Is it appropriate to put sunscreen on another man’s wife? (Page 2)

[Mangospacho]

Yeah, your wife has a male friend who is perfectly comfortable rubbing lotion onto your wife’s mostly naked body in plain view of her husband. Also, you’re asking if being uncomfortable, embarrassed and speechless is an overreaction but it’s not even a reaction at all.

If he’s comfortable touching your wife’s mostly naked body in front of you AND she’s comfortable with it and you’re the only one uncomfortable with it, they’ve probably done much more behind your back.

[MountAverage]

Without any additional context this sounds very harmless to me. I don't know the whole context, but either way you obviously need to talk to her about how you felt about it. But when you do, do it wouthout immediately accusing her of something. Just share your feelings and see how she reacts what she has to say.

[RavVid]

You were there and you were the appropriate person to rub it in. I think you have to assume she wanted this other guy to do it and the next question is why? I don't think there is a good answer she can make.

[Batsy01010101]

because she's probably been fucking him or wants to fuck him but the whore will only admit it when she's forced to

[RavVid]

@Batsy01010101 At the least he is a Plan B. She will never admit it even if caught in the act.

If your wife/girlfriend did this would you dump her?

[strraku]

I can't say it is or it isn't appropriate, but would defntly be fun and it would be real fun arguing your wife afterwards if you really love each other you are just gonna fight and be back on track... so go on rub it have fun and try not to take things furthr

[Dinklex3]

I think that’s weird AF that she asked her friend instead of you?

Any particular reason?

[provokeesmokee]

You felt uncomfortable, therefore it's an inappropriate ask. Why didn't she ask you?

You and her should talk boundaries - yours included.

[Riverdog]

If you as her husband and her friend was busy then I don’t see the issue but I can see why you may feel uncomfortable if he was making flirty comments etc. I think it’s your trust issue if you don’t trust her or him though. Tbh I feel comfortable enough with my best friends husband to put sun cream in my back with out any sexual context at all.

[HighValue]

It is valid grounds for divorce in my opinion. She is a cheater. Put your assets in your parents name, including any savings, take her name off any credit cards or cancel them, then divorce her.

[IceCreamSandwich]

Oh come on, don't tell me applying sunscreen is sexual now! These rules for what touching is okay and what aren't are way too complicated. It shouldn't be sexual if most people you do it with are by default family and children. That's stupid.

[Drumlin2001]

Why would she not ask you? In a situation where you were not around I'd say it was fine, buy to do it infront of you without asking if you could first, I'd be annoyed

[Batsy01010101]

Because he's with a whore who wants to fuck the other guy or already has fucked the other guy

[Danny_dan92]

No. There are countless other people that can do that and it isn’t inappropriate or weird.






Here’s another answer for it. If you had a wife, would you like another man putting sunscreen on her? Probably not

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I wouldn’t ask any other man and I wouldn’t want to be touched by any other men other than my partner.

[goaded]

I've thought about this for a day or so. Yes, it's appropriate, if she asked him to. You've done nothing wrong. You and your wife can discuss whether she did something "wrong" in private.

[Alex117]

Sure, I do it all the time. The women are my mum and sister.

That response may be a bit disingenuous but truly it’s fine. Just people helping out people.

[madhatters4]

i suppose if no one else is around to do it. but otherwise the spouse or a friend should do it.

at it's core putting sunscreen on is not a sexual thing, unless you make it a sexual thing

[AndLikeThatHesGone]

She asked this other guy to put lotion on her right in front of you. That's... not good.

Did your wife seem to enjoy having this other guy's hands on her?

[Asker]

Yes she did

[Asker]

She was enjoying it

[AndLikeThatHesGone]

Either your wife is really really into this guy, or she hates you so much that she's looking for ways to humiliate you in public.

Either way, not good.

[Alli39]

I mean it's a bit odd that she asked him instead of you, but it may have just been more convenient in context. But generally, it's not a big deal.

[Killsey]

I see nothing wrong with it. Applying sunscreen isn't sexual. You could Make it sexual, but the action itself isn't.

[jahaims]

Would you let your dad rub sunscreen on you while in a bikini?

[Killsey]

@jahaims Why not.

[Dinn3r]

I would have felt the same emotions and then some…it’s disrespectful to not know and cross boundaries. It’s more hurtful that it’s coming from your wife. Kinda awkward she put the other person in such a position.

[lilBigPotato]

If it's a friend and just her back then I don't see an issue

[Batsy01010101]

uh yeah there is an issue she was flirting practically cheating on the guy

[lilBigPotato]

@Batsy01010101 and where we OP saying anything about flirting? Putting some suncream on the back is nothing special and takes a minute at most.