u Does she recognize that this is a severe problem and is she trying to address it or is she burying her head in the sand? I will stay and help if she is sincerely trying to overcome the problem, but I won't enable her to simply run away and hide.
I'd leave them, that's shit behaviour.
My second ex boyfriend did this, kinda. He fucked up his immigration from USA to Canada and lied to me about it, told me he'd be getting a job here asap (would've been impossible), and quit his job.
He even lied when I first met him that he was employed.
My mother is another bad example of that kind of person. She hasn't held a job down for longer than 6 months ever. She's 60 years old.
I would never commit to a relationship with someone like that. A casual fuck? Sure, friends with benefits and no other contact. Otherwise, nah, no attraction at all.
I wouldn't leave them but I would give them the tough love speech that they need to get their shit together and find a job that they can live with for the rest of their life despite whatever they are dealing with whether that be anxiety depression or both. I would tell them that I have anxiety and depression and I'm still able to stick it through. If I can do it, so can you. It's just part of being an adult. Get on meds and see a therapist but don't linger in your disorder and do nothing about it. That makes it worse not better.
I dated a girl years ago who would always quit her jobs. 2 weeks in and she'd demand a huge raise and when they didn't give it to her she would quit. She would always claim that she was basically running the place and deserved a raise. Happened 3 or 4 times and I was done. She ended up losing her apartment and then all of her belongings because she was dodging her landlord so he put all her stuff in the trash after he evicted her and couldn't get ahold of her. (Her phone got shut off). People like that need a hard dash of reality.
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Yes 100%.
I'm not asking them to be the breadwinner and tale care of everything. But I do expect a partner that contributes fairly.
I dated a man child that wouldn't hold a job and let me take care of everything for YEARS.
That man definitely took years off my life in stress.
That’s a difficult one. I wouldn’t want to end it with someone I love just because of their lack of work ethic, but I also couldn’t help but feel like I’m being used. The relationship would probably wear thin if this continued long term.
Yes. I was in a relationship like that and it was exhausting. I ended up having more resentment than love near the end.
Definitely, I've never been one to support a pathetic lowlife parasite.
If you're not married, this is unreasonable.
If you are married, they have more leeway but I'd still hope for more then they're offering.
Either way, getting yourself in debt, something is wrong. If you can't cut back on anything, sounds like you have some decisions to make.
Love on its own is not enough.
If they expect me to save the day I'm out. I work hard for my money and if I don't do it for myself nobody will.
Im old fashioned and i dont expect woman to work if she does not want to. BUT... she need to do some other work (around home etc - she can't be just watching tv all day) and i would have a problem if she does not work on her problems like anxieties or whatever.
But if she would choose to work and can't hold the job i would lose respect for her. Because she is dumb and therefor i dont want her around me OR become a mother to my kids because she might put them in danger.
unless they are disabled, yes. i have social anxiety and ptsd but i still work in healthcare. im not into excuses to be honest
I've seen that scenario w men BBC and women Terrible spot to be in.
It can work but he was exhausted.
Id judge when im in it as depends. Probably stay and try to find solution to share responsibility.
Yes.. if we are not married they shouldn't be trying to free load off of me...
It depends. If I was really rich and did not need somebody else's paycheck I would not care. If she was bad at handling money and spent lots on stupid stull and did not have a job that would be a problem. Jobs aren't for everyone.
At that point they need to get on disability.
No never if true love is involved... You already are scared something could happen to your soul mate true love
Depends on the reason. If it just pure laziness, then yes.
100% I would , zero doubt , can't work -- no value.
I maintained a relationship for a lang time, even though my partner had no job and was living on her disability. I cared not, as lang as she didn’t spend too much gelt extravagantly.
Not if they are willing to become a trad wife instead.
That would be exhausting.
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