Why did you break up?

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I want all the sad details of broken heart and past lovers.

Rosexøxø · Accepted Answer

Well, I'm not sad about it anymore XD

It's like this vibe: "Oh, look a fly on the wall!" *points* ... *both turn and stare at the fly, and then finish their conversation from beforehand.* lol

He had reached out to me...

Always happens this way... I'll always be doing MY own damn thing lol and then someone comes along and wants to see if I'm entertaining enough for them.

Turns out, I am quite the entertainer.

He starts speaking to me, noting my maturity or whatever, and he's talking about some really crazy stuff from like the cosmos and spirituality. Mind you, at this time, I'm leaving Christianity behind. That's a given. What I WAS CURIOUS ABOUT. Was if the demonic realm was legit. He's mentioning being "one" with people by staring at their eyes, and I think... what is that.. the um... astral projection... and I'm just interested in this... sexually lol

I'm wondering if Incubus is real, or if he's possessed, and some new sexual frontier will be crossed. XD Turns out none of it's real. I didn't get the answer I wanted, but I could tell his logic was faulty in a good handful of areas.

I still liked his ability to admire my strongest suits. My best foot forward he SEEMED to have noticed. A BIT. Not entirely.

We rushed into chatting off of here (I met him from here. Never again, lol).

Got into a sex call (turns out he was 64 instead of 30-40). I should've stopped there, but his voice was just undeniably attractive and deep.

I was impressed.. like a bird who sees the male bird's feathers or hears his song, or sees his dance.

I thought his elderly look, was at best, adorable. He behaved younger than his age, so applause to him for that, right?

Anyways, things go on to dating. Then a month in, marriage...

It goes back and forth, and we stay on dating, for various reasons.

We got along, though. He was a comedic legend, okay. We laughed a lot together, and he shared very interesting life stories. He was a hero, a good Samaritan, and a self-made man in the business world.

He even had rode bikes, which was my weakness...

Not the old school Harley Davidson- lookin' like a sausage in a hotdog bun about to slip out because the bike is so weird and the jacket is too tight- yk? lol

Anyways. I loved him for his likability. I thought he saw me, and I was dying to know everything about him.

It went south when I noticed things. Realities.

He spent 3 quarters of the day or even a little more. Away. Excuses like phone breakages, phone lending, and work stuff (64).

On calls, the dude would be multitasking. Eating ice cream, looking at collector items, and he started taking ME for granted- telling me the same stories over. Telling me about his day. Failing to ask me about MY dreams.

Almost narcissistic and maybe he didn't see it (he really didn't, no matter how many times I told him), and he probably thought it was okay because he would always make sexual things "all about me," but even that was all him.. lol

I would hear him convey his fantasies to me- in attempts to "turn me on." I simply didn't like that stuff.

One was him pretending he'd fuck me, but it would actually be his friend and he'd watch... lol! CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT?

I was like- oh no, Joe... I'm not getting handed over like a piece of meat. I fuck who I want brotha lol XD

Nasty things. Once he believed I was doing something sensual, by a "dark shadow" he saw on my ceiling, but it was early day, and the ceiling was so far away lol (Oh, boy, I thought. The age or the weird medicine he took the night before is messing with him).

The terrible part is- I would cry, and he would gaslight me - saying stop. "Don't do that. You know, I can't hear you cry."

Then it turned to vocalized anger, and he would argue, I was whatever and "wrong" and I didn't know him, nor could I speak on his behalf... stupid, stupid shit, that I cannot even remember or explain because it's absolutely psychotic.

Maybe this doesn't sound sad.

I'm over it.

But the way it was sad, was my helplessness and only feeling safe when he was speaking to me. Wasted time for that duration, and lost sleep waiting all day for him. (three hour time difference made it worse). Worried he had a heart attack because of his age (he had mentioned he had some kind of pain..).

So this story is done lol and it's a mess, is what it was. He gaslit, lied, manipulated, didn't consider my feelings, downplayed me, and didn't appreciate me compared to his "exotic" life he lived. He didn't need me, in all honesty.

He only (enjoyed my youthfulness), needed my sexual availability- my service without calling it a "favor," but yk what?

HE'S TOO OLD TO SWOON A GIRL lol YOU'RE DONE GRANDPA- ACCEPT THE FACT YOU'RE GONNA DIE, and may you not even take any more girl's affections with you. It'd be a waste.

Call a service, and have your fuck. You lived well. Now give it a damn rest. (He can't even get erect anymore). lol

I was too kind to him. I'd hope he read this. He deserves it XD

(If I tagged, it would get removed).

juene · Accepted Answer

1st ex: He said he can't see me in his future. That he fell out of love.
(Duration: 7 years)

2nd ex (LDR): He said he just used me for validation and he is longing for someone to give him love.
(Duration: 3 months)

🙂💔

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Weren’t compatible , the relationship was one sided , her way or no way , her selfishness shined over everything else , I didn’t feel like a priority to her anymore , she easily excluded me from things but made it clear I couldn’t exclude her , When I expressed my feelings of concern it went on one ear out the other , she only did what was best for her , Intimacy and affection could only be initiated by her , I felt like a convenience so I was drawn to another girl it’s way to make me her convenience so I ended up having sex with the other girl and ended it with my one sided girlfriend

LiamJHayden · Accepted Answer

No broken hearts. We break up because it is not working out for one or both of us. I see no reason to lament something that was not meant to be.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

He thought I was too demanding of his time and I thought he was too passive about showing interest or curiosity about me.

Emelina · Answer

My boyfriend of 1 and a half years broke up with me bc he couldn't handle my 2 teenage kids, and he was nice fir the most part, but he wanted just me not my kids. My teenage kids are extremely polite and never rude towards my ex. And also my ex is the only child, he has never experienced having a brother or sister in his life, so he got spoiled quite a bit and doesn't like sharing. I was heart broken because he had said he loved me, that we were meant to be together for ever, and then to just tell me at the end that he wasn't happy with the relationship for quite a while that just blow me away... he even put my kids and me into his will... which I wasn't expecting nothing from him, only to enjoy the friendship for us to keep building up into more love into our relationship. So I my friends took me out to dinner then to the pub for drinks... I cried and laugh throughout the night, then I met a guy that I think he thought I was insane telling him about my dog, and he has a dog too... it was sooo stupid... but I am slowly getting over my ex, he actually just email me saying he wants me to out of the loan that he sign with me last year... and now that we're nit together its going to be tricky to get him out, he wants to remortgage his house but he can't as the loan is getting in the way. Well, I wasn't the one who broke up it was him, sooo I am not going to worry to much about it, he knew the consequences of doing a loan with my vehicle. It's been 6 months now since we broke up. Cheers.

Justmeagain1 · Answer

Because we can’t communicate properly which in turn lead to lack of sex , personal worth then went down the shitter , then he found faults in me that were bigger then his ability to see the value of our relationship, treated me like crap and then I said I want to leave even though I didn’t really I just wanted to be seen and loved.

jamesgoldman · Answer

They moved away one for university and the other to Poland

Sparkie460 · Answer

Things just didn't work out between us. We weren't completely compatible together

jujus · Answer

Said she needed some time to think I had to find out myself she had been talking to a guy

LavLavLuv · Answer

He cheated with my highschool chairmate 😊

glennos89 · Answer

How much do you pay for it?

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