My partner has said many indirect things to me, how should I deal with him?

[Anonymous]

So has indirectly commented on my looks, my weight and indicated that I was bullied as a kid in the past. But he acts like he is in love with me and loves me deeply and says that he loves me everyday. My feelings just aren't good about him anymore, so atm how should I deal with him before breaking up? Or should I give it a shot?

[StarWarGirl]

You could mention it point this out to him in direct words or could ask direct question quoting his words that what does he ment by saying this. You could mention this is making you feel this way does he wants this to do you could ask him.

[Asker]

I feel like if il be direct then he will have the best of me. That's something I don't want to happen

[Doesitreallymatter2u]

Sometimes we have to be willing to make ourselves vulnerable if we are serious about someone,. If not willing, then that's your answer. If he has been willing to put it out there that he really wants you to communicate with him, then to me that sounds like he is giving you an invitation to tell him how you really feel. I know I'd be grateful for the honesty. I know all men are different, but if you have it already in the works to leave him then what have you got to lose except maybe a little pride. There is a buddhist sloak that says, Where self is truth is not, where truth is self is not. Ego is the fleeting error of Samsara. There is no way you being honest and direct with him can get the better of you. You can only get the better of yourself by not moving into truth. Don't hold back out of fear, but move into courage and take your power back ! If you afraid of him mocking you and being an ass, then that's on him and his reaction will tell you exactly what you need to do next. Respect is a two way street and communication is the life blood of a relationship. Without it there is no relationship. It's dead on arrival.

[RyanK9b]

Maybe talked to him first and not just loose interest bc he said thing indirectly. This doesn't mean he doesn't love you...

[Asker]

He said to communicate and I have and he doesn't put his end up in the bargain. He said things that put my self esteem really low and I don't depend on him for that but I'm feeling like he didn't respect me...

[RyanK9b]

Maybe he wants that u think about that? Do u gain weight? Do you neglect your appearance?