I’m with this guy. It’s been about 7 months now. He hasn’t put a label on anything OFFICIALY but he’s said I’m his girlfriend but he hasn’t asked me officialy. I was really distant with him for a while at the start due to my friends telling me that he abused his ex’s and put them in hospital, I’m starting to also believe that’s true I have no proof but the way he can be with me is very concerning.
I don’t know what’s wrong with me because I feel like I love him but I don’t know if it’s because I’m carrying his baby. I’m 4 months pregnant I don’t look it or feel it but my emotions just can’t let me let go off him. He always says how much he loves me and stuff but today my cousin ( they are best friends ) warned me and said he sleeps around loads and he’s been with over 100 women? And I just don’t think people like that tend to change much?
The past few nights he’s been standing me up, he will tell me he’s busy and I believe it because that’s what I WANT to believe. But he’s stood me up loads he won’t answer the phone, is this not signs he’s seeing another woman?
He also told me that he’s been spending time with my cousin till late hours But my cousin told me that this isn’t the case? Unless I’m misunderstanding the situation.
My cousin told me he’s just been with his girlfriend meaning I don’t have any clue where he has been? today I’ve called him twice, no answer, he ALWAYS answers. He also was meant to take me out last week and didn’t he stood me up his phone was off and this has been happening at least 3 times recently. I just thought he is busy but after my cousin told me this I’m confused.
But he tells me he loves me so I don’t know if he even means it? Is this signs of cheating. I had a situation EXACTLY like this before and he was cheating but I can’t really say as they’re different people.
Im so sad because I know I sound ridiculous but he’s my child’s father and I have this strong attatchment to him.
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OMG. You got pregnant after being in whatever with a person that you have known for seven months, possible abuser, and not even living together. Now you are stuck with F-Boy for the rest of your life because he is your baby daddy. You hold a candle for him so when you finally move on to the next relationship, if you find one that is hopefully good, you most likely ruin it by cheating on them with this loser. This is a combination of all the things that you should never had done. He said a few things to get your panties drop and they did.
Consider adoption. Definitely cut him 100%. I mean if he says hello, you file a restraining order. File for child support and have a third party like a family member deal with child exchange which I doubt he would be interested in and utilize a parenting app for communication. You are just a sex toy for him, nothing more or less. Don't date or sleep with anyone after him until you get your life together. Definitely get some therapy to deal with. Starting from why in all that is holly A) You slept with this guy. B) Protection + birth control wasn't used. C) Still chasing an abusing F-Boy. These are things if you don't fix immediately you will find yourself with four kids, a couple abortions, a couple of baby daddies, and single. Whatever you do, get a double and triple opinions from family and friends before you even date or sleep with the next person. Protection + birth control at all times until they put a ring on it. You will automatically have an issue with protection if you are with the next person "why the loser hit it raw but I can't logic". So make sure you get an STD test if you give in which I don't think you should ever do that and definitely not if you are not living together. I can't stress this out enough. He is just sleeping with you because he can and he is not in a relationship with you or interested in one.
Something seems to be definitely up with your guy. If he has a baby on the way and he's in no way showing up as a future father, it's anyway a red flag. I'd suggest just you prioritise your safety and mental health. I hope you are employed, if not, make sure you have some financial backing or support system that you can fall back on.
In case you find out he's cheating, don't stay, that's all. If his actions show any real commitment, put him on probation. But keep your options open and do what's right for you and your baby's future.
Unfortunately having a nany with him his presence will always be stuck with you. But I also think your wasting your time with him. Pretty clear he doesn't take responsibility for anything