How can someone who is shy make friends more easily? Have others been shy? How did you get over it? Or any advice about it please?

[KateDemee]

So I'm shy and I've been wondering if anyone else is shy and how did you overcome it?

Or any advice about it please?

[caring__1]

Rather than choose someone based on superficial aspects, let others choose you based on your true essence. You'll probably find more comfort in structured situations. Do volunteer work or get involved with a cause you believe in or join a group that promotes an interest of yours. Take on a role of responsibility, and people will see you in action. In time, someone will rise out of the crowd. You'll find it much easier to interact with people when you have something specific to focus on (other than dating) and believe you belong and have something to offer.

[slatyb]

I realized that other people are shy too, and started saying hello. Example:: there was a new bartender at a club my wife and I visit occasionally. I asked the person at the door "who's the bartender,?" "Max" Then when the club was still quiet, I went to the bar and said "Hi, is it Max? I'm... " She says she usually works at another club down the street. We were there a couple of weeks later and she greeted us like old friends.

[bowenw]

I’m shy and self conscious. Try to remember you are just as important as everyone else. Try to get out to do things that interest you where you will have things in common to talk about. Be yourself. Do things with people you work with after work. Volunteer and meet people.

[petera1987]

I was very shy when I was in school, and because of that I was a loner, but I decided I had to push myself into doing things that made me very uncomfortable in order to overcome it, because I couldn't stand being alone. It wasn't easy, and took many years, but I eventually got to the point where I am now, and now I'm a clown who is constantly joking and you can't shut me up. I've gone to the other extreme, LOL :D

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, one thing that kinda helped me get through it was being on stage. When you're there in front of all those people that came to hear you play, you just don't have the time to be shy. Socializing a lot with the rest of the band helps, too.

[syncheart]

I think friendships are built around personality and common interests. I don't have any good friends. And I think it is because I have a personality disorder. I think being overly shy is a disorder as well. In other words there is not a simple fix for you.

[Friendlybro79]

Find one person that you're comfortable with and start to talk with them. Tell them about yourself and start with small things that don't make you feel shy and then maybe one that does make you feel vulnerable. It will be hard but liberating.

Also, it could be helpful to try to figure out why you're shy if you don't know. Sometimes figuring stuff like that out can help you with moving forward.

[shortster]

I am shy. I just try to force myself out there. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. Though it doesn't help when I am successful in forcing myself out there and nothing happens.

[Sunnybeach123]

I didn't overcome it. I'm shy too and I'm still working on it.

[LunarEclipse433]

Face your fears. Believe in yourself. Be approachable

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I usually try befriending them and take things from there.

[AydenHazor]

I've always been shy but I got to a point where I force myself to be outgoing. I can't tell you how I did it, but I will wish you luck!

[shades777]

you hide in the shadows and say psh psh you there, you wanna be friends, do that enough times and eventually you get someone not creeped out