In your opinion, what is the biggest reason someone cheats?

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DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So, for me, people like to feel appreciated and validated. So when they do not get that from their significant other, they feel this need to get it from somewhere else.

A cheater is a cheater... there is no rhyme or reason to it. I will not validate or justify someone cheating. I never cheated, but my marriage was terrible... I suffered a lot through it all. I never felt appreciated or validated, as a person not from my ex-wife.

I never cheated, but parts me now believes if I could back to those times, I would of have if given the same opportunities again. But then again, if I could go back and do it all over again, I would have divorced a decade or more before I would of have come to the cheating.

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

Because they're a shitty person.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I think in most cases they feel something is missing. Maybe his wife is beautiful but something is not connecting in the relationship and he feels like there is a void. I don't believe people who feel fully connected cheat.

AviatorTom · Answer

Opportunity. They get in a situation where sex with another is an easy option, and they cheat without thinking of the consequences.

An example opportunity could be an attractive co-worker, or an attractive member if the opposite sex one meets while on a business trip.

I really don't think most cheating is planned... it just happens... because the opportunity ( msybe we should call it temptation) presents itself.

Chikky · Answer

Some for selfish reasons, others because they're not being appreciated the way they wanted

OlderAndWiser · Answer

People cheat because they have a character defect.

Walt832 · Answer

I want to say something is missing.

One can be financially stable but the other offer love and affection.

Example business man can offer her anything as materialistic. He is always missing at home. She needs to feel she is a 👠 woman. Being taken care if y'all know what I mean. She may seek a buddy call.

Or another Example, ( i know a rich family), both have great careers but wife seems to be way too dramatic. Always, always wants something different as easy changing your clothes throughout the day. Husband, always says "okay" his face says it all, being exhausted. He just want to arrive work not hear 🙉 anything mainly a complaint. Let's cut to the chase.

Sex part may have sex with wifey but he doesn't feel like when they used to know each other. Proceeds because he is tied to her. Well, guess what at work, he may find a coworker that is similar to first example. Walla!!! Both come across and they tend to have a connection. They both hit it straight to motels with cash 🤷‍♂️ or at work.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

From my experience, it's attention on the female side of things and it's pure lust on the male side of things.

Like chicks that just love getting talked to by guys... so much that they let it go on and hide away with their cellphones... she thinks she can control it and just enjoy the attention, but eventually, it gets into more than just getting flirted with.

When it comes to dudes... I imagine it's a lot like the situations I step into. I start getting a chick making it obvious that she's open for business and she'll bug the shit out of me. Sometimes it's the chick just trying to make it happen. She'll find some shit that we relate to and then tries to move it further from there. I think that's why I've learned to just shut my fucking mouth around a woman that obviously wants to sleep with me. If you talk to much, she'll use that like a foot in the door. Now that I'm thinking about it, it's probably the same for chicks. They talk too much and then the guy gets ammo to keep the talking going.

BadApple69 · Answer

Let’s start off with biology and the primitive part of our brain. Primitive woman brain: Women want a husband that’s a good provider and dependable, but she wants her offspring to be strong enough to survive. That dependable guy probably isn’t the biggest and strongest. So she might go look for that big and strong guy to mate while having Mr. Dependable at home.
Primitive male brain: it’s in his genes to stress his seed around to as many women as possible. Men have to put a lot less thought into it then women.

Now those forces that drove primitive men and women are still in our brains today. We all need to fight urges to have sex with others when we are in a relationship. Sometimes we win, sometimes the urges do.

Now in modern times there is a plethora of reasons to cheat… one partner doesn’t like sex (I lived through this). One partner is never home (work, school or other activities). Then there are temptations that sometimes are so strong it’s impossible to resist.
I see a lot of people say that people who cheat are scum… I don’t believe that. I believe they are weak and they are human. We have too many forces against us… only the strong can totally resist.

Just my thoughts… I could be wrong!

Yuvan_indian021 · Answer

The reasons why someone may choose to cheat in a relationship can vary greatly from person to person. It is important to remember that cheating is a complex issue, and there is no one-size-fits-all explanation. However, some common factors that may contribute to infidelity include:

1. Dissatisfaction in the current relationship: If a person feels unfulfilled or unsatisfied in their relationship, they may seek emotional or physical intimacy outside of it.

2. Lack of communication and emotional connection: When partners do not effectively communicate their needs, desires, or concerns, it can create a sense of emotional distance, which may lead someone to seek validation or connection elsewhere.

3. Opportunity and temptation: Being in close proximity to someone who is attractive or experiencing a new and exciting environment can create opportunities for infidelity. Temptation can be difficult to resist for some individuals.

4. Personal issues or unresolved emotional baggage: Individual struggles such as low self-esteem, unresolved trauma, or a history of infidelity can contribute to a person's decision to cheat.

5. Lack of commitment: Some individuals may not have a strong commitment to monogamy or may have different expectations and beliefs about fidelity in relationships.

6. Revenge or retaliation: In some cases, a person may cheat as a form of retaliation for a perceived or actual betrayal by their partner.

It is important to note that these reasons do not excuse or justify cheating. Infidelity can be deeply hurtful and damaging to relationships, and it is always recommended to address issues within the relationship through open and honest communication or seeking professional help if needed.

Anonymous · Answer

For me it was because there was no intimacy at home. When we went to he'd she just rolled over and faced the other way. She accepted by advances and when she was satisfied I was left to either try fall asleep frustrated or sort myself out. There was zero casual touching or nudity which made the relationship feel more like a friendship. I had mentioned my feelings several times but nothing ever changed. I never physically cheated by sleeping with anyone else but I did end up joining kink sites where I flirted and exchanged pictures and videos with other women for some kind of excitement

ariadneR · Answer

People not communicating what they want from the get go.

Person A, wants commitment, trust, honesty etc

Person B, wants something casual, no strings attached.

Because the conversation starts off with "hi""hey""I like you" "I like you too" "wanna fuck and hang out all the time" "sure" only one side is happy.

If you make your intentions clear from the beginning of the relationship, you know what you are getting into at the beginning and you can choose if you want to go through with it or not.

Obviously your wants and needs can change throughout the relationship, so you still sit down and bring it up, talk to each other.

Enlightenme21 · Answer

Lacking in emotional intelligence; low self-esteem; low self respect; lacking awareness.

When they say its not about the person they cheated on it's true, doesn't mean it isn't traumatic for the person they cheated.

Cheating is a choice just like anything we choose and its our lack of understanding ourselves and meeting our own needs that contribute to feeling neglected creating the idea that what we lack we should take from others.

The reason I say this is due to the choice of one partner staying with someone expressing and sharing needs while the other person does not participate in being present in a relationship or the person having a participating partner while feeling indifferent still stays and doesn't seek self love to figure out the self issues causing the separation of feelings.

So to be more direct the biggest reason why people cheat is due to low emotional intelligence.

Finchie40 · Answer

Because they are selfish and only really care about themselves and what is best for them, they see no wrong in themselves , they always feel they are right , if they don’t get their way in the relationship they seek someone else to fulfill them , thinking that other person is going to save them. Making excuses for their actions instead of pointing fingers at themselves

smølf · Answer

In my opinion, the biggest reason someone cheats will vary depending on the individuals and their circumstances. However, the two sexes have different reasons.

One possible reason why women cheats is the desire for emotional connection. If they feel emotionally neglected, ignored, unfulfilled or wants validated, they may seek emotional connection elsewhere. This lead to forming a emotional bond with someone else, and eventually lead to infidelity.

For men, the main reason is often associated with sexual satisfaction. Men are generally more focused on physical intimacy and sexual gratification in their relationships. If they feel unsatisfied or unfulfilled in their current sexual relationship, they may be more prone to seeking sexual fulfilment outside of their committed relationship. This could be driven by a variety of factors, including sexual compatibility issues, lack of sexual variety, or a decline in sexual frequency etc.

Bricealan · Answer

I have had several affairs with married and 'attached' women... and from my experience, they are either bored with their current marriage/relationship, or the marriage/relationship has been failing for some time. Many reasons for it, but difficult to nail down a BIGGEST reason... That's the best answer I can give you 'Coach.

True_Music48 · Answer

People cheat cause they like another person better and the person they’re cheating on doesn’t offer enough whether it’s fun or sex. When the person they’re with isn’t enough and the other person is more it makes sense to cheat. The better thing to do is dump the person they’re with before they get with someone else

Anonymous · Answer

Anyone that cheats is just not a good person in general. And if they somehow are a good person they definitely are not when it comes to relationships. Now for the people that say it's because they are not getting what they want out of their relationship. You need help. There is something called breaking up. You should never cheat on someone even if they are mean to you. Literally if someone is rude or not giving you what you need in a relationship just leave it's not that hard and if you can't bring yourself to do that then clearly you still like them and shouldn't be cheating in the first place. Cheating is wrong on so many levels and I will always stand by that

Billlewis · Answer

I think for women, it's the need for attention and sexual pleasure. For guys, it's more of an opportunity to have sex with another woman and put another notch in his belt.

richardcory · Answer

I think the most common is that they are missing something in their relationship that they want / need to be happy. It could be sex, but doesn't need to be - it might just be the excitement that comes with a new relationship.

Emelina · Answer

From my experience, usually is all about one thing that is missing in the relationship that the partner wants, and its not being met within the relationship their in; so they seek it elsewhere and that's how someone starts cheating, instead of sorting things out.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

I think the BIGGEST reason is dissatisfaction. Every single person has needs. When those needs aren't met, people tend to have the urge to seek it out. Suddenly you find something/ someone that offers that need, thus temptation. That temptation becomes so overwhelming that you break in order to feel that adrenaline, the feeling of that need being fulfilled.

Do not mistake my thoughts as a defense on the matter.

lally97 · Answer

It’s about attraction. Once you’re in a relationship you feel as if you’ve won the other person, there’s no Persuit of love attention and affection.

This makes the relationship boring and predictable. Also confidence and self esteem issues are big hare as it’s soo heartbreaking to see people who’ve been cheated on take them back

In the cheaters mind they need this stimulation and get it through another person, a new adventure. But in the long run, that cheater will be empty, they need someone else when in reality all they need is themselves.

There could also be the element that the person just wanted to have lots of sex with different people which we all have free will soo i won’t say if this is wrong or right. But getting sex under the false pretences of a committed relationship? I’m not a judge but I think everyone would agree that is wrong.

therealricksanchez · Answer

For the pleasure of it. Of course there can be several reasons, but fidelity is not hardwired in human's minds, and seeking sexual interaction is instinctive. The concepts of fidelity and monogamy are moral and cultural, not a phisiological fact. Now, of course other reasons for cheating can be dissatisfaction in your current relationship, not feeling loved or appreciated, your own psychological issues, etc.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Because their primary relationship is so shitty. People who are in love and have good sex lives very rarely cheat.

Tina19 · Answer

They are bored  Looking for new excitement  Also these becomes a habit and they keep on doing the same in every relationship since they get bored every time

strateguy632 · Answer

women because the opportunity came along and got turned on. Men because in their relationship, she said "not now i tired or headache" so while waiting for grilfriend goes out temporarily.

Kinkyhubby · Answer

There can be many reason. The person doesn't feel wanted or connected anymore, either sexually, physically or mentally. Maybe their spouse became asexual, and not big on sex. Some people just have a n ego, even if the home life is well, will do it for the fun

Anonymous · Answer

To me people cheat because they don’t feel loved and appreciated so they go ahead and look for that somewhere else by going out and cheating on their significant other. I honestly think that they should end things with their significant other instead of going out and cheating on them because regardless of the circumstances that’s just not right.

Spade_01 · Answer

Heat of the moment; temptations and/or dissatisfaction (emotional or physical) from the relationship.

RobT312 · Answer

Relationship problems…either sexually, personality, or both

TheorionMage · Answer

Mediocrity and the pitfalls of 'routine'... no one likes to be 'taken for granted' or to BE 'just enough'

Faith18letsgo · Answer

Humans aren’t wired for monogamy so it’s kind of against our nature to be. (Don’t get me wrong I’ve never cheated.) but half of my relationships have been open ones because I start to panic in exclusive ones.

definitelyNotHer · Answer

Because the person who cheated has low self esteem and needs that ego boost. There is no reason to cheat, if you're in a relationship with someone you stay loyal or break up. People who cheat are insecure assholes who need to grow up.

silvermoon84 · Answer

Because they lack self control. If you’re that unhappy where you strat cheating just do your boyfriend/girlfriend and yourself a huge favor and leave the relationship

Justmeagain1 · Answer

They are not getting needs met on some level or they are a serial offender. I can’t really pin point it

Beatrix7 · Answer

cause they like diffrent fks with people or there's arguments to much or they are just plain out a cheating basterd for no reason just want diffrent pussy or cock to greedy nd dont respect there lover

riverrat3 · Answer

when i was younger i was with some married ladies, my requirement was that they had no plans to leave him. it was just sex no romance. their most common reason for being there was to try something that their husband would not try, they just wanted to experiment

Sal77777 · Answer

I can't speak for others but for me I think it's because their partner doesn't give them the care or attention they deserve but after all I see that whoever cheats is a piece of shit, the least you can do is break up with your partner before it reaches cheating

EricSummer · Answer

The most common reason is that the passion is gone from a long-term relationship, but it is still not convenient to break up, for example due to common children or financial dependency.

Sexiestjohnson · Answer

Who knows why another person does what they do.
I don't cheat, I'm more like the Solomon in the Songs of Solomon. Having myriads of concubines, queens and wives and yet having a special baby who knows none of the rest matters like she does.

In_Trance · Answer

Not getting what they want and/or need from their current relationship

worldscolide · Answer

Because they can.. Because they don't love the person they are with..

OddBeMe · Answer

Personality. They like the rush, the secrecy, etc. Few do it because of lack of sex in relationships, etc.

BigManSAB · Answer

I was constantly cheating on my ex because she was always flirtatious with other men and never wanted sex

RavVid · Answer

Probably boredom. It is inevitable that after years of sex it becomes pedestrian. Even if you buy a chandelier that will be pedestrian after some time.

Singing_Hollow · Answer

People normally cheat when their needs are not met. Emotional needs, physical needs and respect.

ChattyGuy43 · Answer

Lack of sex Attraction to someone of the opposite sex or same sex growing apart and dont have anything in common with that person so that look for someone else like them with same interests.

Anonymous · Answer

Men because the opportunity came along. Women because they are unhappy in their relationship and are looking for a new partner.

joenelson · Answer

We, human beings always want something that is updated and a better version. It was earlier limited to materialistic things

asphaltrhymes · Answer

Boredom, or someone else in the relationship cheated first. Or growing apart/changing of minds. 😐👍👀😬

MarkHrdman · Answer

Because its to late to take back the actions made for her to recipricate out of guilt & in most cases she enjoys it better.

onezipp · Answer

Because they want to!!! I would say they are not being fulfilled at home and they always had the desire to cheat anyway. That's who they are, because before you cheat you have several opportunities to stop the action.

Jazzy54 · Answer

There are a multitude of reasons. Problems in the relationship, stress with work or family life, the opportunity presents itself, boredom, etc.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Lack of appreciation and alienation of affection.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I don’t know… For me, it’s hard to understand.

Adam1978 · Answer

That you picked a none committed partner. So you aren't special just another person.

nolabels · Answer

I'm thinking that loneliness is the main reason. Just my thought.

NeedsFriendsTbh · Answer

I cheated once and I don't know I feel bad about it but the guy I was dating at the time had been ignoring me for days and… tbh, I didn’t like him that much anyways… didn’t hurt that the guy I cheated with was like 1.5 times my boyfriends size 💀😜

Phoenix98 · Answer

For men it's physical and for women it's usually emotional.

Andres77 · Answer

Reason, not excuse. dick = means. pussy = motive. what’s missing? Opportunity.

PointTaken · Answer

Lack or denial of sex for a while. Or, like an ex girlfriend, he/she just likes different people to have sex with.

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