I’ve been with my boyfriend for a few months. The other day we were fooling around on the sofa and kissing and touching etc. but we didn’t have sex because I started shaking and felt uncomfortable because I’ve had a traumatic past with sex and abusive partners.
The next day, we went to the gym and I decided to wear a blue hoodie to work out in. Then he looked at me and said “is that what you are wearing to the gym? I’d get changed into something else if I were you”. So I felt self conscious and had about myself and so I changed into a short sleeve tee to workout in. Then when we were working out together he said “I wish girls in the gym wouldn’t walk around wearing tight shorts and sports bras, I mean do they want me to look at their bodies or something?” And I felt so incredibly hurt that he said this to me but I shut away my feelings and just coped.
Then later on at the gym he told me that he had a pain in his groin and that it was blue balls and said it was my fault because I didn’t have sex with him that night. I feel like he was trying to punish me for this the next day.
Why does he make me feel bad about myself by talking about other women like they are objects?
