If you’ve had a friends with benefits, how did the relationship begin?

Question

Who initiated it? What did you/they do or say?

BoopBoopBeep · Accepted Answer

Her. It's always been her.

A few of the times she just mounted me and started making out "when she was drunk" even though it was like half a glass of wine. She would say something about "just for tonight" or "just fun for now" or something indicating she didn't want/need permanence.

A few times I was approached as a rational mutually beneficial deal because we were both single and around each other a lot so "it just made sense." One woman actually made a powerpoint. That was pretty flattering and the only time I've liked powerpoint.

A couple times they took me somewhere they knew I'd get worked up. Strip club or combatives usually. Then just "work into conversation" that what, what all that pent up energy it'd be mean to not release it.

One lady had three of her friends come over and basically stage an intervention... chairs in a circle and everything, they all explained why I should have casual sex with their friend.

One of my friends said that before she went to Quantico she really needed to get "all her distracting energy out" and asked if I could help her do it so she could focus on the curriculum. Had another friend do that on some other training that we both had. A third one did it on training I had had before that she hadn't had. That one was kind of funny because she made a big deal about all the pressure and whatnot for this training... desire to excel something something. I was like "you know the course is pass/fail and only lasts two days, right?" Apparently that didn't matter.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I was at a new job. I was a virgin at 22. It was when COVID when it started. I remember I wanted to try sex for the first time. And I was talking to this guy for a year. Basically, when I was at that new job he was also there. Many dudes used to bully me when I was new there. But he. He barely showed up, cause he was doing part time and I would barely see him. The very first times I met him. He was attractive and not only attractive but he was also nice to me. When all those mean dudes were bullying me, and picking on me. He was walking with me and teaching me the job better than anyone. He was giving me tips and training me. He wasn’t afraid to be next to me. Cause it was against the rules for him to hang out with me. But he wasn’t afraid of the bosses. He took me through the entire building and hung out with me. He didn’t care. One of the last times I saw him, he asked for my Instagram and I just gave it to him, I wasn’t that into him at the time. I kept in contact with him for most of 2019. And in 2020 when we all lost our job in COVID.. he told me how he felt about me and if I would like to f-k him. I agreed cause I was so inexperienced with sex. I chose to loose my virginity to him. He earned it. I didn’t let him know that he took my virginity I just told him that I got my period lol.  But ever since we’ve seen eachother for the rest of these years. His sex is too good for me to give it up. I have broke up with him different times. But it’s too good.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

First it was just mutual attraction. Then we just started talking more and more. But we didn’t talk about being in a relationship. Then we became intimate. We got closer but didn’t date. We just wanted different things in life. It was fun while it lasted.

Anonymous · Answer

for one i was in a library taking selfies and he thought that maybe for some reason i was taking pics of him lol so he asked me about it. told him i was just taking selfies and he was like ohh ok, and then he came to sit next to me a couple minutes later and started talking to me. we talked for maybe an hour then i hung out with him after and he then tried to make stuff sexual that day so we did have sex but he was supposed to pay me a little bit for it. but he pretended he didn't have any money after. he gave me his phone number so he could pay me back the money. he came two weeks later to pay me back but right then i got horny so we just fucked (for free) and then that's how it started

the other one i met him on whisper and we were into the same kinks so he just invited me after talking a little bit on the phone and texting each other on that app to his house to do shit, the rest is history

provokeesmokee · Answer

We've been friends for three years, and after naturally growing close we also kinda naturally started flirting (our friend group is flirty as a baseline, not all are).

From there, a few wishy washy "I wish I could fuck you" statements later from both sides and we ended up trying it out and liking it.

Flatmanlewis · Answer

I did. She was really a ton of fun and a great friend. One night we just went out to dinner and when she invited herself up to my place I really didn’t think much of it. When things turned physical it just felt relaxed and natural and became a safe part of a fun friendship. Eventually I met someone I wanted to date seriously and out of respect we just cut it off. She was a fun person on all levels.

Billlewis · Answer

I've had numerous arrangements like this, and all of them were very one sided and one dimensional. I enjoy providing oral service for women, and I'm very thorough and detail oriented. I've become an absolutely amazing asslicker over the years, and anilingus is what I do best. I meet the women who want to be serviced through the personals.

Mamaliv · Answer

He approached me, told me what he was looking for and I was in agreement. Soo we hung out, partied and freed up.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Friends help out friends. There is no big mystery to it.

Kabluie · Answer

One time in college I picked up my friends, went to eat, then back to my place to watch our school play an away game. End up in-bed without clothes and splashing inside.

sheikalana · Answer

It started as friends with benefits. We would only meet for sex.

Libarena · Answer

We were friends and hanging out, and I guess we felt the urge. We went to bed and enjoyed each other so much that we decided we needed to get together from time to time.

Anonymous · Answer

We were friends then got horny and kept it going for a few months. We are still very good friends but without the sexual benefits.

nbar99 · Answer

We met in high school. He was actually my first boyfriend. He didn’t want to be in a relationship anymore but he still wanted to f*ck me

Anonymous · Answer

I didn't have friends with benefits just fuck buddies. Does that count?

SL1CK_BL1CK · Answer

Uni hookup and from there we would just booty call eachother once and while for a few months

Anonymous · Answer

We used to sext then he said wanna be friends with benefits and i said sure

robocop666 · Answer

Woman told me if I call into her she will take me to her room and this is between us.

Kingship · Answer

Two words:  GAME ON.

shades777 · Answer

fun while it lasted but someone always fucks it up

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