So, I am posting anonymously for personal reasons. My girlfriend and I have been living together for 8 months. Both have kids. We are in our 40s. Feel like there is a ton of drama. I’ll have to disclose, we were an affair. I met her as I was ending my marriage with my wife and she was still with her husband. Claimed she was done and ready to move on. I went through my divorce. Waited a 8 months before she was “ready” to move in. Irritated me. I wouldn’t have been involved if she wasn’t ready. I shouldn’t have to begin with. Lesson learned. That being said, she’s still unwilling to approach her family and let them know her marriage is at least over. The moving on piece I get. Take a little more time. If you’re not willing to end that life in the view of your family and most friends, something has to be seriously off. Looking for some ways to maybe have the right conversation before choosing to end things. I treat her well. I’m very attentive to her. I put her needs above mine. She wants or needs something, I’m there. I clean, cook, do work around the house. Compliment her every day. To me it feels like writing on the wall. It feels hard to give up at the same time. It’s been a year since she said she would tell her family she was getting divorced. I feel like a total moron.
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So you have been living together for 8 months or waited 8 months until you moved in... or both. I just don't want to get that part wrong because it could be important. Anyway sounds like she is embarrassed to tell her family. Honestly? How do they not even know after a year since she decided to get a divorce? That is crazy considering she has kids. Someone would have talked or slipped at some point. Like how do they not know where she is living (if you have been living together for 8 months)? Not much makes sense to me here.
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I’m going to divorce, I’m going to divorce, dude it’s like they never do. As for you congratulations on finalizing your divorce & as for your girlfriend if she is not ready to throw in the towel give her time & let her do it on her own thing without you interfering. As for you with all honesty you can compliment her every day, you can cook, you can clean & you can be there for her every second but at the end of the day she is still a married woman. I know you feel like a moron or a man bitch or a boom boom buddy or a hotel & I’m sorry to hear that & my brother from another mother I feel you.
At this point all you can do is let faith take its course & if it was meant to be it will be.
Lol see the irony here?
You're annoyed that it took 8 months but this is precisely why it needed to take at least 8 months if not more.
You and her were an affair, I imagine she’s unsure of how she’ll admit that when she confronts her family and they press her with questions. Have patience, she’ll come around when she’s ready.
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