Can a man love his child but not the mother of his child?

Question

We are still together But i feel like my man loves and cares for our daughter more than me

Ozanne · Accepted Answer

He has a  different  love for her, and he's going to show her entirely different affections and attention than he will for you. If he's paying her a lot of attention, it's because it's a child and he's having fun with her as she grows up. He's probably feeling like he wants to protect her and teach her things. You're a grown woman, and don't really require what a child does. Your needs from him are typically romantic love and support. This is totally different. If you feel like you're not getting that anymore, then that's a different issue. Maybe he's feeling he doesn't have a lot of time for that as he focuses on helping to raise your daughter together. Welcome to the world of mothers who always had this complaint against their husbands when their men were jealous that their wives spent more time with a baby than they did with them. But favouring? I doubt it. He has a daughter, and your the mother. Unless he's doing something incredibly selfish like trying to monopolize your daughter's time away from you completely, trying to be the favourite parent, and ignoring and belittling you as a wife, then what it sounds like is that he's enjoying fatherhood. If he's doing anything selfish taking your spot as a mother away from your daughter, then I would say it's time for a talk.

BlackBeauty90 · Accepted Answer

Easily.

Particularly if the mother is insecure, selfish, etc. and feels they need to compete for their partner with their own child of all things. All these facets you describe are NOT desirable to a lot of men AND determential to the child's health / well being as well.

Faced with that almost all men are going to choose their daughter over the mother and if they are good fathers seek to remove the child from the house & LEAVE mum

If you indeed intend to keep this relationship and make something of it instead of messaging complete strangers that know NOTHING of the dynmatics speak to your partner or better yet seek psychological help.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

It’s possible, if Your partner isn’t making you their top priority that’s usually a bad sign that they are losing interest in you or they are up to no good Ask yourself if you are making him your top priority? For a relationship to survive both partner’s need to make each other their top priority over everyone else , over
Your family over your friends over your children , If not , then your partner might feel that you don’t value him and that you are just with him out of convenience, so he is focusing on his daughter over you. Same thing happened to me with my ex wife , She started focusing more on the kids than she did me , I felt like an option to her , I was no longer her priority to find out she was screwing someone else. So my advice to you if you want
To save your relationship start focusing on your partner and prioritizing him , if he feels you are making an effort he more
Than likely will do the same , unless he is cheating on you

ɹǝʇʇɐɥpɐW · Accepted Answer

Yes, it is very much possible to love your child but not their mother/father. Honestly, I'd be concerned if your man loved you more than your child and the implication that it is not the same for you is worrisome. I think the vast majority of people would agree that the child should always be the most important thing.

Apple1996 · Answer

Yes definitely the kid is his own blood. The baby mama is not

nastyb · Answer

my mother was a narcissist. she destroyed my relationship with my father because she thought I was a threat to her marriage. I was more attractive than her. I was smarter. I had better earning prospects. She was jealous.

My father bullied me for years just to appease my mother. He wouldn't even walk next to me in public. My father was a monumental figure in my life and I used to be his sidekick when I was a child. It did more than just hurt me. It traumatized me. Parents are the biggest figures in a child's life. Never ever destroy that. Unless you want to traumatize your daughter for life.

if you are ever jealous about that , it means you don't love your daughter enough.

Anonymous · Answer

NEVER be jelous of a child. You should be greatful instead. Having said that, SADLY yes, some couples fall out of love for a number of reasons, but they can also fall back in love.. work on it. Just be thankful they love your children that's the best. Some leave the entrie family without care to what the child needs or feels.

If he is still there work on it, sometimes we think we are too old to do certain things but really we are not, fix yourself up and do romantic spontanious things to make him fall back in love

provokeesmokee · Answer

So lemme get this straight.

You feel like you need to compete with your own daughter. For your husband.

Please get therapy and couple's therapy before you drive them both away forever. Not to be all alarmist, but this sort of behaviour is exactly why I no longer speak to my mother.

If you want to keep your relationship with both of them, get therapy.

Sweetsurprize · Answer

Wow how cruel. If it wasn't for her, he wouldn't even HAVE that child. How annoying and disrespectful, not to mention immature. But yes, unfortunately, I've seen it. I guess it's kind of evolutionary because most parents want their offspring to survive and be able to reproduce again so that they can give him (them) grandchildren. It's just tradition mixed with science but sadly twisted and cruel. Especially in today's world.

ShadowYamihiro · Answer

Well depends on the person, for majority ofc they would love their child more, but not all. You can love your child but you aren't in love with them so one might love the mother much more, I think it depends on how much someone connects with their child.

Anonymous · Answer

Just ask any divorced parent if they still love their child more than their ex. If however, you are still together, instead of ask it here, why aren't you talking to him. Problems and worries don't get solved if you just let them fester. I would caution you NOT to try and use his love, no matter how strong, against him or to compare and contrast, but just let him know what you want or need from him in order for you to feel like you're okay.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Yes he can because the child is another person, usually a man loves his wife and kids, but sometimes when the couple are having difficulties in their relationship or about to divorce, there ain't no reason for the parent to hate his kids cause they did nothing wrong...

Staximus · Answer

Every one of my friends that has kids loves their kids more than their wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend. Most parents love their kids more than anybody else. If they don't then there's something wrong with them, unless their kid is the evil child of satan or something. If you feel like he loves you less than he did before, that has nothing to do with your daughter.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

Absolutely. How can you love someone who keeps your child away from you (as happens very often).
Too many mothers get bitter and vengeful, harm kids by not letting them have a proper relationship with the father.

ta-ra · Answer

Why would you even be mad about that?  Parents are SUPPOSED to love their babies more than anyone else...  I'm actually irritated reading this.. tf is this

Anemone978 · Answer

I suppose he loves his child.. My husband used to be jealous of my kids because I showed them more love and affection but that is cuz they are my kids..

inhua · Answer

a parent should love their offspring more than their spouse. that doesn't mean they don't love their spouse

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Yes, some guys use women for that purpose and some women use guys for that purpose. I think it's more rare for guys to do it.

Pudsmucker · Answer

It happens that way a lot when couples are separated. Sometimes a couples play the child against the opposing parent. Which is wrong they should not say anything negative or derogatory about the their Ex.

DextroShade · Answer

You sound insecure. The child is supposed to come first, it's the law of nature, but that doesn't mean he will leave you because an intact family is what's best for her.

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Some of 'em forcefully take their children away from their mother.

DarkLegacy · Answer

Obviously, grow up and live in the real world and stop being so selfish. Honestly, women these days.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, sad to say, but this can be true

smilelots · Answer

Yes, I love my kids but I no longer love the mother of my children that’s just the way it is. I’m sure she feels the same about me.

Twalli · Answer

I am pretty sure Eminem hates his daughter's mother. Judging by the fact that he's written several songs about his daughter and claims she's what saved him from his demons, I would say he loves her.

JohnSmityJohnson · Answer

That's his kid. He's not going to love anyone else more. Take a step back and realize you are jealous of your own child.

Anonymous · Answer

yes i see it all the time. divorce is a thing.

Luopio27 · Answer

This happens often with divorced parents. They love the kids but hate each other.

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Isn't that normal? Aren't a man's children supposed to be the centre of his world?

KrakenAttackin · Answer

HELL YES. You can love your child but absolutely detest the mother.

OddBeMe · Answer

I know men who love their wives and children and the children of her previous relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

It may be that he loves you but you are a firm second in his life now the child is there.

Anonymous · Answer

Wouldn't you WANT your man to love and care for your daughter more?

robocop666 · Answer

Most people hate their exes. I have relatives and I only met the father once in my life.

MuhammedNada · Answer

sadly yes. I hope it is just a feeling and that he cares for you both equally.

boggboss · Answer

Yes ofc that is possible lol

electromagnetic · Answer

Happens all the time.

JosyJosy · Answer

Yep that's how divorces go sometimes

elizamichale1 · Answer

I don't think so

Anonymous · Answer

Yes he certainly can.

swettannie · Answer

yes it's absolutely possible lol

Vegasrunner · Answer

I would argue that this is usually the case

Starrrboy · Answer

Yeah , it happens all the time...

imfreeze95 · Answer

Yes it’s very possible

Kaiini · Answer

A kid normally is the glue to a relationship right

Sinmaster · Answer

Fuck yeah... this is my current situation

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes.

DreamLife7 · Answer

No..

shades777 · Answer

obviously

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Yes.

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Definitely

msc545 · Answer

Yes. I do.

jimmy2 · Answer

That's sad

Anonymous · Answer

Yes of course

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