How to stop having dreams about my boyfriend cheating me?

[blunty]

We've been together for a couple of weeks. I trust him, but almost every night I have dreams about my boyfriend cheating me. How to deal with this? I know that it is not true, he loves me too but still I feel sad for having such dreams about him...

[Finchie40]

You have to learn to value yourself worth and realize you are a beautiful person , you are having these dreams mainly because you are facing your own demons , mainly insecurities that you buried deep down inside yourself , those insecurities could of stemmed down by things you have witnessed or things you have experienced in your past , of being betrayed or backstabbed , abandonment issues things you heard etc. We tend to become our own worst enemies when we don’t learn to value our self worth. No one wants to be cheated on , but the truth is we can’t stop someone from cheating on us , a person that cheats is a selfish person , a selfish decision that clearly shows they only care about themselves, they do not know how to give back what they want to receive , we can’t live our lives worried about our partner’s cheating on us , you will never be happy or content within yourself , if you constantly feel your partner is going to cheat on you. The truth is , we can’t force someone to love us , we can only love someone by choosing to love them , giving them what we want to receive in return and understanding , we can’t always be right and your partner is wrong , when you learn to remove your own selfishness for your partner , it will make it easier for them to remove selfishness for you period , we all have selfishness in us so Being honest and caring and prioritizing your partner over everyone else, is going to make it easier for your partner to do that for you, Always wear your partners shoes before making decisions, understand what you don’t want your partner doing to you , you have to eliminate for them as well or it becomes a double standard No relationship is perfect , we all have disagreements on things , but when you prioritize your partner they are more than likely going to stand by you and prioritize you as well , if they don’t , then they don’t value you like you value them , Never be a convenience to someone , a loving partner wants to see you smile as much as possible , a not so loving partner wants to bring misery into your life , they get off on seeing you hurt because they truly don’t value you. Only you can accept who you are as a person , so treat your partner the same way you want to be treated in return , That’s all we can do , Hope that helps you

[Losalt]

Dreams exists to process data your brain has accumulated during the day and your memories.
You don't really have time to process everything while you're awake.
If you have a dream you don't want to have either finish processing it during the day, oe in your case, try to find other things to fill your mind with that you can dream about.
Especially if you also add a trigger just before you fall asleep.
Also, if you're able to take control of your dream you can try to break out of it and focus on something else.

[Losalt]

One thing that you can do is work on your own insecurity in the relationship.
Are you questioning your own worthiness of love?
Don't you think that you're good enough for him?
Don't you trust him?
Don't you believe that he's loving you as much as you love him?

This is things you might want to look into.
And it might not be conscious feelings and thoughts but subconscious doubts.

[Losalt]

Ps. Thanks for the MHG.

[sheikalana]

There's not much you can do about it. A few months ago my husband had to travel for one month and every night I used to have the same nightmare that he was cheating on me. It eventually stopped. I don't know what triggered those bad dreams.

[ventustalks]

Please communicate with your partner for your own good. Your dreams are some kind of a reflection of your inner fears. Speaking about them, feeling heard may help you overcome it. I hope your partner can comfort you.

[Brady]

It's called lucid dreaming. You think of a bad dream/nightmare a lot then think of how you'd handle it. Like when you think of dreaming about your boyfriend cheatin you can think of you just knowing it's a dream.

I read in a book how a lady had nightmares of a troll coming after her and an example of lucid would be her running then jumping off a cliff with a parachute.

I had a dream about my dead dad being alive 1ce. The second time I knew it wasn't real so I tried to wake up and I did. You can try too unless you don't want to wake up.

[magiusX26]

you can not really control your dreams. what you can control us your reaction to them. just because your mind put someone you know/love into the tole of some action you do not like does not mean that person is actually doing such an action. learn yo separate that fiction/fantasy from reality. your dreams being that fiction/fantasy in this case.

[AndLikeThatHesGone]

Why does it matter if you have dreams about your boyfriend cheating on you? As long as it's not happening in real life, there's nothing to worry about.

I have dreams about being eaten alive by giant spiders all the time, but I'm not worried about meeting any giant spiders.

Maybe the best way to get over about this is to tell your boyfriend about the dreams, and make sure he knows that you know he's not actually cheating, and then you two can laugh about it together.

[CaptainOverthink]

Try falling asleep in other ways or maybe try journaling before sleep. Journal about your goals, your day, feelings and events.. not about cheating dreams, that will only reinforce it.

[petitedollbabee]

Maybe your subconscious is trying to tell you something. Maybe you have insecurities regarding the relationship that are manifesting as dreams of him cheating.

[LiamSawyer]

Something from your subconscious mind is causing these dreams you're going to have to figure out what it is. Perhaps you're not as settled in the relationship as you thought.

[sheenagwapa]

pray about it or share your worries to a friend because maybe that's a worry that made it to your dream

[OddBeMe]

Dreams are just your mind venting. People put too much stock into the content. While you may have some worry about cheating, it’s most likely something else. Not talking enough or doing enough together.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Stop thinking about cheating all the time. This includes you and your cheating thoughts.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Get therapy for your subconscious trust issues.

[Jazzy54]

It might be a premonition. I wouldn’t ignore these dreams.

[Grovermint]

I had dreams of going on a spaceship and playing slot machines at an alien casino. It's a dream. Whoopty doo.

[DerekC321]

What kind of dreams, specifically? Is there a basis for these dreams in fact?

[justabuddy]

Get your self to trust him so you are no longer worrying about it.

[Mmetwe]

Just stop thinking about that clear your mind think positively

[jahaims]

Probably just insecurity manifesting as a dream.

[azgınteke]

don't think about it...

[Wonderingguyy]

Talk to him about it

[butterly248]

U gotta talk to him