Being in love with this guy is driving me insane?

[Anonymous]

I’ve never been in love before. This is the first man I’ve ever been in love with to this degree. It’s only been a month and I’m completely and utterly infatuated with him. If he asked to marry me tomorrow, I wouldn’t hesitate a second and it would probably make me the happiest girl alive. Its a great feeling being in love with someone as he brings happiness into my life I’ve never felt before. However, I can’t bear the feeling that I’ll lose him and won’t be able to take it. I can’t bear thinking about the fact that he may not love me the same way I do and I’m just being used and taken advantage of. I hate checking my phone 10 times a day to see if he’s contacted me after days upon days of ignoring me. I can’t bear the feeling of thinking he’s not interested in me when he’s left me on read. I can’t take the mind games. He’s much older than me, and I can’t help but feel he won’t be able to take me seriously or have a committed relationship with me. I like him genuinely. And all I want is him. It’s driving me insane, destroying my peace, consuming my energy, and making me lose focus of everything. I can’t let him go. And I hate that I’m this mad about him. It’s not fair. Any advice?

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What hurts even more is that he’s everything I’ve ever wanted: stunningly good looking, charming, charismatic, sweet, sensitive, confident, funny, affectionate, loving... Ugh he just drives me insane. I need advice please help me. I hate being in love and love it at the same time.

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Bump this: he’s been talking to me for a little over a month, but only tends to text, call and follow up on me like once a week. Does that mean he’s not interested or just a bad texter? He’s 30, I’m 18 - he says I love you, care for you, you’re amazing sex aside etc. Always extremely passionate when he’s talking to me and so am I. What’s up with the mind games? by the way, I haven’t had sex with him we’ve just TALKED sexually.

[Anonymous]

I ever feel this way somehow I stopped liking this guy because he has so many female friends and they are close with him and I started to find other man who are way older than me. and I found this man. he's completely opposite of my previous crush. and I madly in love with him even though we have been known each other in a few months instead a few years like previous guy. so yea. even though he ignored me, I just keep contact him and he told me that I'm perfect and he's not ready for serious relationship. at least he was not being rude and mature. he made me feel confident with myself and he doesn't make me think negatively unlike the other guy. so I still love him even though he doesn't talk much. 😍🥰 my advice is find someone who doesn't make you feel bad emotionally and physically. :)

[Anonymous]

I have felt this way for a girl too and it's just so painful and I don't know what to do either. I love her so much but I can't help it, I keep doubting, as if there is no way she would genuinely love someone like me.

Something that helps me sometimes is, instead of thinking about the negative, I remember myself the positive, why I love her so much, I look at pictures of her and it just makes me smile.

[Asker]

But I’m just scared he might be only using me for sex and doesn’t feel the same way about me.

[Opinion Owner]

Me too I'm scared that I could be used or lead on, and that she could not be feeling the same way towards me. Unfortunately, I have not found anything to soothe that yet.

[blondfrog]

I know how you feel buddy. But he clearly doesn't feel the same way. If he did he wouldn't leave you on read like that for that long. I've been where you've been and you just have to let it go. You think there is no other guy but there will be, trust me. Life is not fair.

[Asker]

But he’s told me he loves me over and over hundreds of times. I can’t just let go of him this easily I’m obsessed with him.

[blondfrog]

Why didn't you mention that in your details then?

[Asker]

He told me he loved me the first time we started talking. When he does talk to me he’s super passionate and all over me, the only thing I’m questioning is if he’s genuine or just trying to bust a nut and leave me.

[Kindofweird]

I know how it feels... been there

[Asker]

Welllll help a girl out. How did you snap out of it? I’m a emotional wreck and a lovesick mess

[Kindofweird]

Make myself busy in other things...

[Asker]

Like?

[Gatman34]

How much older?

[Asker]

He’s 30 and I’m 18 BUT he looks like a 25 year old supermodel.

[Gatman34]

I don’t think you are In love you are just lusting and I doubt he feels the same. That’s a big age gap. You seem kinda obsessed just cause he doesn’t text you doesn’t mean he is ignoring you he just has other things in his mind

[Asker]

He ignores me for a week and a half and then randomly out of the blue I get a phone call from him late at night. I answer, I give him the same energy, I don’t even question him ignoring me for days, and I don’t even double text him or call him when he doesn’t call me because I’m afraid of annoying him. I’ve never even had a fight let alone disagreement with him. We both have told eachother we love eachother 100000+ times, he says he cares for me and it isn’t just about the sexual stuff, we talk all night until morning, he told me I help him sleep better, he said the age gap bothers him and told me to “grow up with him.” I genuinely do want him. I may be obsessed with him but it’s more than just lust - I deeply admire and look up to him and just want him in my life forever.

[Gatman34]

Well guys don’t like texting so that’s normal but you still sound high maintenance and need to chill he is older and being high maintenance is a turn off

[Asker]

What do you mean high maintenance? I literally always try to satisfy him, make him comfortable af, I haven’t even formally asked him to be my boyfriend in fear of scaring him off or making him stop whatever we have going on because it just feels so amazing... plus, we don’t even text a lot we call especially at night and sleep together on call. I just think it’s bad to love someone to this degree because if I lose him I’d be heartbroken and that’s not fair. I just wish I didn’t need him relentlessly but I do and it’s beyond my control. I feel a bond with him that I’ve never felt with a human being in my life before. He told me he loves me over and over, he wants to be my first and last, he told me he’d make out with me for hours, just cuddle with me, he respects me and prob would still hold off even if we were both naked in front of eachother, I said I’d marry him and he said “good that makes me so happy.” I just don’t know if he’s being genuine. He really sounds like he is and it’s fucking with my head