My boyfriend asked me what’s the point of having a car if I can’t learn how to manage it?

[Anonymous]

My headlight bulbs went out and I need them replaced so I asked him if he knew how to do it or wanted to do it. And he said, “we both can. you need to learn how to do it” and then I asked why I need to learn how to do it and he said because what’s the point of having a car if I don’t know how to fix it when things like this happen. Would you as a boyfriend say this to your girlfriend? Why or why not?

[Anonymous]

Your boyfriend's comment may come across as insensitive or condescending, as it implies that you are not capable of managing your car and that it is your responsibility to learn how to fix it. However, it's also possible that he didn't mean it in a negative way and was trying to encourage you to become more self-sufficient.

It's important to communicate with your boyfriend about how his comment made you feel and why it bothered you. Let him know if you feel unsupported or if you would prefer him to offer to help you rather than expecting you to learn how to fix things on your own. It's also important to consider if this is a one-time comment or if it's part of a larger pattern of behavior that makes you feel disrespected or undervalued in the relationship.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what you are comfortable with and what you need from your partner in terms of support and encouragement.

[JBlade]

Yes, but I'd word it differently. He most likely meant it's important to have basic repair/management knowledge because someone will not always be able to help you. What if you had a flat and were not able to rely on someone else to help? Cars are expensive machines and the average person treats it like a toy and don't understand how they function lol. Anyways, I don't think he meant it in a mean way, just stating it's good to be informed. I would just talk to him about it.

[Boomchakalaca]

That is understandable of him. It is important to learn how to change the oil and all that, but whats the point of having a boyfriend if he can’t fix a mechanical issue.

[gag37627]

Yep, he sounds like a douch

[MementoMori777]

I wouldn't say that cause I like working on cars but I'd also give it a try to try and see if she wants to learn cause why wouldn't she want to learn is my question? 🤣

[Boomchakalaca]

Id forget in 2 sec.

[MementoMori777]

Nah once you look at the car again, you'll remember the process, it's not difficult, some cats require removing the bumper but no biggie tho

[Redstang88]

That’s a pretty blunt way to put it, but he isn’t totally wrong