My girlfriend is taller than me. Is there a social problem?

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We both think that it is not a problem unless she wears highheels. But do you believe that it is a social problem when the girl is taller than the guy?

hector · Accepted Answer

Societal norms have often depicted men as taller than their female partners in relationships, largely due to deep-rooted cultural expectations and stereotypes associated with height, gender roles, and perceptions of masculinity and femininity. These traditional views may suggest that a taller man symbolizes strength, protection, or dominance, while a shorter woman might be seen as more delicate or feminine.

However, it's important to emphasize that these are merely stereotypes and don't reflect the realities or complexities of individual relationships. Love, respect, understanding, and compatibility are the genuine foundations of a strong relationship, not height differences. In contemporary society, especially in more progressive cultures, these height norms have been challenged, and many couples don't conform to them.

If you and your girlfriend are happy and have a strong bond, the difference in height is irrelevant. What matters is how you feel about each other, not how society perceives you. Yet, if you or your partner feel insecure or face comments or judgments from others, it's essential to communicate and support each other.

In conclusion, while there may be residual societal biases, they're diminishing, and the narrative is shifting towards accepting diverse relationships. The main focus should be on the quality of the relationship, not on external factors like height.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly, I see this kind of question on this site fairly often and I don't understand.

Does she make you happy? Do you make her happy? Do you care about each other and want each other's company?

If the answer to these and similar questions is "Yes," then what difference does it make who is taller? Even if she is wearing high heels?

Look. You have found happiness with another human being. "Good enough for government work," as we used to say in my old profession.

Be content. Be happy, and the rest will take care of itself.

BoopBoopBeep · Accepted Answer

What's a social problem and why do I care about it if me and her are cool with... whatever. I'm not being a smartass I mean actually what does a social problem in this context mean?

I've dated women 6 inches taller than me who still wore 6 inch heels. If the incel in his mom's basement has a problem with that why do I care? That doesn't affect me.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

Not at all. My grandpa’s sister was 175 cm and was married to a man who was 165 cm. Their daughters turned out to be 180 cm and they had a happy family.

She often said he was the best husband and the best father she could ever imagine.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

A lot of guys prefer tall girls like the Ecclestone Billionaire guy who always dates girls around a foot taller. Many others do not mind tall girls and consider them equal in attractiveness to short or same height ladies.

AviatorTom · Answer

Not at all. You don't have to get on your knees to pleasure her... that's a plus!

WhereIsMyMind · Answer

Absolutely not, if you make each other happy and you're attracted to each other there is no issue at all. I would never let such a trivial thing get in the way of a great relationship. Seth Green is 5'4 and I'd definitely date a guy like him, he's hot as hell.

Rei13 · Answer

Not really. Other people will notice the height difference and it will probably stand out more than usual, but it isn’t actually a problem. I have friends that are taller than their husbands and it’s not a big deal

inhua · Answer

depends on whether society perceives you two as being in the same "league" if not, you'll get people trying to shame you and break up your relationship like they tend to do to others

blueonblack22 · Answer

Only if you make it into one. She’s probably more self conscious about than you are.  I wouldn’t let it get to you. Essie’s said than done but just be love her for being a lovely lady.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

As long as they don't let what other people think become the problem. It is so difficult to find people you are compatible with these days, a couple should not let height be a deciding factor.

Anonymous · Answer

yes. such a problem. you'll never get to live a normal life all because your girlfriend is taller than you.  i'm being sarcastic so you can realize how ridiculous this whole situation is.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Nah, I actually think it's pretty dope when I see a girl taller than their boyfriend. It shows confidence on both parties

cnj421 · Answer

No. It’s not a problem. If it doesn’t bother either of you then why does it matter what anyone else thinks. Enjoy your relationship😊

patrick994 · Answer

It isn't a problem, if you love each other and are good together, there is no reason why you should worry about stature

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, not at all. Short guys are far cuter than tall ones.

Anonymous · Answer

A shorter guy told me he didn't want to be seen in public alone with me because people would think I was some kind of trophy girl or that I was efin him in the ass 😭

JosyJosy · Answer

Since you're together, there shouldn't be a problem.

Pacquet · Answer

There’s no problem, people are just accustomed to seeing couples where the man is taller. You know this already, right?

Sparkie460 · Answer

There's no problem with the woman being taller than the man unless they think it's a problem

exitseven · Answer

If it is not a problem with her, it should not be a problem with you.

Sasha0426 · Answer

If you’re worried about what people think, then why continue this relationship? Why did you make her your girlfriend if height is an issue?

clampfan101 · Answer

I don’t care if my girl is shorter or taller than me. Shorter is cute, taller is hot. Easy win-win.

genericname85 · Answer

it's only a problem, if "you" think it is.

Yannae · Answer

You both being happy with each other is all counts. Don't let people tell you otherwise.

BigDog1989 · Answer

I know a girl who's taller than her HUSBAND. They have three kids together. She's got 41 1/2" legs

MountAverage · Answer

Why do you care what others think of you two?

Likes2drive · Answer

If it doesn’t bother you, then it shouldn’t bother anybody else

Anonymous · Answer

No it isn’t at all, who cares it’s just height (my opinion)

Guido · Answer

Nothing wrong with it. If she is the person that makes you happy, that is all that is important.

Blacksnake285 · Answer

She’s probably gonna cheat on you with a black guy, mark my words. Keep checking her phone and where abouts.

paigefaithful · Answer

Not a problem even if she does wear heels. Who cares

Anonymous · Answer

The girl I'm seeing is taller than me. It's not a big deal. I'm quite short myself so having height preferences significantly limits my options.

boggboss · Answer

I wouldn't say its a problom at all

Jazzy54 · Answer

Only if you  make  it a social problem.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I don't see a problem.

scentoflavender · Answer

Forget everyone else. Be happy.

ShadowYamihiro · Answer

I don't see any problem with that

WhitneySnow · Answer

Not a problem at all

artgorgeous · Answer

Why would you care what others think?

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

It doesn't matter at all.

SeaStorm1 · Answer

Nope I prefer guys that awe shorter.

Surely · Answer

Only if you make it one!

LiamJHayden · Answer

No one's business except for the couple.

Simslover92 · Answer

No not at all.

Twalli · Answer

No, but a lot of girls seem to dislike it

ShesRad80 · Answer

not at all

Al_Musafir · Answer

Who Cares?

sheikalana · Answer

Of course not.

Anonymous · Answer

What's the height difference?

femalepretzelmaker · Answer

😆 yes

In_Trance · Answer

You're 42...

Cheerfull009 · Answer

No problem

hornyguytbh · Answer

It depends on you

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