Have you ever been in a relationship where you didn't want or talk about getting married, because you wanted to keep your options open?

[Anonymous]

No

Yes

I think one of my exes was doing that, because they never talked about wanting to, or when I brought it up, they brushed it off

[CaGirl2023]

This is a hard question to answer for myself it depends on the man I am dating at the moment. Yes I agree I don't usually want to talk about marriage to someone I am dating because I take the word Marriage very seriously. I am type of person if I got married to my current boyfriend I want to marry him for the rest of my life I don't want to get divorced from him or anyone other man I get involved with in my future. Yes I want to keep my options open because there is always someone much better out here.

[petitedollbabee]

No, I don’t want to get married, nor do I talk about it, but that’s not for the purpose of “keeping options open” - I just don’t see the point in marriage. In my eyes It’s a waste of money, and makes everything so complicated if you break up. Which wastes even more money with divorce. Easier to just have a life partner without paying for husband and wife titles.

[jeffend888]

Then be prepared for a lifetime of judgement and criticisms from your peers and family members, paying more taxes, paying more for health insurance and when your "life partner" dies, you get nothing. Oh your life partner was a millionaire who owned 5 properties? Sorry, you get none of that if he dies.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@jeffend888 Uhm... if i die my life partner gets the same as my wife. That's what wills and trusts are for. Nobody sends anything to probate, what is this 1820? The difference in married and single tax is a rounding error, and health insurance is provided by my employer at a fixed rate regardless of marital status. What else did I miss?

[jeffend888]

@BoopBoopBeep sure, keep convincing yourself of that. Your “partner’s” family is going to drag your ass through court for everything. If you’re not married, nobody takes you seriously. I should know.

The difference in taxes is not a rounding error. It’s thousands.

And health insurance? If you want to put your partner on your insurance, be prepared to pay something called “imputed earnings” which amounts to over 1,000 dollars a month.

That’s what you missed.

[BoopBoopBeep]

@jeffend888 Regarding court, the prenump says who is entitled to what. What are they going to take me to court for? My shite? I don't have anything in my name but one last house that'll be taken out in 7 years or less. Her shite? They can have it. What do I care? If it was hers it wasn't mine before it's not mine now, no change. If she wanted me to have it she'd have deeded it to me prior to her final dispersion or placed it in trust for my later use.

Thousands would be a rounding error if that were accurate. See blog.birchwoodfp.com/single-versus-married-taxes particularly the section on marriage penalty. It doesn't make much of a difference until you hit 400k, and you have reduced capital losses deductions that can be claimed as a married couple.

I don't want to put my partner on my health insurance any more than she wants to put me on hers. We have our own, provided by our employers, who do not differentiate between married or single.

[CurrentJohn]

More and more people don`t want to marry nowadays and I too see no reason in doing so. Back then most people married because they were religious which I`m not, so a church marriage is already not for me. Then there is also no reason to marry otherwise, it is just a hassle and can lead to financial disputes. Stay together as long as you love each other, separate when you don`t like each other anymore. No real reason to ever have a marriage beside wasting money and fighting each other during a divorce.

[nastyb]

no. thats only for pathetic people.

But I did encounter a guy who I saw for a while who accidently revealed to me that he was trying to keep his options open. I honestly never liked him very much and that just put the last nail in the coffin.

[BunBun369]

I'm just not into marriage like that. I mean why go through the stress of putting up with another persons bs for the rest of your life 🤷🏽‍♀️ like then when you just hang out until it gets annoying and boring then move on without the hassle of getting a divorce and all that shit. It takes too much time and money for all that.

[Anonymous]

Ew guys like you disgust me. Because then the other person thinks you want to get married while you bring STDs to them. Cheater! You’re cheating!!

Why are you in a relationship then? Be in an open relationship? I bet 100% you’re not even attractive. 100% you’re like one of these average sorry looking lemmings.

[WhitneySnow]

I’m not old enough to be in a relationship where we talk about that yet. That being said, I know a couple in my old school who got married at 16 and not because she got pregnant either. So they did a lot more than talk about it.

[Nikki1989]

ALL relationships are like that till the right person comes along.

[Anemone978]

I never dated someone I didn't seriously like.. so I guess no..

[Anonymous]

You're just constantly cheating on them with that mindset

[jahaims]

Nope