Do you find it arrogant if someone is proud of their achievements and shares them to you?

[DenizLikesTennis]

[dynamicyandere]

No—not off the bat at least.


It depends on the context.


If they’re excited because of a recent win that they want to share with you, I’m all for that. Celebrating wins is great and good to be around people who want to celebrate with you and support your goals and dreams.


But, if that’s all they ever talk about and they aren’t celebrating YOUR wins or lifting YOU up as well, then they’re just stroking their ego and things aren’t mutual.


Mutual support and encouragement is great.


But, if it’s all about them and they aren’t celebrating YOUR achievements or they’re trying to outshine you and steal your thunder and it’s about them trying to make you look bad—then that’s starting to get toxic.


I’ve been around both.


There are some really awesome people who are high achievers that I feel encouraged by and we celebrate each other’s wins. And even with some of them being ahead of me, they never rub it in, they only give me love. Those people are great to be around. I don’t feel envious of them. I feel inspired by them.


Now, the true arrogant a**sholes are the ones that downplay other peoples’ accomplishments and stretch the truth about their own accomplishments. The ones that want to step on others to get ahead. The ones who are always trying to assert dominance among their ‘friends’ and ‘alpha-up’ or ‘one-up’ people around them that they’re supposed be be friends with.


Those people are annoying as hell. But, the good thing is that they also never perform as well as the people who keep things drama-free and uplift the others around them as they climb to the top.