Do you think people who say they aren't ready to settle down would settle down if the right person suddenly appeared?

[coachTanthony]

BONUS QUESTION: How many times have you ended it with someone who said they weren't ready to settle down but see them engaged 6 months later?

[razelove]

Most definitely. I had about 3 relationships when I was saying "it's casual only" and being all emo like after my first marriage. I fully had that intention, but met some engaging women who just caught me like a boot gets a fish hook, kind of interrupts the catch and release program...

Anyway, it didn't cause any regret or make me feel like a hypocrite, rather I enjoyed it for as long as it lasted. Every relationship is a chance meeting. You never know what will last 10 hours, or what will last 10 years.

[Adam1978]

I wouldn't count on it. It takes maturity to settle down. You just don't get that by meeting someone. You need to be willing to settle down already but not just with that specific person for that to happen. So it must be a partner issue or a maturity issue.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Absolutely! That's why I roll my eyes when I hear someone say that: it's just a polite way to reject people they don't like or aren't serious about. But the moment they find someone they want? Oh look, they hear wedding bells! 🙄

If they like someone enough, they do what it takes to prove his or her worth, or commit to said person.

[coachTanthony]

It’s crazy for sure

[TenderFantasy]

And it's sad how the reason for the rejection could be as simple as maybe a mole they don't like on your face! There are people like that, believe me! Haha.

[sage2021]

@TenderFantasy
I laughed at your opinion 🤭 because it is so very true. They will kick a someone to the curb for simply having a piece of parsley stuck in their eye tooth and they have to look at that eyesore.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

The answer is already kinda in your question. Usually if someone says they’re not ready to settle down, they’re REALLY saying they’re not ready to settle down with you… So yes, if they find someone they do want to settle down work, they will…

[coachTanthony]

Too bad they aren’t specific 😂

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

I don’t know why people can’t just be honest and upfront “I really like you but I don’t think we’d be right together long term” it’s really not that hard🤦🏼‍♀️🤷‍♀️ no they’ll say they don’t want to hurt someone but making excuses or lying or playing games with people hurts far more than the simple honest truth🤷‍♀️

[coachTanthony]

Yup exactly

[TenderFantasy]

Amen. They are already assuming that you cannot handle the truth or they are THAT good of a catch that the word NO from them would devastate you to no end. It's funny in a way.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@TenderFantasy right! LOL I hate when people say can’t handle the truth 1- how the help would they know if they don’t tell you the truth what you can handle or not? And 2- they aren’t worried about if you can handle the truth or not, it’s more they don’t want to deal with the possible consequences of telling the truth…

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Thanks for mh

[jennifer_bloom]

I think everyone has somebody they would be willing to settle down and commit to. But it's a fact that not everybody is fit for a relationship. Abusers are better off single.

[Biancam13]

In general, yes. I used to use this phrase and at times I actually believed it myself. I used to say “I like being single. I’m not looking for anything, I just want to find myself and don’t want to date right now.” But it wasn’t true… I was in denial, because deep down if someone who was AMAZING came along who I liked being around enough, I would’ve committed to them. I just wouldn’t be able to pass up the opportunity. If they make my life better by being in it, and if being with them beats being single, then it would be impossible to resist being with them!

[sage2021]

Yes I do, because I have seen it happen.
He finds a nice kinda gal to have only for sex (but she doesn't know it), see's her enough to get her to think he might ask her to be his girlfriend. She's thinking if I just wait longer, we will be a couple.
Then he starts saying how he doesn't want a girlfriend, he doesn't want a commitment, etc.
But they still see each other enough for her to think he will change his mind and I'll be his girlfriend someday.
Then he goes to Las Vegas for a few days. He meets this chick with real big boobs and is good looking. They get married right away in Las Vegas.
He goes back home and takes his new wife with him.
Somehow the girl he said he doesn't want a commitment with anyone finds out he married some chick that he met in Las Vegas after only knowing her for a few days.
This breaks her heart and she is a mess. She can't get over him. What happened to her is probably not common, but it does happen.

[anon1903]

Haha no. Not true for me. Sometimes the timing is off, sometimes you aren't mentally prepared for a future together, sometimes you got zero money.

Settling down in this society comes with all kinds of pressure. You've gotta sacrifice A FKING LOT. People expect you to start popping kids right away.

It's ridiculous.

[nastyb]

most people settle down when they hit a certain age, not when they meet their perfect soulmate. if everyone were to wait for their perfect soulmate. nobody would be starting families while they are young.

[RobT312]

Yeah I do. I’d always say that, then the right person came around and she moved in within a year and I was pretty much settled

[Anonymous]

No. I've said many times that most women today simply do not want a relationship. And even if a guy appeared that checked every possible box. She's just creat a new list of boxes. Most women today want a fan base they can call on when they want and demote them when they want. And if you a guy with skills to be called up every now and then there's no problem.

[TenderFantasy]

I don't know, I don't know too many people, but yeah, I think maybe there could be a chance. I don't really care though honestly. It's their and their partner's life, not mine.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i think most dont settle because they dont feel fulfilled/satisfied by the people they choose to go out with

[legalboxers]

without a doubt. Im a picky SOB and If she is there.. I got my tux ready. Lets Do This!

[coachTanthony]

LOL.

[DermalPunch]

It always means with the right person. To some extent men need to have their mo ey in order but not really.

[itsalyssaagain]

Yes I do. We’d say we aren’t ready cause we hadn’t met someone worth changing our minds.

[Nikki1989]

Of course, they would. That is something that should never be taken seriously.

[Sparkie460]

Yes I do. I didn't think I was really ready to settle down. I thought I was too young to settle down. I met the right woman and I knew it was time

[linka_pat307]

They will definitely, everyone is supposed to settle down one day

[Christoff92]

Depending on the time and place and how honest that person is 😊

[Luopio27]

Sounds about right for me and others but no, not for all.

[LiamJHayden]

Probably. I talk down marriage, mostly from working on divorce cases, but if a girl with similar likes and assets came along and we fired on all cylinders, then... no, not even then for me, but probably for others.

[Jamie05rhs]

They might. But then they'd probably divorce them. I think people who say they aren't ready to settle down are telling the truth.

[Kingofkings1992]

Who cares? I’m not even slightly concerned with what other people do with their lives.

[Twalli]

Never ended it

[msc545]

Possibly.