When does marriage start to suck? and what's the first shoe to drop?

[Anonymous]

On the honeymoon

After the first year

After the second year

After year 4 or 5

Between years 7-10

Between years 10 and 15

never it's always a joy

[Finchie40]

When the spark starts to fade and the passion for each other fades away you just become room mates , the passion for each other is barely there , intimacy and affection is no longer a priority and the relationship becomes one sided , there isn’t really a time limit, so it can happen at anytime , if you both can’t reignite that spark or passion then your marriage is pretty much doomed , that’s usually when affairs start to happen cuz they meet someone that ignites the passion again that makes them feel better about themselves , if one partner is constantly giving without receiving they are more than likely going to end the relationship or end up cheating on their partner, For any relationship to survive and for love to grow you both have to make each other
Your top priority , understand you can’t always be right and they are wrong , understand you are no longer single , your partner needs to be top priority over everyone or your relationship will not survive , Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers , if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner, they will not be able to remove it for you , if your partner does not like some of
Your friends, you are best to distance yourself from those friends and stand by your partner’s side , Most people don’t grasp this concept and then they wonder why they keep continuing to have failed relationships, you can’t expect your partner to do for you, if you can’t do for them period , you both need to wear each other’s shoes before making decisions , Just because you might think something is ok , it might not be ok to your partner and that’s where so many people go wrong , you can’t expect someone to commit to you, if you clearly can’t commit to them period. When a girl starts prioritizing her friends over me she is best to just stay with her friends especially if she pulled me away from some of
My friends as well to appease her , because I will start prioritizing my friends and kick her to the curb where she belongs , I am not a wind up toy for her to play with when it’s convenient for her , if she isn’t giving me what she expects me to give to her , she is no longer important to me , her selfish decisions is what pushes me away from her to the point I don’t even know who she is anymore , in my eyes she is already cheating on the relationship, so she my as well be physically cheating as well , her selfish actions is cheating on the relationship she chose to be in , Why it’s important to set boundaries with your partner , and that means follow them as well or it becomes a double standard. Never use intimacy and affection as a weapon to get your way , if you deny your partner constantly and reject their advances you best be prepared for the grave you just dug yourself cuz you are clearly a selfish person period

[Miristheiss]

It starts to go down the moment one of both parties stop trying and follow routines. The moment they think "I've won them and gotten their commitment I can stop putting in all that effort I did during the courting phase when I was trying to land them"

If the couple takes that approach, they stop courting, stop dating, stop going out and having new experiences, stop having deep talks, stop trying to look nice and sexy for each other, they just go to work and come home and veg on the couch and gain 35 pounds, look like slobs and take each other for granted.

Couples that keep courting after marriage tend to keep the spark and closeness indefinitely.

[Anemone978]

Around 6 years they just stop caring and acting like a dick lol

[Apple1996]

It should never suck if you married the right person

[Nikki1989]

Over 6 years and happier than ever here, so I can't give you a negative answer to this.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Marriage Starts To Suck The Second You Say I Do! Marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done your house is gone. With marriage it’s all about the three rings. Engagement ring, wedding ring & suffering.

[Lliam]

My wife and I have been married for almost 26 years. It never did start to suck. We're as happy as we've ever been.

[humanearth]

I agree, me and my misses we will hit 31 years this August

[humanearth]

Look I been with the same woman for 30 years and I truly love the motherfucking shit out of her

[humanearth]

It's a crapshooter game, you don't know their the one till it happens to you

[richardcory]

Some people stay married their whole lives, others it falls apart very soon. Lots of different situations

[Flower7]

Most relationships seem to suck even before marriage.

[LiamJHayden]

It depends upon the couple. Some regret it before saying the vows and only go through with it because the people are already there. Others look like they are still honeymooning decades later.

[BlackJeep]

At the 20 year mark I honestly didn't know the person I married anymore. She completely changed and started acting like a teenager.

[Sasha0426]

If your marriage starts to suck, then something ain’t right. Many people have been married for all their lives until they die.

[shades777]

I imagine it starts to suck when she stops sucking

[EVERYONEDIED]

marriage some toy