Do you choose a partner based primarily on physical characteristics or how compatible your personalities are?

[caring__1]

Ignore DALL-E3's terrible spelling. Sorry.

[Lily_lilac]

My answer may sound cliche, but i would go with personality. Believe it or not, i notice this one guy purely based on his act. He is being ded gentle and im melting over it and eventually have a crush on him and now at the stage of loving him. Knowing his good personality makes me look at him as attractive physically as well

[caring__1]

How we look depends on how we feel. I could follow you around for a day, snapping photos of you. I could show those photos to someone who doesn't know you, and that person would probably assume the photos were of different people. If you feel intelligent, you'll look intelligent. If you feel sexy, you'll look sexy. If you feel loved, you'll look beautiful. It's amazing how a person's attractiveness can change drastically, just based on how they are feeling or how you are feeling. People may view your favorite meal as disgusting, while you see it as comfort food associated with positive memories of your childhood. Beauty will always be in the eyes of the beholder.

[Lily_lilac]

well said tho

[sage2021]

Sometimes a person isn't particularly attracted to someone instantly, but the person grows on them and so then you have what you're looking for.

[caring__1]

Unfortunately, people nowadays tend to be very impulsive. They don't have the patience to stick around after the first impression and get to know the actual person. I understand the physical is a quick way to get noticed, but, if there's nothing below the surface, the relationship isn't likely to thrive.

[Apple1996]

I only date for personality and compatability. Looks aren't even a factor

[AviatorTom]

The initial attraction is almost always physical. The relationship then develops... or not... based on personality.

[Avicenna]

It's personality and interests.

[Drewtate]

physical attractiveness is the first thing most guys notice then personality. It's he physical attractiveness that first gets yout to approach her. Although my current girlfriend I wasn't really that sure about because she wears a lot of frumpy clothes but I liked her personality and she was pretty around the face, I just thought she was a bit overweight. Then when we first had sex and she hot naked, not fat at all, she dressed frumpy because she had big tits that are a bit oversized for her short little body.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Primarily how compatible I feel we are.
how his character is, and just how I feel when I'm with him. Am I comfortable? Can we talk and spend time together? Enjoy each other's company?
Is he a good kisser? Etc.
Does he show interest.

It's stuff like that.

[IslaTheWitch]

I met my husband online, so long before I knew what he looked like, I liked him for his writing.

In reality, we are totally opposite, but we share similar interests and opinions, so we have a strong base for friendship. It's not an ideal relationship, but it has worked for over 20 years.

[RealMarek]

Both/and. I think that if two people are attracted to each other there will be some physical attraction up front, perhaps because of subtle factors like compatible body chemistry. It’s not the only factor, but not one to be dismissed entirely at the beginning of a relationship.

[shades777]

both, its never one or the other, both are equally as important however I notice people try to put one on the pedestal and look down on the other as if they have some sort of superiority complex.


at the end of the day you want someone thats easy on the eyes and easy on the ears, and easy on the nose.


anyone who says otherwise is mostly a liar and in great illusions

[electromagnetic]

In a perfect world maybe we’d consider compatibility first but I think for a lot of us, we are drawn firstly by their physical being. Then it’s just a matter of time and seeing how much of the person you enjoy and what you can oversee.

[ArrowheadSW]

I like to go more off of personality. Looks are important also. But ultimately personality and compatibility with common ethics and interests, will win.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

The initial attraction to someone is almost always due to immediately-visible physical features.

The choice is mostly because of favorable & endearing personality traits.

[Miristheiss]

It is pretty 50/50.

50% I must be attracted to them.

50% I must enjoy their personality and have common shared core values with them and have similar beliefs and life goals.

[Tiishyy]

A little bit of both for me, I definitely need to have somewhat of physical attraction to you and/or find you attractive but have a good personality is a must as well

[Starrrboy]

Choosing someone based primarily on physical characteristics seems like a fling to me 😅.. It's not that black and white.. I just like the whole package lol..

[andreasderjuengere]

I choose her based on her sex drive compatibility and mutual body type interests.

For anything else, there's Mastercard, or my best friend.

[Simslover92]

How compatible our personalities are was a big factor for me but attraction did play a role as well but not as big as personalities aligning.

[Lisia]

Personality is the most important for me, although I need to find them a little' attractive tbh 😅

[Sonjita]

First of all, looks. Because it's the first thing we notice. And then if we get to know each other, if they pass the vibe check. 😄

[RedInnocent68]

Both. You have to start talking to them to get to know their personality, so looks come first/have a slight edge.

[exitseven]

It was really both. I thought she was really pretty but after I got to know more about her I thought she was amazing.

[Paul09]

First thing I'd the looks you can't avoid that. But personality is a must. We must connect in a metal level. And that's why it's better to date 3+ months without sex. To really see if you connect.

[colaman94]

I'd say the physical is very important, immediately by personality traits. 👀👀👍💘😏

[BCA6010]

Looks get my attention but it's mostly personality that carries it once conversations start.

[strateguy632]

first i reject ugly then if good i meet and reject based on compatibility

[Selliebeanz]

Looks draw you in. Personality is the deciding factor if I’d stay.

[Madkeyra00]

Physical is important but I’ll go with character any day.

[Iron_Man]

Everything involved and I mean everything from intelligence kindness, beauty, character, faithfulness humor moral values, bonding, everything in the book loyalty and loving

[Jamie05rhs]

Personality, of course. This isn't the middle east. We don't control our wives. So we have to choose someone agreeable if we don't want the rest of our existence to be a living hell.

[DummyThiccFeraligatr]

Compatibility, of course. People care way too much about appearance.

As long as she's sexually attractive enough for all the adult stuff to be easy, then I'm good.

[Nikki1989]

Personality. Looks make up for maybe 10% of the initial attraction, if that.

[Blueeyes81]

Both. Why is it always one or the other on this site.

[caring__1]

I'd like to know the same thing.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Stop using AI's to make art.

But to answer your question, primarily both.

[LunarEclipse433]

Yes to both. I have to be attracted to them but I have to feel we will get along even if it is just casual sex

[Likes2drive]

Physical looks first then see how compatible they are with me

[Wise4myage]

For me, its 50-50 for looks and physical characteristics.

[Shiningtempest]

@caring__1 I choose my partner based on shared interest & shared music genre over how compatible my personalities are.

[summiter]

Both obviously but mostly on personality

[LaLoba]

Both are very important.

[Masterodd]

looks.. always looks.

[In_Trance]

It's always a balance of both

[krin_m]

Compatibility.

[MaxUsefull]

At first physical appearance

[LiamJHayden]

Personality.