I need healthy healing advice please?

[Anonymous]

I already know my boyfriend talks to other women, not sure about sex involved but I know he texts other women because he saves their number under different things in his phone. He did it before and I forgave him but he did it again and yes I know it’s all my fault but now I’m choosing to move forward. We been together two years and now I’m ready to put my foot down but I can’t stop thinking about him… what advice can u give me so I can stop thinking about it so much… I’m hurting but I’m staying strong

[HollyK21]

So proud of you for staying strong! Please be proud of yourself as well, that kind of restraint in the beginning can be torture! I think they key to moving on is keeping things in perspective, and not backsliding down memory lane. In very difficult moments, it can almost feel better lessening his wrongs so that you can stop suffering and go back.


You just have to keep why you left at the forefront of your mind rather than the hope. He cheated once, he cheated twice, he will cheat again — remind yourself of that. There’s no hope there, and you can’t love him into changing — also key points to remember. Take this a day at a time, give yourself positive reinforcements, and spend time with the people who love you the most. It’s hard, but it gets easier.

[Asker]

Thank you so much! I needed that 🥰

[LazerBean]

Dump him. That's it. Every other answer is wrong and is just going to lead to more of the same.

[DerekC321]

Why do you say it's your fault?

[Asker]

I didn’t do anything the first time he did it

[DerekC321]

So it's not your fault. Please don't blame yourself.