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Signs of cheating in a long distance relationship?
Anonymous
(36-45) 
3.2K opinions shared on Relationships topic. "Signs of cheating in a long distance relationship?"
Has it been over 90 days? If "yes", then one or both of you will start to "check out" of the relationship.
Has it been over 180 days? If "yes", then one or both of you will start looking for comfort elsewhere, even if you tell yourself "I just need someone to talk to" at first.
Very simply, LDRs almost never work, and most start falling apart around the 90 day mark. Relationships are about SPENDING TIME TOGETHER and if you can't do that, your brain figures out that there is no reward for all the effort you are making, and it starts to take over and starts redirecting your interests.
Only the most extraordinarily dedicated people, willing to sacrifice their own needs almost indefinitely, can sustain a LDR. 98% of people simply can't do it, and to expect people to do it is about the same as expecting them to be able to levitate. It's completely unrealistic.
Break up. If you like, you can agree that, IF you move back to the same area at some point in the future, and you are both single, that you'll try dating again - but do NOT put your love life on hold hoping - proceed as if you're broken up for good and live your life. If you were meant to be together, it will happen, and if it doesn't, then it was never meant to be.
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Generally speaking it is hard to tell, but some warning signs could be or similar to the following:
He starts being nicer to you over and above what he normal does. Typically this is a sign of cheating, because he’s trying to compensate back to you for what he feels guilty doing while he’s still in a relationship with you.
When you’re talking or texting, he shortens your conversations or the time you spend together texting back and forth. This could also be a sign he’s merely distracted by outside events, but it is also a sign of cheating, because you’re not longer his priority or fixation now.
He begins to forget important dates associated with the two of you, because he’s perhaps learning the likes and dislikes of the person he’s cheating on you with and again, you’re not the priority anymore.
This list is not all encompassing and keep in mind these examples can be associated with other things going on in his life, but this gives you a place to start to figure out if he's being faithful to you or not. And with that being said, I will also tell you to trust your instincts and follow your heart. Don't ignore those feelings telling you something's no longer on the up and up. That's my bottom line.
They ignore you because they're talking to someone else. If its ldr & they're just dying to talk to you again, then they will. But if you notice they start to change & don't respond as often or at all sometimes but you see them online & they give excuses this could be the beginning.
I was recently talking with a guy & I thought things were getting super serious between us (namely because he said so) and so I wanted to get to know him a little better so I started to message his friends. Which I then noticed were mostly female but still didn't think much of it at the time. Come to find out, he had been telling another girl the exact same things he had been telling me... A complete waste of 2 months of my life AND 8 months of hers. So I found out I was the other girl...
Keep a close eye on their behavior. You'll figure it out if you take a step back & evaluate things. But in my honest opinion, ldr are a waste of time. Best to ya!
-Not responding to or taking a long time to respond to messages
-Turning their phone of at times that normally they wouldn't
-Acting differently/Blowing hot and cold
-Quite often when someone is cheating they will become suspicious of the other person and start accusing them of cheating
-Connections on social media (But be careful with this one, something innocent can easily be blown out of proportion)
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distant, lack of interest in you, not contacting you as often or when you do talk its brief. LDR dont really work in the long run anyway and many people think online friends = LDR. Only a relationship where the two actually get together for in person intimacy, count as a long distance "RELATIONSHIP"
absent that, its not really cheating if they find someone new to chat with.
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- Anonymous(30-35)
1. There frequency of wanting to talk to you goes down.
2. You see them with pictures with someone way too often on FB.
3. They take a longer time than normal to reply to you. - Anonymous(30-35)
Not responding or taking much longer than usual to respond to a text, message, phone call etc. They may seem uninterested in you or what you have to say. They seem distant altogether. You have a gut feeling they are cheating.
- 1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Men are always cheating in a long distance relationship. It's just understood that women know this as a rule. We are gonna cheat!
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I'd start getting worried if they didn't talk as much as they used to and consistently took a long time to reply. Or if they seemed to sound more distant and disinterested in general
- Anonymous(30-35)
Unless there's evidence of them actually cheating, you can't really prove it, but if they're acting distant, don't contact as much, take forever to respond, etc and seem hot and cold then I'd be suspicious.
If he has suddenly changed in a dramatic way, that is one major indicator.
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Okay care to elaborate a bit for example are you showing the sines of cheating or is he and or she showing the sines of cheating and how so?
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They don't do things as often as they use too. Like calling and texting.
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He stops verbally talking to you e. g phone calls or video message.
These things means that he has a focus on you. - 1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Look closely at your phone there will sometimes be a small ring of lipstick around the on/off button.
It is really hard to tell, sometimes they get really busy and we consider them to be cheating...
- Anonymous(30-35)
He will chat less with you and show less interes because he will talk to the other girl. From my experience
Eh can't really tell LDRs are never a good idea anyway just see how distant he is being
Sign 1: you're online looking for signs
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Read their social media
- Anonymous(25-29)
When the frequency of talking goes down.
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