I have always not had as many social needs as most people, before I was not interested in communicating or having things communicated to me, that was when I was very young in my adolescence and my older sisters tried to make me more communicative by teaching me to socialize, currently I do it better than before and I can perpetuate a conversation or start a conversation when I want to, I don't have problems with shyness but sometimes I don't start conversations for fear of bothering and that the other person is busy or something like that.
At university, a classmate who had added to WhatsApp to do a job, asked me to talk to him whenever I wanted because he liked me and because he wanted to talk to me, but why do I have to be the one to start the conversation? Having to start it is uncomfortable for me, I expressed my annoyance to him and he said it was as simple as saying: hello but whenever I try and specifically with him, I feel my heart race, I get nervous and days go by and I finally finish without sending a hello and he said he was tired of having to be the one to initiate the conversations but does it really matter who initiates it?
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Therapy. You need therapy.
Barring that, take improv or public speaking classes. Toastmasters is great for that and many schools have their own chapters.
You just need to practice. There's no way to avoid the fear. But you're not alone in feeling afraid. Most people would prefer to be in the coffin than giving the eulogy.
Fortunately while it seems like you'll die if you send a hello, you won't. And he already likes you.
Bite the bullet, experiment with your fear. Send that hello and then see if the worst case scenarios in your head play out - they probably won't.