She wants him to cut me out and she won't let him have any communication with me. I confronted him about it because he was avoiding me, so he said he has problems with his wife and she wants me to cut out all the women in my life. I know for a fact that it's just me and it really hurts me. I didn't overstep any boundaries, it was HIM who did that consistently and put me in a very shitty situation. He apologized for putting me in this situation. I have no idea what to do.
You are just going to have to accept it for what it is and realize he is a married man and move on with yourself. For a marriage to last and for love to grow between 2 people for most relationships , both partner’s have to make each other their top priority over everyone , including friends and family etc. Especially in a marriage , even though you think his wife is being out of line and not accepting of your friendship with him , you have to understand his wife is his top priority , The same would go if she had male friends that he didn’t want her talking to , For love to grow both partner’s need to wear each other’s shoes before making decisions and removing selfishness for each other , and sacrificing for each other as well, If you can’t do that for your partner. they will not be able to do it for you , Most relationships fail because most people do not know how to remove selfishness for each other , in a relationship, they only think what is best for them , and not consider their partner’s feelings. He clearly has more love for his wife by ending his friendship with you , He realized he made a promise to love his wife and to sacrifice for his wife to make their marriage and love grow between them. People that do not know how to remove selfishness and to know how to sacrifice for their partner will never experience true love , they will continue of a path of failed relationships until they learn how to truly love the same way they want to be loved in return. Cheating occurs because people that cheat our selfish people that only care about themselves. They don’t consider their partners feelings they only consider themselves. Understand this concept to help you when entering into a relationship with someone , your chances of having a happy fufilled relationship or marriage comes down to this concept. Whether
You are religious or not this is how love grows between 2 people , remove selfishness for each other period
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This is a difficult situation, but here are some things to consider:
1. You've done nothing wrong. His wife's jealousy is misplaced and you are being unfairly punished.
2. Cutting you off is not a real "solution." It's just sweeping the issue under the rug and avoiding dealing with the root cause of her jealousy.
3. His priority should be fixing things with his wife and earning back her trust. Cutting you off may be part of that process, even if it's unfair to you.
4. You have a right to feel hurt. This friendship likely means a lot to you. But his marriage must come first.
5. The best thing you can do is communicate your feelings to him in a calm, open manner. Let him know you value his friendship but also want to respect his marriage.
6. Offer to give him the space he needs, while also making it clear the door remains open if things change in the future. Sometimes space and time can help ease jealousy.
7. In the meantime, focus on your other relationships and activities. His situation may be out of your control for now.
8. If his behavior truly crossed boundaries and "put you in a shitty situation," that is worth reflecting on. But focus now on moving forward in a healthy way.
Ultimately this is his marriage to repair. You can communicate your feelings and perspective, while also respecting his choices for the sake of his family. Set healthy boundaries for yourself, and keep the door open if his circumstances change. I hope this perspective provides some constructive guidance. Please let me know if you have any other questions.
Well he isn't your man, so get over it and go find your own you can talk to..
Well I certainly can't see this marriage lasting very long.
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And then idiots say men and women cannot be friends.
Your male best friend is obviously married to his toxic wife. He made the decision to go after his wife's demands (and a toxic one). That is a common trait in toxic individuals.
There is not much you can do. You can make him aware of her unreasonable demands and inform him, that these are traits exhibited by toxic individuals. The rest is up to him.
On the other hand, he is just as much at fault that he overstepped boundaries, so the only one he can blame for this outcome is himself.
Wish him farewell and good luck in resolving the situation and move on. He chooses to have it coming at him.
You do nothing. Except respect what he wants. Given them space.
It sucks for you but it's the right thing.
I agree with @EmmaMary I don't see that marriage lasting long but don't be part of why it implodes.sounds like he fucked up and now his wife is tightening the strings. it is like you said not something you did but unfortunately it is impacting you as you are potentially losing a friend.
My wife made me do that too. Now that I am older I regret it.
I’d say give it time. If he actually cares about you then he will want to communicate in the future. For right now can you give him space and suggest he reaches out when he wants to?
You will just have to accept it because his relationship with his wife is more important than his relationship with you.
You said you didn't overstep any boundaries it was him. What do you mean by that?
My dad doesn't have "girl" friends, in his life. Why does he need them
Well his marriage is more important. And respect that even if you don't agree
She's perfectly right.
His wife is correct.
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