Can you have a drinking buddy of the opposite gender?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

My colleague, political mate and deputy used to be my drinking gal, but now that she cut back on alcohol - she got worried because she had a fat liver at 34 - we aren't going out socially as much as we did. We still work well together, but it's still difficult to meet up socially because she either talks about limiting my drinking, and cringes or complains if I drink in front of her.

To be clear, it's not like I drink all the time, sometimes I'm not even thinking about it and she just starts to talk about it out of the blue. I admire her efforts to quit, but I can't stand that she decided that I should quit too.

[Anonymous]

One of my male co workers is considered my drinking buddy, we both don't over abuse our limit, I mean I don't care if he does because usually if he's having a bad day I will drink like 1 alcoholic beverage and eat so I can be sober by the time he wants to go home.

Maybe she's worried that something might happen? I mean I'm only saying this because my drinking buddy was completely wasted one night and if I didn't stop him he would have kissed me, but I know he's not into me so I continue to hang out with him. We still drink together as well.

Or it's possible she could be worried about her health and yours as well. It's best to try and talk maybe go to a Cafe or something and talk things through.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

To be honest, if anything happened between us it happened when we were sober, so I think it's mainly because of health concerns.

[Agape93]

Absolutely. If you're one of Us, I trust you implicitly. I'll have 0 issues drinking around you then

[Jamie05rhs]

Probably not. I don't think that's a good idea. (Unless you wouldn't mind having sex with them.)

But I don't think your question is about that? Lol. This seems to be focused more on the alcohol itself rather than the gender.

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Probably I just went of course, yes.
We had a quarrel about it after the evening council, she said my breath smelled of alcohol even though I hadn't drink anything.

[Jamie05rhs]

Oh; I see.

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[Curmudgeon]

You can, but situations like this happen. You should tell her you will cut back a bit, but if you are otherwise in fine shape (no beer gut, etc.) you do not need to quit. Now if you are developing such a gut on the other hand...

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

No beer gut, only my face has swollen a bit.

[Curmudgeon]

Anyway, just take her advice into account, but make it clear that *you* don't need to quit, even if she does. But she might be right about you cutting back a bit as you get older. She can always have her diet pop while you have your rum and whiskey and cola, after all.

[OlderAndWiser]

Hell knows no fury like a reformed alcoholic!

[exitseven]

I used to before I got married. She was really my best friend for a while. She went to grad school in Wshington DC and I never saw her again.

[Jamie05rhs]

@exitseven Did you ever have sex with her?

[exitseven]

@Jamie05rhs no, however we both lost our virginity on the same night.

[Jamie05rhs]

@exitseven How did you know that? 😆

[exitseven]

@Jamie05rhs we used to be able to talk about anything So one day we're hanging out at the beach. She suddenly blurts out that she lost her virginity. So I told her that I did too. The more we talked about it the more we realized that we both did it on the same night.

[Jamie05rhs]

@exitseven Wow. That's crazy. Were you both in relationships with other people? Or were they randoms?

[exitseven]

@Jamie05rhs I just met this girl at a party and never saw her again. She had dated this guy only a few times. He was older and was divorced. I was actually in a long relationship with someone at the time bus sometimes I would get confused about how I felt about her. She would get confused about me too. We never got confused at the same time. Then one day she was just gone

[Jamie05rhs]

@exitseven Sounds like a regrettable situation for all parties on all sides all around. I'm sorry.

[exitseven]

@Jamie05rhs we really used to have a lot of fun together. We would do all sorts of fun stuff.

[magpi_]

There was this punk girl I've always been friends and only friends with. We had drinks and played pool in this dingy smoke-filled club and she was an ace at it.

[KrakenAttackin]

A female drinking buddy will eventually end up as a fuck buddy.

[AngryCarl2]

Yes, you can. Just don't embarrass yourself by catching feelings for her. lol

[Nikki1989]

Of course, I have several.

[Quackthulu2]

Other people can, sure. I can’t.

[NathanDavis]

I can

[Jltakk]

Its alright, I have one.