[ManOnFire]

Initially we all have a sixth sense and can just tell something about a person. A lot of people don't really like to believe this because they try to live by the idea "Don't judge a book by its cover," but the truth is you really can sometimes, and sometimes you should. I know for me, 8 times out of 10, the feelings I get about a person usually turn out to be right.

Then there are other things you can see about somebody easily based on the way they behave, how they talk, what they talk about, and the things they do. This is called character and defines almost everything about us. Look at a person's character. How do they make you feel? Is what they are negative or positive? Does it give you a funny feeling that just doesn't seem to sit quite well with you?

And, are there things about them you know deep down aren't good but you're choosing to overlook them? That's a big one you have to ask yourself.

[CassandraSpender]

If he wears a black hat or has a goatee, he's bad guy

If they wear a white hat, they must be a good guy, even if they wear a mask

Thems the rules...

As for girls, they're never bad, just misguided by bad men and are always able to redeem their virtue with the help of aforementioned good guy.

[CubsterShura]

Is that all there is to people? Good and bad? Just put human beings into one of those two boxes? Now we all know people like Jeffrey Epstein are absolutely bad people, sure. Other than that, it's not like there is someone considered objectively good by everyone or objectively bad by everyone.

[Anonymous]

As a male, the best way to tell if a girl is good or not is to look her up online.

if she posts or has posted her skin/body online for cheap sexual attention or money, then she is trash.

If we go on a date with her, we can simply do the trash test as well. Tell her you split the bill on the first date and if she becomes a bitch or shames you in any way, she is a gold digging parasite.

also ask her what she brings to the table outside of sex, if she gets triggered or attacks/shames you, then she knows she has no value other than sex and isn’t worth keeping around.

[art84]

Just take a chance and later on the true self of the person will come out if they are good or bad boy/girl overtime. Like ask the person questions to figure what kind of person they are as you can never tell unless they dress or act a certain way and you get a first impression about them.

[Boomchakalaca]

Their persona. U can rlly tell when a guy is with his guy friends. u can judge for uself because he wouldn't act the same way if he was with his partner and vice-versa

[OfMiceandMen]

The only way to know is to spend time with them. Usually, there are some hints along the way as to whether you are compatible.

[libsaretards]

Having worked around inmates, I have developed a very well-developed bullshit meter. Typically it is in body language, breathing, eye and speech patterns.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I can tell she's a bad girl if it's easy to get her to send nudes.
Good, self respecting women will be hesitant, if they do it at all

[slatyb]

It can take a little bit of time. But if they mistreat anyone else that's all you need to know.

[Anonymous]

Spend some time dating and getting to know the guy before you pull down your panties and jump into bed with him.

[fonduegirl]

You're in your thirties. You still believe in this BS?

[LovingJo]

How they talk about others to you. Will be how they talk about you to others.

[RockyHammock]

I usually just ask for her instagram. The first 3 pictures will tell me everything I need to know.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Lol, that's true

[Noodle_fan]

First impression mean nothin , u actually need times until u finally able to see through the true color of a person.

[DaddyDiablo]

Honestly it just depends on what she's like n how she's like... If that makes sense...

[Anonymous]

By the constancy of their actions; we become who we pretend to be.

[Anonymous]

Just hope for the best honestly. Most hide it for a while

[David4358]

are you asking for bad as a terrible person or bad as in naughty in bed?

[Anonymous]

Flip a coin. It's about as accurate as any other method without putting in the time and effort to find out.

[Opinion Owner]

I typically watch how she treats other she has nothing to gain from. Bad women are generally VERY opportunistic. They'll plan manipulating a guy like the crime of the century. But typically she won't give 2 s***s about her family and friends.

[helbigarthur]

Quick anwser you can't people lie. Good luck reading minds.

[BBFDancer]

How she does she treats her parents. Especially her dad.

How he does he treats his parents. Especially his mom.

[Monalisa77]

Do u know their personal relationship? I dont fet on c wel with my mum cos i feel she has no respect for me.. And my dad isn't the nicest of people so people shouldn't judge your r/ship with parents as u haven't lived with them

[BBFDancer]

@Monalisa77 I know there are some exceptions.

I have Aunt and her daughter doesn't get along but my cousin found a guy that is similar to her father.
Her brother found someone just like him.

[Anonymous]

By their actions if you’re able to observe them for awhile

[Iron_Man]

You’ll find out eventually

[hemo821]

I guess I can just read them

[gag37627]

These days OF accounts help to know that

[Tomisworthless]

How they treat others in public

[FifiJones]

Define 'bad'?

[serious_miss419]

Instincts

[In_Trance]

you get to know them