Would you end your relationship with someone who can't hold a job?

[azgınteke]

[Miristheiss]

When I was single I wouldn't have necessarily ended things. I'm a guy. Women care more about jobs and me having to pay for her and fund her existence and just spend all my money on her.

It is acceptable for a woman to work but not share with a man or to shame a man if she, in any way, has to support him in any capacity. That is a no no but women are totally free to not work and bitch that a man ONLY makes 70,000K but doesn't make 6 figures. How dare he.

So, as a man I'm not expecting some other adult to fund my life in ANY WAY. I wouldn't have dumped her. BUT, I wouldn't let her live with me and I'd never marry her. She is still on her own, as an adult, to pay for her own existence. I'm not going to let her move in while I pay for everything. I'm not going to marry her and just fund her existence. As long as we were just dating... she lived at her place and paid her own bills and I lived at my place and my money funds my life. Outside of treating her to some dates... none of my earnings are going to her in any way.

[OfMiceandMen]

Probably. Not being able to hold down a job often means they are unhappy with their life and I can't do anything to make it better.

They have to be able to find something they like and interests them. Can't just go through life going from one job to the next.

[scentoflavender]

If he didn't need a job, or his "job" was something like daytime trading or something similar, then we'd get along fine. If he expects me to support him 100 percent financially, then we'd be having a difficult conversation.

[scentoflavender]

Yeah actually i'm not a fan of that either. But again, the question was specific to MY relationship. Others are free to do as they wish.

[love_conquers_lust]

Fair enough. I still have a problem with your answer though when here in the US, women have been heavily subsidized for decades. You don’t really have a right to that preference.

[scentoflavender]

Who are you to tell me what I have a right to? Have fun with your broad generalizations.

[scentoflavender]

You don't know anything about me. Thr law hasn't given me shit, except take my money and given me obstacles to overcome. Who the fuck am I? How about the fact I own a business? Those opportunities you're bitching about? Yeah I created multiple of those for other people. And no ones forcing you into unemployment. Maybe if you had some marketable skills other than choking on pity dicks and crying about how bad you have it, maybe you too could have a good job. But no. It's easier to whine and say oh the system screwed me over. Oh they have something and didn't work for it. Bullshit. If you spent the same energy you spend crying, and invested it into improving yourself, you'd be unstoppable. Respond however you want. I'm done wasting my time talking to an incel troll.

[azgınteke]

@love_conquers_lust Why are you bothering the member? Who are you? Are you the keeper of this site? get out of this question now

[azgınteke]

I'm sorry for what happened

[petitedollbabee]

No, aslong as they’re still able to get the benefit from the government. I’m not financially supporting someone 100% unless we’ve been together for a long time and they lost their job unexpectedly.

[thegreenyogi]

It all depends on the strength of the bond. We all get rough times in life and it can cause tension but it's also true that partners deserve moral support. So I guess what I am saying is no I wouldn't leave my partner if he couldn't keep a job and if it's something put of his control.

[devilish-cutie]

depends why he can't hold it, if he is a quitter than he is unreliable person, if he is bad at it than he is incompetent, if he is looking to find himself - ok

[Spongebobssocks]

I mean that wouldn't work in the long run. If he can get a new job sure. I'm willing to help. But if he just gives up and never aply for new jobs then that's a deal breaker.

[Monalisa77]

Job hunting can b damaging to mental health if we keep getting rejection

[Spongebobssocks]

@Monalisa77 yes i know I've seen it happen

[sheikalana]

If I have to support him financially I would have to break up with him but if he can't hold a job but still has some form of income and doesn't ask me for money I would probably stay.

[normalice]

Not by itself but it could be indicative of underlying issues.

[ProbablyClueless]

Probably not, but it really depends on my own situation and why she can't hold a job.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No, but I'm not financially supporting her either.

[Anonymous]

I think both Ross and Rachel can hold a job. He's got that dinosaur museum and she does Aveeno soap commercials.

[Mamaliv]

Yes, I need security and going from job to job isn’t secure no matter how much I care for him. A hiccup happens but repeatedly nah…

[Miah05]

Depends on the reason they can't

[Bloopbloopbloop]

Yeah. I'd be patient for not for a lifetime

[Iron_Man]

No, of course not.

[Jmmmfi4]

Depends on why