How can I tell if he's cheating on me (emotionally ) ?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of nearly two years started hiding his last seen on whatsapp recently. We don't use it much to communicate but I sometimes check his last seen because tbh I have anixiety and worry if he's cheating on me now I didn't find anything suspicious he opens WA like twice in 3 days he's not that active but now that he hid his last seen I'm starting to be worried... could it be to hide the fact that he's in contact with another woman? He started working in a new place and his character seems to be changed a bit he wants to show off a lot more he's not used to this I don't know... I gave you all the details and I'm looking for an answer how can I find out if he's interested in some coworker?

[BadApple69]

Here is a question for you…. What are you going to do if he is emotionally cheating? Dump him or try to win him back? So many girls worry if their man is unfaithful, they search phones and computers to see if they can find proof they are cheating. The lack of trust isn’t a good way to make a relationship stronger. If your answer to the question above is “try to win him back” then do that now. Put your best foot forward and show him that chasing anyone else isn’t worth it. If your answer is dump him then you might as well do that now because no matter if he is guilty or innocent you already don’t trust him. That lack of trust will destroy things in the end.

[Adam1978]

You are the problem there is no such thing as emotionally cheating and you are breaking his trust by checking his phone. If you are failing emotionally you clearly don't give him the attention and physical touch he needs. So instead of worry about something make it less likely by being a better girlfriend.

[Singing_Hollow]

There is something called emotional cheating, it happens before physical cheating. Thats flirting, doing or saying things you know will hurt your partner or secretly meeting up with them without your partner knowing. Your advice is wrong, she clearly has some things to work through and it normally stems from past hurt and trauma. She will get there you dont have to make her feel worse by making such comments about her not being a better girlfriend, you arnt in her shoes or her bfs.

[Adam1978]

No that is just being an ashole. It's not cheating. It certainly a sign that the relationship is bad. Which means fix it or leave. To fix it you need to understand why it became bad. Her hurt a trauma is her personal problem and can't be blamed on him. So my advice is valid. Your disregard is not. You never get anywhere by blaming others, you do it by taking responsibility of the situation and what you can do about it.

[Singing_Hollow]

She isn't blaming him. She just has to work through things and if he loved her he would help her work through her issues. You dont just walk away from someone when they are dealing with things. AND yes it is called Emotional cheating, look it up. what you are being is the definition of 'asshole'. How you approached this issue is breaking her down more, she needs to be built up so she doesn't have insecurities. She should trust him as she has no valid proof and should work on herself I agree as my previous message to her was but what you are doing isn't giving her advice on how to over come her fears but rather blaming her for having them when its clear that some other jerk was the one who caused her to have distrust in the first place.

[Adam1978]

First step is always accepting responsibility. That means seeing your own faults. You can't fix or heal yourself without it. So you can't skip that step. If you do you will destroy the relationship. So pointing on her faults is the right thing to do. It's not breaking her down it's illuminating the issues. Monitoring a person is more proof of personal distrust then cheating of the partner. One of them is always true the other isn't.

[Singing_Hollow]

Yes I agree with you 100% she should work on herself outside of the relationship and not allow it to effect what she has now. Its a hard road, because she has to do this on her own but she can and she is able. If she loves him and what they have is enough she will fight to be better and grow in herself and he will notice this and appreciate her for trying to be a better person.

[Anemone978]

Don't ruin your relationship by letting your anxiety get the better of you. It turns guys off and will make them leave you. Focus on yourself and not your boyfriend, it will help keep you calm. This is why I am glad I will never fall in love again because I acted like an idiot and didn't know how to control my feelings and lost the love of my life.

[Paris13]

A woman Knows her Own Man and his Behavior. You have Every Right to be Concerned with this. I am Assuming He Has met Someone at Work and is Using Now, WA. Keep an Out Eye Out. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. xxoo

[Singing_Hollow]

you're going to overwhelm yourself with over thinking. There can be a million reasons why he is on unseen now. there's bigger signs than that if he was cheating. Your insecurities are getting to you now and i know the feeling, trust me I have been there so many times but you need to trust him or he will pull away and i have learned that having your partner not trust you when you have done nothing wrong is more hurtful to a relationship. Dont overthink things, if he was cheating you would know.

[gotrice]

Logically, If he rarely used WhatsApp and all of a sudden now hides his status, chances are he's hiding the fact that he's on there, but communicating with someone else for an extended period of time. Bring it up to him discreetly, but at 2 years into a relationship, you should be able to ask him why he has his status disabled and receive a mature answer.

[Anonymous]

Okay, so what do we know. You constantly spy through his stuff. Anxiety is your excuse for that. Suddenly he becomes more private, this is a problem because it makes it harder to spy on him. And I getting everything so far?

[BoopBoopBeep]

If he's hiding he's cheating. I have a work wife. My S. O. knows about her. She has a work husband. We all talk. We have no secrets.

[Staximus]

Why would he be using whatsapp instead of calling or texting unless he's trying to hide something, or talking to people out of country, or he's a bum that can't pay his phone bill?

[Anonymous]

Most men already are. They chat with girls online and watch porn. That is why I only engage in open relationships. Anything beyond that is just setting yourself up to be hurt.

[Manuel2]

How he controls you. He is doing the Tate effect on you and you can do better.

[mommymommymommy]

I didn't know you could "emotionally" cheat