Why didn’t she ask you to put it on her? the fact that you were not happy with her decision , tells me you aren’t happy with her having male friends as well , and you have every right to feel this way , don’t let anyone tell you otherwise , it sounds to me that more is going on with these male friends or male friend that she isn’t telling you about So. Hear me out man , trust your gut instincts , don’t act on them right away , but if your gut is telling you something seems off , then more Than likely something is off, if you have suspicions that your wife is being up to no good , she is more than likely being up to no good , and clearly she isn’t telling you something , if your wife loved you and appreciated you and respected you , she honestly wouldn’t be hanging out with male friends period and inviting them to the beach with you , It sounds to me that your wife is a selfish person that only thinks what is best for her , which sadly most girls’ do these days , most girls’ they don’t wear their partner’s shoes the same way she expects her partner to wear hers , unless you have girl friends that you hang out with as well , than that’s a different story , but if you do not hang out with girl friends out of
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Your marriage , then your wife should not be hanging out with male friends period. If your wife’s male friend or friends are investing a lot of their time being around your wife , then something is definitely going on and they are more
Than likely trying to fuck her or
They are already fucking her , cuz I got news for you , No guy is going to invest a lot of his time into a girl just for friendship , guys only invest a lot of time into a girl he wants to fuck or is already fucking , the same goes for Girl friends that invest a lot of their time into a married man the want more than friendship period , So your best bet is to pretend everything is ok , and investigate without her knowing , that’s how I busted my ex wife cheating on me with a co worker , Do not let Your wife know u are on to her I know it hurts man but so many people on this planet are pieces of shit and selfish as fuck , so if she knows you are onto her , she will be more sneaky , making it harder for You to bust her Again I don’t know your relationship with your wife , but through my experiences a girl that values you and appreciates you is going to distance herself from opposite sex friends out of respect for your marriage , if a girl needs to have opposite sex friends in her life after she is married , then she clearly doesn’t value her relationship with you
If I were you I’d ask him to come put some on my back once he’d finished hers, and then if he actually did it I’d tell him how strong his hands are and how good it feels. Just make it weird and awkward for everybody, fuck it.
Whether someone finds it inappropriate is personal to every human being. If it made you uncomfortable you should be honest to your wife about it and also let her be honest about what she thinks, maybe in her opinion it's fine.
You can let her know that you would appreciate it if she didn't ask another man to put sunscreen on her and she asked you instead, if you were away from her at that time then maybe you can come to a compromise that before you get away in the water or somewhere else you will let her know that, and ask her if she wants you to put sunscreen on her before you head off. Remember, she also has the right to negotiate what she wants and what's important is that both of you are on the same page by the end of this discussion.
I don't know how tense you become when this topic comes in your head, but because jealousy is very common and it can bring up some intense feelings: make sure to be mindful of your tone and pace as you speak to her, if needed do some breathing exercises or soothe yourself so that you are calm, cool and collected when you talk to her. If she gets excited tell her that she doesn't have to raise her voice or get tense and you aren't accusing her of anything. And don't be accusatory. Remember, you are only responsible for yourself and she is for herself. If even after the discussion she seems to not care about your feelings much, well, you are the one decide what to do about it.
Yes very inappropriate.. why wouldn't she ask you but personally I would of just kicked sand all over the slut..
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Well that's really awkward since you were right there. Makes no sense why she wouldn't ask you. I personally don't like any men touching my body besides my husband.
Sounds okay to me. She probably knows you're not good at putting sunscreen on her.
Now if it was a complete stranger and she asked him to put sunscreen on her front, that would be inappropriate.
Totally inappropriate for her I would say, but I would do it if he was cool with it. And then I would assume other things as well. Like they must be swingers so lets swing.
Number Three" ONLY if She is Family or Your Best Friend's Wife. Or just a Friend's Wife. xxoo
Skin cancer is on the rise. So yes protect people when you can.
I would've punched him out.
Sounds to me like she wants you to feel uncomfortable.
For her to do that it front of you is wrong. I don’t want to imagine what she would be letting that male “friend” do when you are not around.
Grow some eyes in the back of your head. If it were me and I had the money I would hire an investigator to follow that male “friend”. The reason I say him is because if your wife is screwing around on you, with him, she will be the one taking all the precautions not to get caught. The male “friend” won’t even consider he is being watched.
Maybe you could borrow a car that neither him or her will recognize. Or rent a car. Like I said watch him. Try to get one with tinted windows and wear a baseball cap. If you know this “friend” well enough, you should know the places he frequents. If you are told by him where he plans to be for and extended amount of time you can start watching him from there.
Keep a camera with you. Don’t photograph with your phone. Too risky.
I hate that this is happening. Look for other clues that your wife cheating. Those clues will be there go online and learn what those signs are.
I one time rub a women back and she had an ex boyfriend right out side the hotel room we also had sex. But still when I see him at the hotel room he get to stay with her for free and kiss her and be with her all night and she ask me to leave after an hour. Also he hit her so I don't know what she see in him. they broke up now. I was not good at rubbing her back.
I also had a cousin who want me to put sunscreen on her years ago. I did not like it I do not like touching people. I think she have her boyfriend do it now.
Maybe she ask someone else cause your bad at puting Sunscreen on.
a lot girl ask for that my sister ask someone to do that for her. I never do girl are just lazy maybe or like being touch by people or guys I don't know.
If you are jealous well maybe put sunscreen on his girlfriend back.
If you are super jealous then tell you wife to cove up on the beach for other men may see her then take her back to her hotel room and keep her there all to your self
I don't know JK about this.
My wife usually asks friends to help her with sunscreen because I hate how it feels. She likes women and men too, so there's hardly anyone she could ask with 0% chance she'd be attracted to. As far as I'm concerned though, it's just help with a chore. Those people are established as friends—not romantic interests, she's never indicated that she's turned on by or even particularly enjoys it, and I've never seen a friend get handsy or flustered while helping.
If you're uncomfortable with it, then tell her that you are uncomfortable with it. Don't act like she's done something wrong though. How were either of them supposed to know it would make you feel this way when it doesn't seem to make them feel the same way?
In most cases... yes it is.
I'm not saying there couldn't be a specific scenario to where you are not there and he is the only one around... etc. but for the most part it is inappropriate.
The way I'm reading what you wrote is that you were right there, you were present and she asked another man, not you to physically rub lotion on her back.
You sound like you need to get you wife in check. That is very disrespectful and shows she is someone malicious or needs a crash course on relationship respect and boundaries... if she is that naive and dense.
u Dude... it's her friend. It isn't like some random stranger put it on her. It was someone she knew. Not a big deal. You're overthinking that it means anything at all. I mean you can tell her you were uncomfortable about it but speechless and embarrassed? Why? I would not think much of it if the person I was dating asked a friend. Obviously I was engaged in convo or something else so by all means have at it.
Did you ask her why she didn't ask you? Or did you tell her it made you uncomfortable.
I think this is something that is better suited for you both to discuss because as you can see here some people think it's fine.
So just on the nature of answers here it's possible to assume she could have thought it was ok to do that and it didn't mean anything. She did it right in front of you so hopefully she's not trying intentionally to make you uncomfortable. That's why I think it's more important to not look to be validated here when you're entitled your own feelings regardless what we say.
Talk to her and good luck. I'm sure it will work out fine.
Assuming that you were there (present/in her line of sight) and available, I would say yes that was extremely inappropriate for your wife to skip over asking you and asked him instead. You should have a conversation with her (not to accuse her of any thing) but to understand why she chose to do that.
We're missing part of the context because normally a wife would not ask and another guy wouldn't do it while you're sitting right there.
So honestly I have a feeling she asked you.
You said no.
And now you're trying to play poor me victim.
If that's what happened.. she asked you & you said no... well maybe you should stop being a douchebag. Then you won't be a jealous insecure brat when your wife asks a simple request
I'm a woman and I wouldn't feel comfortable letting another man that wasn't my boyfriend or husband put sunscreen on my back or even touch me So in my opinion I don't think it's really appropriate I wouldn't want my man's female Friend to put sunscreen on my man's back I wouldn't be ok with it so you shouldn't either
Weird. But tbh this is completely your wife’s fault. Why didn’t she ask you? At best she just wasn’t thinking. At worst she might of asked him just to get under your skin.
The other guy was in a very awkward spot too. He had to make a quick choice to act like it was no big deal & acquiesce to her request OR awkwardly say he can’t do that.
Different story if he asked to help her. But he didn’t do that.
I would guess it’s appropriate if she is banging him on the side… other then that what woman would want another man’s hands on her body while her husband is right there.
Or she did it to totally make you jealous…. Are you not showing her enough interest? Is there a reason to try to make you jealous.
Only thing I got.
I wouldn't say inappropriate but kind of strange if you were actually there and able to do it. Not that long ago I gave a friend a massage because her neck had a kink, her husband was sitting next to her but was playing poker, I sat the hand out, so she asked me. No big deal.
it's literally sun cream. stop being a possessive jerk about it.
you can just talk to her about how it made you uncomfortable and that you would rather her ask you to add it on. literally not a big deal.
In a fantasy world it might seem okay. But in the real world it's a slippery slope. That is definitely intimate physical contact and if she starts to think that's okay eventually she'll let other guys give her a foot rub and it's all downhill from there.
Like they said in Pulp Fiction "Would you give a man a foot rub?" The same logic could be said about 'Would you rub sunscreen on another man?"
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