Why do traditional and unconventional relationships/marriages get so much hate?

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People seem to always measure the success of something by whether they personally would do it, "society approves of it," or their religion/culture, etc, but outside of illegal things, what does it matter if someone wants a traditional or unconventional relationship. You're not in it and if they are happy, so what?

TooHot2Care · Accepted Answer

The new religion is basically reactionary hate towards traditional ways but with no direction as to what to do after we have established "this is bad".

Corporations have taken hold of this and while you and her and he are busy talking about why "girlbossing is better than marriage" corporations can keep paying you and everyone else less save for a few people so that it ultimately becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy such that its not that you won't get married, but because you simply cannot.

of course, that's just ONE piece of a dastardly puzzle. . . . . and fuck , did I just say dastardly? I'll kill me.

SolitarySolace · Accepted Answer

For example if someone is in an open relationship and has multiple partners, even though I’m not interested in being a part of something like that I should just ignore it, but the thing is others out there won’t. If I found someone and started a monogamous relationship with them and then suddenly out of the blue they want an open relationship I’d break up with them and feel wronged because the idea of an open relationship made them happier than just being with me.

reds-noro · Accepted Answer

There is little actual hate towards traditional relationships. There is more hate towards the people who try to keep pushing for traditional relationships to be the only acceptable relationship dynamic.

This goes for most traditional things that are on the decline.

The association of oppression with traditionalism is why there is so much despise for traditionalism.

thatshydork · Accepted Answer

Because some people don’t understand things that seem different to them and it scares them to some degree.

MrOracle · Answer

It's about OUTCOMES.

Traditional relationships became traditional because they WORKED, and created stable societies. Since the mid-60s, when "non-traditional" relationships began to rise, society has broken down. Divorce skyrocketed. Crime skyrocketed. Drug use skyrocketed. Wage stagnation skyrocketed. Housing costs skyrocketed (because 2 single people need twice as much housing as 1 couple). Mental health problems have skyrocketed.

Those outcomes are easily measurable, and they're all TERRIBLE. It might be one thing if no children were involved, but these relationships frequently result in children being created by a couple who is not committed to each other, and as a result, that child suffers, and as a result, society suffers.

Since the 60s, the generations have increasingly taught that it was perfectly fine to live a selfish, self-centered life - and increasingly, they have. But they don't take any responsibility for the consequences of their actions, and society as a whole suffers.

Anonymous · Answer

Which is so ironic, because the USA likes to pride itself on it's "individualism," which is a gut busting joke if there ever was. Hitler would be proud of most Americans now... if you don't think like them, look like them, agree with everything they think and say... then you're STUPID!🤬🤬🤬That's their mindset. I've had a middle aged single mom in Texas tell me that if I voted Republican... I don't deserve a place to live. I've had a Republican boss in Ohio at a store tell me that I should be "appreciative" to have a $9/he job graveyard shift getting robbed weekly by junkies at gunpoint and cans of ravioli thrown at my head. Like I said... Hitler would be so proud of the U. S. today if he were still alive.🤗

mstbooblover · Answer

It seems rather obvious in my eyes: plain basic jealousy... Jealousy on different levels. Types of relationships that other's would never have the guts to get involved into. A kind of plain freedom of mind leading more to be themselves rather than sticking to a stereotype. You get the idea ;0)

boggboss · Answer

Because people use what they are ir want as a badge if honour to which they can beat on others that think differently

slatyb · Answer

Fear and disgust. Some people are uncomfortable with the unfamiliar. Others feel disgust at the thought of same-sex coupling. Their emotions are so strong they are unable to stop and ask "How does that affect me?"

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

When people see the world not abiding by their values, it makes them feel like society will move in a direction that could negatively impact their own lives. This is especially true with politics

Anonymous · Answer

It devalues the institution of marriage. If you're someone who takes your marriage as something solemn it's insulting.

Here's the deal you're welcome to live your life any old way you like. Right up to the point that you open your mouth about it. The minute you you feel the need to share how you live as the way your fair game to be disagreed with.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Well, usually the people that judge the most are usually the most unhappy in their own lives.

Fireguy17 · Answer

because it is different, and some people are just locked into one thing, or one way of doing something and there cannot be any deviation from that.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Traditional and unconventional are opposites

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Well, then that means every kind of relationship gets hate. Because you just described two opposite things.

mommymommymommy · Answer

Control Most people who struggle to have control in their own life, try to control others

Anonymous · Answer

I'm in an unconventional situation, and I have to hide it.

Engin12 · Answer

I dont care about married people really. They can live their whole lives sad from their stupid choices if they are short sighted. Life goes on.

lightbulb27 · Answer

um... what? What are you asking?

gothbxtch · Answer

people are judgy and shitty sometimes

Sammy786 · Answer

I can't imagine having the energy to care.

In_Trance · Answer

must be the people you're talking to

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