Do you get upset about the little things in a relationship? (Page 2)

[dragoblack]

Make a list of all of the little things that annoy you and make you upset, then look at them as if someone was telling you that is what got on their nerves. You may find relief in thinking they are not that bad
If it continues to bother you after that. Ask your boyfriend to talk. Say" honey, there's been some things on my mind that i want to talk to you about, i know these things are small, but i still want to talk about them." A supportive boyfriend will listen without judgement.

[es20490446e]

It depends on the purpose.

If the person does them by accident, I don't care. I just point them out kindly.

If the person does them purposely, or because they don't take others into account, then I don't consider them little anymore.

But instead of getting angry about them, I just get realist and see that's what can I expect from this person.

[Anonymous]

Tbh, yes. Im struggling the same thing too. However, when thing happen once, i would directly tell him how that makes me uncomfortable/mad.. And if he did it again but less severe (which means i notice his effort on improving) then i’ll forgive. However if he still keep on doing it, then yes… I’ll be real mad.. I don’t even care if that thing is big or small, but once i say i dont like it, means i dont like it. We somehow need to make things work, or else our relationship won't work

[msc545]

I think if you're hoping for coherent answers to this question, you would need to give some examples of the sort of things you get upset about. Even small things can be very disturbing if they hurt. How about sharing with us some of the things that really bother you and upset you and make you feel hurt?

[Ezra_lila]

No, if its small things and I can still handle it for myself I would consider not to disgust it. But if its an issue that need to be disgust straight I might open it up to avoid confusion and filling up and making a bonfire out of it.

[YesterdaysChild]

Certainly not. I save my ire for the bigger things and let the smaller things roll off like water on a duck's back.

[strateguy632]

depends what is little. if it affects less than a half hour time or less than 2 hours salary, it is minor. bigger i will make a fuss.

[midnightmoon05]

Not little things. I appreciate little things. I discuss major issues to make changes. Life is better that way.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Life is too short to make a mountain out of a molehill.

[Truthatanycost]

What are some examples of those 'little things' ?

[yucychan]

What are some of these little things that you keep dwelling upon?

[BlawnDeee]

Not really unless it starts becoming a constant issue.

[Guido]

Life is too short to be upset by small things. I'm usually calm even when big things happen.

[EyesOfGod]

Make him a list and tell him to make you a list of all the little thing you both hate about eachother then fix it or break up. Roasting in silence is a good way to make yourself hate your partner.

[artgorgeous]

Only if it continuously repeats and no lessons were made.

[Anonymous]

I would say chill. Don't try and be more like him, be yourself but understand if your being too serious. Life is long, live long and prosper... logical volcans learn more from love then love learns from a volcan.

[REX_JSWL]

Well it's kinda tricky question because which is little thing for you is big thing for us
Like If I am playing game and you come and reset it by saying it's just a game, then yeah I am gonna upset

[sheikalana]

Not really but if something is bothering me I prefer to say it.

[scooogy]

all I can say is that I don't like that constant agitation for "show me how much you love me" as if I had no life of my own.

[DizzyAster2]

No, but I'm old enough to not let things bother me.

Have you tried communicating your feeling to him?