I’ve been lying to myself about not loving or wanting a man that I’ve loved for years but fallen out with. I know he’s not good for me and it would be a mistake to be with him. How do I move on from this? I don’t love easily, I’ve only been in love four times. I love very intensely when I do fall in love and it takes me years to lose interest.
You breakup with them, But you probably don't want to really.
Do you?
Not many Girls do because they are still Attracted to those toxic traits.
The fact is every Girl has it least a 60% Chance of getting their Dream Guy depending on how Attractive they are, But they keep choosing the Confident Guy who is obviously more likely break their heart or Cheat etc.
An Attractive Confident Guy still only has about a 40-50% chance of getting his dream Guy that's the 80/20 rule, Girls only finding roughly about 10-20% of Men Attractive.
The fact is even if you did leave him, Your more than likely gonna have the same or worse problem in the future because your still gonna be Attracted to the same type of Guy, Unless you start only dating Shy, But I think a lot of Girls do not really know what a Shy Guy because the have probably never hardly talked to one.
Bang head on the wall saying life stinks 😉😎
You have to acknowledge the feelings that you have in order to know where to look at and consciously make a decision to choose yourself over that person and it's easier said than done but you deserve to 1. be loved the right way and 2. live a good life without this person. As someone going through what you're going through, I've learned that by looking within you realize where you have voids that you need to fill in within yourself.
In my case, this guy did not treat me nearly as well and when I looked within, realized he triggered abandonment wounds and created a need for validation. Hope this helps
If they’re not good for you, you have to invest that energy into something else in order to move on. It’s tough but it’s possible.
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I personally tear myself down a lot when I think about this question. Love is tough , relationships are tough and if your not careful and look after you - you will eventually come undone. Take it from someone that has done this before- it does not pay to be kind to others before your self. Protect your peace and find a way to move on.
Ask yourself does he love you back truly. If the answer is no then he is not your soul mate. Its hard to stop loving someone but when you eventualy stop loving them you ll see them for who they are (a dick who didn't love you back cuz they are too much of a dick to love anyone).
You gotta do something you're not gonna like. Been there, sucked and took longer to do than it should have
I always base my "giving love" logically. Is she a decent person? Do we get along well? Share interests? Why? Because emotions can deceive.
Girl, if you don't get you some therapy... you just said he wasn't no good for you...
Life is too short to be unhappy.
Go no contact.
You won't crave them if you never see them.
Find ways to get over em if they’re not willing to do better
We are not experts so, instead of asking us, you should seek therapy.
You sound like a Capricorn lol
I’m too. I feel I wasted 5 years of my life giving her the benefit of the doubt. Believe me the longer it goes the harder the breakup.
Can you answer on my question?
Just try and forget about them truthfully speaking
Sounds like you just don't have closure
Probably end it in public but not out loud.
Who does not love, I don't care for hin
I’m in the same boat 😞
u that's not love...
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