Is it normal that my dad asks me lots of personal questions in my 30s?

[sheikalana]

He just asks too many questions. I don't want to answer most of the things he asks. He tends to get mad when I avoid to answer those questions. I'm married and have a busy life.

[WindAtMyBack]

It's normal for a father to want to keep up with his daughter's life. But there are still questions that are too personal and should not be asked or answered.

[BarryLiverstone]

He is trying to have a conversation and connect with you. It’s fair for you to let him know when you are busy and to schedule quality time with him

[sheikalana]

I don't even want to spend time with him. I still resent him so much it's too late for me to build a connection.

[BarryLiverstone]

Well you asked if it’s normal for a parent to ask questions. It is. As for your relationship with your dad, that’s on you to manage

[BarryLiverstone]

But if you have kids be sure to fake it in front of them. Cuz he is their grandfather

[Dkc123]

It may not be too personal in his perspective...

Its just millennials are too "modern" nowadays..

[sheikalana]

What millenials are you talking about?

[noohair]

You will always be his little girl. But he needs boundries now.

[EmmaMary]

I trust you are not still living at home?

[sheikalana]

No. I'm married I live with my husband.

[EmmaMary]

Personally if there's really that much animosity between the two of you, I would be putting a certain amount of distance in and certainly reducing the number of visits I make.

And if he (your father) asks why the absence, I would sadly have to explain precisely why this is happening.

[roy_ricky09]

He's your dad.

[sheikalana]

We have a shitty relationship.

[roy_ricky09]

Doesn't matter... He's still your father.

[sheikalana]

So? Just because he's my father I have the obligation to talk to him? I don't think so.

[roy_ricky09]

Oh really? I guess you aren't a parent yet.

[sheikalana]

Excuse me but you don't know what my father did to me growing up. If a person is toxic I don't care if they're a parent or a relative I will distance myself from them.

[roy_ricky09]

That's your version.