I have this strong feeling my boyfriend slept with this woman but am I horrible if I accuse?

[Anonymous]

This sounds very immature and ridiculous but I’ve always had such strong gut feelings about my past relationships and they have always been right so I guess it’s a bit of trauma here. I have this STRONG feeling my boyfriend has slept with this older woman, they follow each other on every single social media platform and even tick tock. Writing this just makes me want to cry because I know it’s a big thing when someone follows someone on tick tock. I just feel like a little girl and whenever I mention her to him he tells me I’m immature, childish and acting my age as I’m 21 and he’s 26. I just want to ask him if he’s slept with her but is it wrong of me to accuse? I have no proof at all. It’s just my gut feeling.

[Anonymous]

Do NOT accuse unless you have solid proof. You can’t make that sort of move based off a feeling or your own insecurity, that’s a quick way to destroy the trust in your relationship or destroy the relationship entirely. If you really feel he’s cheated then just leave him so that you can have peace of mind. Don’t go pointing your finger and expect him to be honest. He will deny it and make you at fault for him leaving you.

[Asker]

Yeah I haven’t accused him I have just asked if he’s ever met her because I find it unusual that he follows her on his brand new tick tock acount and goes and likes her old old photos

[Opinion Owner]

Yes that is a bit odd, but at most it is just disrespectful not only to you but to the relationship in general. Me personally I’d leave him, no man is worth my peace of mind and all the anxiety/stress I’d get wondering if he’s cheating. But if you’re gonna stay then help yourself out. Avoid the urge to be checking his page, find a distraction and have faith that if there’s evidence of infidelity then it will find you.

[laraWM]

Be careful because if you're wrong he could be mad, maybe you could try to see if you have some evidence

[Anonymous]

Ok so you mean he slept w her while he was w you? Or before in the past? Even if he did in the past before he started dating you, what are you hoping to get out of this? If he says yes are you going to want him to stop talking to her? You need solid proof, don’t go making accusations. Sounds like you need a little help yourself in talking to someone? A therapist?

[Asker]

Yes I’m trying to let it go now because I have no solid proof I’m just going to let the proof come to me if there is any. I don’t have any proof it’s just the fact he follows her on tick tock when he follows 10 people and it was while we are together. I just had strong gut feelings about my ex and I was right but I chose to ignore it, in the end I found out he was cheating for a year so it’s a bit of trauma for me there

[Opinion Owner]

So let’s say he slept w her before in the past will you break up w him?

[Asker]

No I wouldn’t

[Asker]

But i always tell the truth about my past partners

[Opinion Owner]

So if he told you he slept w her what os that going to do for you? Like what does it do for you emotionally?

[Anonymous]

Its not wrong to accuse him of cheating IF you have proof. So either find proof, or let this go for now.

[Anonymous]

Unless you have some kind of proof it's best not to say anything because what if your gut is wrong

[In_Trance]

you need therapy

[Asker]

True