What am I supposed to do if my girlfriend wants to become a stripper?

[smoke]

She has different interests. And now, she decided to do pole dance and become a stripper. Her body is quite good, but how should I react on such a decision? I mean, what am I supposed to do if my girlfriend wants to become a stripper? How can I stop her?

[ShadezMcgee]

You can't stop her. Women hate being controlled or told what to do more than anything. If she wants to strip, she will strip. You as a man have a couple of options and they both support her decision and respect it, but one in turn revolves around your personal boundaries and ability to walk away.

Options are as follows.

1.) Accept she will do it and try to be okay with her decision, knowing she will get close to or completely naked for other men for money on stage and for dances and trust her to remain loyal to you and not break that boundary by meeting other men outside the club or put a price on everything that can be bought.

2.) If you do have a problem with this, this is the best option. Tell her while you support her decision to try something new, it is not something you wish a woman you are dating to be involved with and that if she wants to continue down that path she can, but your relationship with her is done. Dump her and find someone down the road who values your boundaries of staying respectful to you and avoids sexual exploitation of her body.

[Flatmanlewis]

I can’t see this working out. Having said that I’ve known a few strippers in my youth that were really great women. They paid their way through college, bought a house, or raised kids as a young woman and were able to afford a better life for their kids.


To your point though - if this is something you’re not comfortable with then you have to tell her. Then, having a clear understanding of your feelings on the matter she has to decide how to proceed. In the end you can only choose what you will do, not her.

[Jazzy54]

She’s an adult. Girlfriend or not, you can’t stop an adult from doing anything. Also, for all you know, she’s probably struggling financially and doesn’t want to burden you with it. Either way, she’s an adult and you’re not her father.

[sheikalana]

I don't think many men are okay with their partner's dancing and taking their clothes off to other men. If I was in your position I would discourage her from such thing if she still wanted to do it I would have to break things off.

[AviatorTom]

You have two choices, both of which involve wishing her good luck with her stripping career.

1. You support her because she's your girlfriend and you want to be in a serious relationship with her, OR

2. You say goodbye to her and your relationship because you cannot stay with a woman who strips for a living.

In either case, you cannot stop her. She will do what she wants.

[OlderAndWiser]

You should wish her good luck and say goodbye because it's over.

[cosmosis181]

This guy☝️

[MrOracle]

You can't make anyone do something they don't want to do, and you can't stop them from doing something they want to do. All you can do is create consequences.

I would not remain in a relationship with a stripper - or with any girl who was monetizing her sexuallity regardless of how. I can't stop her from doing it, but she can't be with me if she does - and there's no second chances - once she makes that decision, we are over forever.

Sometimes the girl will walk away, and it's best to let them go. Others will realize that your relationship is worth more to them than their idea, and those are worth keeping.

[XXTruthfulOgrexx]

Her body, her choice. However you have a choice and a decision to make based off her choice.

Do you feel comfortable enough to date a such a adult entertainer?

Personally, I would wish my girlfriend the best but ed the relationship. I have a serious issue making such intimate displays and making them public and transactional.

[CurrentJohn]

As others already said, you only have the options of either supporting her or if it makes you unhappy (And it seems that way) leave her. It is not going to be a healthy relationship if she is a stripper and you aren`t ok with it or if she really wants to be a stripper but you forbid it.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Dump her.

The different interests alone will ruin the relationship.

The stripper job will also ruin it, but even if you manage to convince her not to, she's still not into the same things that you are, so you'll end up seperating anyway.

[jimmy2]

Hum well be glad you two are not married
Therefore she is choosing a very bad decision.
With that said you have a choice that bad too if you love her.
You two need to sit down and clearly talk about what you ,2wamt in relationship
If she still wants that I would say bye because to stay with her is to battle Spiritual and that hard to do

[Anemone978]

Tell her you don't like it and don't want her too and if she doesn't care and still does it dump her and move on..

[provokeesmokee]

You can't stop her.

If you don't like it, break up with her. But she gets to choose what she does for herself.

[Alexz0]

Support her. There is nothing wrong with it.

[Adaeva]

Edward Snowden's girlfriend is a poll dancer and they are doing fine and he is much smarter than you.

[msmissydc]

Its been said but: Is she just starting poledance or actually want to become a stripper? Two totaly different things!!!

[Wonderingguyy]

I mean you can’t stop her, if she wants to do it she will. You can always try to talk her out of it, but why not let her? She should give it a try if it’s something she’s interested in.

[Unit1]

Well, you deal with it. Either break up or get "cucked". Or see if you can pimp her since she's going down this path anyway (new idea I just saw).

[HelpfulWoman]

pole dancing as a hobby/sport isn't the same as being a stripper. So is it actually her wanting to be a stripper?

[BigDog1989]

Why does she need to be a stripper just to pole dance. I have an ex stripper friend, who installed a pole in her room, so her kids could work out and so could she. She no longer strips, like i said. You don't have to strip to pole dance

[artgorgeous]

Ultimatum. She either wants to be with you and find herself a normal job, or you leave ans she does what she wants - simple.

[Jdodkfndosn]

Why stop her? If she wants to do it and you are completely against it, then take that as a sign she isn't worth investing any more time and energy in and move on

[DextroShade]

You can't stop her, but you can give her a choice: she can either be a stripper or she can be with you. That she even wants to do this means she belongs to the streets already.

[Anonymous]

I'm gathering by your ending to the question that you're against it. I would be honest then and voice your displeasure about it. Then, if she goes through with it you break up. She's for the streets so she belongs in the streets.