Have you ever lose the in love feeling with someone after being with them for years?

[Anonymous]

So i been talking to a few people lately and All of them that if you are not always in love with a person then you need to leave them. I disagree I feel after awhile the in love feeling gos away and turns into caring about them a lot to the point you dislike not being around them. I think love takes away it’s a commitment not necessarily a feeling of being in in love that’s fairytale bs.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you’ll understand better once you actually find your person. I’ve loved men before but never felt the way I do for my husband. I’ve never gotten bored, never lost the feelings I had when we met. Maybe it’s because we’ve always been consistent, finding time for dates and keeping things exciting when we can. We work at it every day. I think the feelings become lost when couples stop trying. I also think some couples get married out of convenience or pressure from their partner after years together, and those are unhappy, failing relationships that they feel trapped in because they’ve invested so much; money, kids, house, etc.

[Asker]

That’s really good to hear

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks☺️ trust me I had very similar sentiments before I met my husband, it’s hard to imagine certain things until you’re seeing it first hand, but I think that’s the case with a lot of things lol

[Asker]

I had someone I was with for 8 years that I cared for a lot and truest with anything I just wasn’t in love with her all the time. First 4 years we were super happy life fucked us hard so started to hate each other kept trying to make it work but couldn’t let o of the past so relationship ended 3 months ago

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I want to hear from you as I have never experienced such a situation before.