I was raised knowing that your word is your bond and that when you say that you’re going to do something, you do it. Well, recently my best friend gave me his word that he would help me do something that was not only really important to me, but that would positively impact my life. I won’t go into the details of that, since it is quite a lengthy story. But I will say that it involved him coming down to Florida from New Jersey next week to help me achieve said goal. We’ve planned this for a month, down to the last detail and everything was set for next week. He messaged me last night and backed out of coming saying only that he “has other things to do instead.” He said that he knew he wasn’t coming for three of the four weeks and yet he still strung me along and led me to believe that he was going to come and help me. I was very hurt by this. I mentioned to him in a text how hurt I was and that I lost trust in him. He wrote me a very harsh message back, yelling at me for saying that I lost trust in him. I believe that when you go back on your word especially given the circumstance, it warrants one to lose faith and trust in the other person. I believe that trust will have to be rebuilt over time. He instead called me some nasty names and proceeded to make me feel like I am the one being unreasonable when I was just stating my feelings on the situation. He just kept repeating that he didn’t understand where the loss of trust comes from. My question here is, do you think I am right in your word is your bond and when it’s broken trust is broken? Or is he right and I am being unreasonable? Thank you In advance for your replies.
When someone breaks their promise, is it normal to lose trust in them?
