Does someone with a high body count mean they can't be a faithful partner in a relationship in your opinion?

[Still-alive]

I'll keep my opinion out of this one for now. i just wanna see how many people here think if someone has a high body count that means they are likely to cheat in a relationship.

Very likely. a person with a high body count means they are more likely to cheat in a relationship

Likely

Sometimes

Not likely

Not at all. There's no correlation between someone having a high body count and them being a cheater

I'm unsure and wanna see results

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+1 y

Saw a lot of people stating this in this question here: Would you date someone with a high bodycount? ↗

[msmissydc]

I dont think they correlate at all. You can never had a partner before and than after you found one thinkjhe isn't what I like and cheat or you could have 100 of sexual-partners than find one and be complete with them alone without the need for anyone else.

[petitedollbabee]

Not at all, there’s no correlation. In fact the guys that I’ve been cheated on the most by are the ones with very low body counts, lol.

[LazerBean]

I don't know that they are specifically more likely to cheat, since nobody really wants to do a study on that in light of what it would imply. But in my personal, sourceless opinion it seems logical to me that someone who repeatedly make poor choices, has weak self control, and a long history of being a screw up is likely to continue being so within marriage. But even if that is not true, there are more than enough other reasons that make men and women with high body counts inferior marriage material.

[Still-alive]

"make poor choices, has weak self control, and a long history of being a screw up is likely to continue being so within marriage."

And in your opinion sleeping around when single is making 'poor choices' and 'being a screw up?' just to clarify.

[LazerBean]

Yes, of course

[Sparks722]

So because somebody enjoys sex, they're "making poor choices, have weak self control, and is a screw up?"

That's awfully judgmental.

Also, what are those "other, more than enough reasons" that somebody who likes sex would be "inferior marriage material"?

[LazerBean]

Yes it's judgmental, and good judgement at that.

And the other reasons are the rates at which they get divorced, their inferior rates of marital satisfaction, and the higher rate that they produce broken homes and children who are at a disadvantage in life.

[Sparks722]

Ouch. I'm so sorry that you've obviously been hurt. I hope you're talking to somebody about these things- seriously, there are resources out there available.

However, anecdotal evidence from a single person isn't really good data.

[ManOnFire]

Not sure if I'd necessarily say they can't be faithful, but I think when you've been with many partners there is probably going to be somewhat of a numbing effect over time, to where you basically see each new person as no big deal in the long run. You may have initial excitement and fulfillment with them in the beginning but I imagine that as time goes on you'll start to see them as no big deal, because you're used to having a next and a next and a next. This in turn could cause them to cheat, but not necessarily.

[Radiate143]

No not at all. It has to do with the person's character.

Them being promiscuous could be that they are very attractive, have a strong sexual aura and people want to do them.

Or they like sex and have had a lot of opportunities.

Perhaps they have turned down way more sex than they have actually had.

If someone has slept with a lot of people I would be more concerned with past sexial trauma, attachment issues, mood and personality disorders than cheating.

Do they have a subsrance abuse problem like alcohol?

Plenty of cheaters who have had very few partners.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

A high body count doesn't mean they will cheat per se.

However a high body count strongly implies that they are unable to deal with relationships in a mature or responsible manner. That they are more adept at running away when a problem - no matter how minor - arises rather than helping or supporting their partner. That they are not reliable & can not be trusted to be helpful or consistent.

I've only dated a few men & never any with high body counts. But looking at friends & relatives with their high body count partners I've make a blunt comparable.

Like "fairweather friends" around when you don't need them, gone when you need them.

[SakuraBlossoms87]

Furthermore it also implies a lack of mental strength, weak willpower (ironically most people with high body count are addicted to something such as drugs, gambling or booze which supports this), poor or even non existent judgement abilities, etc. Generally an impaired lifestyle.

[Sparks722]

"ironically most people with high body count are addicted to something such as drugs, gambling or booze which supports this"

Is there research on this? Asking because I'm genuinely curious to learn more.

[menina]

Sometimes, I would say it depends on the person. I see cheating as part of someone's personality and beliefs, not something that it's related to their sexual life.

[Sparks722]

Honestly, I see this as much more of a positive than anything else.

People who have been around a bit have a much wider frame of reference to what they are and aren't ok with, as well as being better able to communicate what they like and dislike.

Basically, in my experience (my own included) and my opinion, having been around the block a time or three means you're going to be a more honest, experienced, conscientious partner.

[goaded]

What if they were totally honest and up-front with every one of their partners and broke up (or explicitly said it was a one-off) before they found someone new? They'd never have cheated.

[goaded]

If anything it's more likely that someone with a moderate body count was a cheater, because they could have had relationships that lasted long enough to allow them to cheat.

[LiamJHayden]

It depends. I was really bad from 14 to 20, but even then never cheated in a relationship. Since then I have always waited and have never strayed. Others see cheating as no big deal as long as they do not get caught.

[Twalli]

It's possible that they just haven't been in long term relationships before

[Still-alive]

But you don't see a strong correlation between these two things?

[Twalli]

No, because plenty of people can sleep around and never date. Their body count would increase, but they weren't being unfaithful.

[Twalli]

I will say that they aren't high quality choices for a long-term relationship, because they haven't had them. Even a person who has never been in a relationship is a higher choice for a long term relationship than those with high body counts.

[Drumlin2001]

No. How someone acts when single isn't how they act in a relationship

[Slim57]

It doesn't mean that, but usually people with high body counts are known to "more likely" cheat

[Still-alive]

You got any data to back that up by chance?

[Slim57]

Nope, I just go by what myself and others have experienced, I've noticed people who sleep around are more often in and out of relationships, instead of staying in long ones, and girls I've dated with lots of "experience" have been the ones to cheat, meanwhile the one virgin girl I do date I've been with the longest, could be coincidence, could be I'm right

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes, very likely they can be a faithful partner.

[Sparkie460]

Just because they were with a lot of people before you doesn't mean they can't be faithful

[spartan55]

One has nothing to do with the other.

[msc545]

Maybe..