For those of you who have met/currently with the love of your life?

[Anonymous]

Was their anything special when you first met each other. Like did you say to yourself * I'm going to marry or be with this person *? Ir was it just a normal unassuming first meeting?

[Lliam]

I had been in a relationship with a women who was my ideal. I was 36 and she was 30 when we met. We lived together for over a year and I wound up loving her with my heart and soul. She loved me, too. But, as it turned out, we could not be life-long partners. It's too complicated to explain.
We wound up separating for reasons that didn't have anything to do with cheating or anything mean.
I felt like I was going to die. I never experienced such pain in my life. It took me a year to pull myself together and move on with my life.

About a year and a half after that, I joined a pre-internet dating service. I went on several dates from that agency.
I arranged a date with my future wife and we met at a restaurant. By then I was 40. She was 37.
She was pretty and had a nice bod, but didn't fit the physical ideal I had in my head, which was that of my previous girlfriend. She was taller and her hair and eye color weren't my ideal.
But when we started talking, the conversation just flowed.
At some point, I felt something bumping my foot under the table and realized that a waiter was vacuuming. We looked around and the place was empty. We had been chatting for a couple of hours. Time had just flown by.

We walked out to our cars behind the restaurant and continued talking. When we were ready to leave, we realized that the gate was locked. So I hopped over the 6' cinder block wall and got someone to open the gate.
Before we left she stepped up to me, put looked up into my eyes, put her hands on top of my shoulders, rose up on her tip toes, pressed against me, and gave me a tender, lingering kiss.

I had another date from the agency lined up for the next weekend. But two days after our date, my future wife called. I was surprised. She said some friends had offered her two tickets to see the Rolling Stones and Red Hot Chili Peppers and wondered if I was interested.
Of course I was interested. I'm a rocker. She knew that. But I also knew that she wasn't. So she was really trying to lure me. I respected her initiative and pluck.

We had a great time at the concert. We held hands, cuddled and kissed while there. And got into some serious kissing outside her place when I drove her home.

I blew off the other dates I had lined up and we started dating exclusively. I wasn't yet saying to myself that I was going to marry her. I needed to be sure. But after a year of dating, I decided that she was the one I could spend the rest of my life with. I bought an engagement ring and proposed to her on a gondola ride through the canals of Naples, Ca.

A year after that, we got married. We've been happily married now for almost 26 years. We've had LOTS of fun and built a great life together.

So it wasn't love at first sight, but it turned into love.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

This story sounds very inspiring to me because I, too separated from someone who was my ideal and most likely, no one will ever be my ideal. It makes me feel hopeful that you still found love.

Thanks for sharing your story.

[Lliam]

@lafemmefatale_1. Petra was my 'physical' ideal - hair, eyes, face, skin, figure, voice, ...
She was also hypersexual and orgasmic. I liked everything else about her, too.

But she wasn't ideal in other ways or we would have married and been partners for life.

She had issues that made that impossible. The issues stemmed from years of sexual abuse by her step father. There is way too much for me to get into. But she was valiantly battling demons and determined to survive. The biggest problem was, she couldn't fully trust men, which meant that we couldn't be completely open with each other. She was too fragile to open up completely and there is no way I could have understood.

My heart breaks when I think about it. I loved and admired her so much. But I learned from out relationship.

That's why, when my future wife and I matched on a whole other level, I was able to recognize a life partner.

[Lliam]

Post script.

20 years after Petra and I last saw each other, she found me on Facebook. We even spoke a few times on the phone. She was living in another state near her mother and son. I was filled with joy to hear her voice, to be in touch and to know that she was happy.

5 years after that, I read that she had died from a sudden medical problem at the age of 55. I was devastated. There is a hole in my heart that will never heal.

Even though there was no way we could be together, I still love her and will never forget her. I think of her often.

I couldn't have been more blessed to have been loved by her and to have had her in my life. She is my most cherished memory from the past.

What's interesting is, that doesn't detract from how much I love my wife or from what a wonderful l life we have had together and continue to have.

[Lily_lilac]

Well currently not officially ‘together’ yet.. but just wanna share. Yes its all started from me having a crush on him.. To suddenly he ask for my number from my friend (which is also his friend).. Then he set up a day for us to go out. And that moment. I realise, he is everything that im looking for in a guy.. Not perfect, but more than enough. Marriage thought coming straight into me after we went on a date for few times. And it breaks my heart thinking, if i didn't get him, then it will be a tough journey for me in future to find someone better than him.. or even at least the same level as him..

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I’ll say about my ex.

There was one moment, he was catching a Taxi for me and raised his hand to sign “Stop”,

I was standing behind him and I could see the full glory of how amazing he looked and then when I had a good look of his shoulders

I thought

“Girl… Where did I have eyes to make him pursue me so long?

This man will become my boyfriend. “

At that time we were already dating but I was not fully invested and considered myself single.

After that night, I knew he’d be mine.