My boyfriend ended up following a girl on instagram that mostly posts her boobs and ass (in bra and panties) is that cheating/disrespectful? ?

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Just because i kept accusin him of "guys talk the most bout the females they find interest in". He kept talkin bout females should respect themselves n shouldn't dress provocative. But yet i find out he follows a girl that is posting half naked pics of herself on her insta stories/posts. I js wanna know whats y'all opinion on this? Is it considered cheating, disrespectful or what?

mommymommymommy · Accepted Answer

A girl i like, who likes me back, doesn't want anything serious at the moment. She just got out of a bad relationship, so i kind of understand that. However, she does want to start having sex, and so do i. I'm a virgin, and want to lose my virginity to her. I have liked her for a long time and apparently she has to, still does. I just took forever to tell her, and even kiss her. I gave her a surprise the other day. I bought her a gift certificate for $100 to VS. She was like, "oh, you want, wow". I wasn't exactly controlling what she wears, i was saying to her, that while I would like my (our) first time to special, and that one of the ways to do that would be to wear something like that, but, also, that, sometimes, a man wants to feel like you're only wearing something, for him. It's silly I know but, that's really why i bought it, was, i want her to buy something for JUST us. is that so bad? Is that selfish of me. Is it THAT controlling of me? for her to want to pick something that's for JUST us. She had no problem with it, but, im curious

ArrowheadSW · Accepted Answer

I rarely open my Instagram page as I rarely use it. I do get these notifications in my email quite often though, that those women have "added me as a friend". I suspect they are all stock photos of models that are actually posted by guys, who are using it as part of a scam of some sort. In the rare case when I do open Instagram, I delete them all. My question is, can my legit friends on Instagram, see that those people added ME as a friend, or do I have to add them as a friend also? I don't know.

DaisyM23 · Accepted Answer

he's a hypocrite, i hate when people (mostly guys) judge others yet turn around and still like/follow them, what do you expect? it's not cheating unless he actually knows her and there's something emotional/sexual going on but definitely disrespectful

Spongebobssocks · Accepted Answer

Depends. Is she an influencer/famous? If not ask him about it. Ask him why he follows her. And see what he says. He should have a good explanation cause considering your update you talked to him about this before

Finchie40 · Answer

It’s disrespectful, and yes in a sense it’s cheating because How would he feel if you were following and liking some other guy’s post , so you have a right to be upset and concerned and tell him how it makes you feel , if he doesn’t unfollow the girl and doesn’t stop liking her posts then dump his ass

lightbulb27 · Answer

of course it's disrespectful. can lead to more/other problems.

another example of how social media creates more problems.

you can't make females behave better, that's what they do...

the guys have to choose not to follow. I've blocked women here who use provocative photos and/or their subject matters.

Note: he will justify what he's doing because he doesn't want to change and cut off his drug supply.

errornotfound · Answer

In all honesty, he might not be the guy for you. He seems really egotistical, and I think that you can do better. If this leads to a breakup, I hope you find a guy who respects you and doesn't need to follow those types of accounts and isn't so controlling of you. Best wishes.

boggboss · Answer

That deoends on the relationship and the boundaries u guys have set most wouldn't call it cheating some would and to the point of it being disrespectful depends on opinion I would guess if he watches porn u wouldn't see the harm in following a random online

CountryWanderer · Answer

He's clearly setting a double-standard and is controlling. It's actually really common, unfortunately, for men to be like this. They expect the woman they're with to be exclusive to them, but they don't have the same commitment to her. If he considers you showing off provocatively to be cheating (which I think is a fair standard), then him following women who show off like that is him cheating.

pethouse · Answer

Cheating? With the info you gave no. But it’s 100% disrespectful, I personally believe that when someone is in a relationship their eyes should only be on their partner!

Truthatanycost · Answer

He's a hypocrite that is allowing himself to be seduced by dopamine and desire. I bet he watches porn as well. Ultimately, you are likely to keep on meeting the same sort of man until your standards become men of God only.

Miristheiss · Answer

If you feel disrespected then it is disrespectful.

MementoMori777 · Answer

disrespectful for sure, and if you told him it bothers you and that you wanted him to stop and he does it still then you can count that as emotional cheating

EaterPeter · Answer

She may have ideal body he worships or can think of having sex with? His brain goes wild. Trust me most of it is very short living. Journey can be way more fun than destination.

serafin · Answer

it's the hipocrisy for me. him insisting that you're just being dramatic is disrespectful

diego_md · Answer

i think you should found someone else who is willing to appreciate and respect you, this guy seems not satisfied with you

Buttajah · Answer

It's likely you've made a poor choice in a partner.

normandi · Answer

Every body follow every body as long as it stops there anything else dump the mother fucker

Sanser · Answer

Its at least disrespectful... cheating nope but wtf is he thinking?

Raaj4you · Answer

No, it's not cheating. Watching hot babes on social media isn't disrespectful.

serious_miss419 · Answer

He’s not worth your time and does not deserve you! Cut ties with this baboon.

devilish-cutie · Answer

its not cheating but a bit disresspectful.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Come onn how can tht be cheating huh

BLP11520 · Answer

Cheating no being an ass yes

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