In my country, marketers/massage therapists have a notorious reputation for being greedy. Cleaners are not exactly like Lindsay Lohan type. Not joking, they have a very low social status even if they earn a lot of money.
So healthcare workers, or rather nurses (I am aware of a few nurses who were with bad though) and doctors are the only in good categories. Only if people could be fitted with personality traits it would be great.
Thing is people with good personality and intelligence and average looks to good matter a lot in a man's life. No one wants a lavish spender. Wives in the past used to be very thrifty. Sadly, now the media and family brought up as a result of turning girls into Queen complex and associating material richness with actual royal status has twisted a lot of the girls by their parents.
So in short they don't understand and they don't want to understand the value of money and just go and act like bitches for the riches till they end up ageing and then regretting things.
And get this, it might make me feel racist as f but after keeping on trying and trying and not finding a good woman to marry I am not going to accept I am the problem and here is why;
So I was using a brand new motor with a brand new pump. Different manufacturers. So the pump set kept vibrating excessively. Changed 1 motor then another motor, then 1 pump and then the other pump and then a 3rd motor. I kept blaming the motor manufacturer as everyone said fault is in motor. And finally the fault turned out to be in the entire series of pumps they produced. Only found that out when the old batch of pumps spare I tested and it worked.
So, the world is trying to normalize barbie complex and thinking hey if your little daughter doesn't act like a barbie in the family and doesn't act like a toxic person in a relationship she isn't going to have a good life.
How do they say it, oh yeah the "fair maidens" kept looking for the perfect one while the baddies ones ended up stealing the entire crowd.
First of all you have to realize men don’t really care about your finances. Just cause women care about that, as well as security, men don’t. We don’t think like women. Men don’t look at women for security or finances. Chances are if she’s in a higher position like a CEO or something like that she’s going to be more masculine. She’s not going to have time for a man. Men don’t want masculine women. I’d probably go for the healthcare worker or the cleaner if they’re cute because initially that’s what draws a man in, looks. Finances or a bachelors degree don’t make women more attractive.
I think it does to some. Especially men with a degree.
Not really.
That has come from their own mouths, but perhaps they’re a minority.
Every man I know has a degree, none of us care what you do for a living.
@BoopBoopBeep thanks for the comment
Where’s the prostitute option? That’s the only acceptable answer here.
Speaking to guys in person I do think men care about a woman’s finances as it’s a lot of pressure on men to be the only provider now.
They all seem like they could be good options!
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u My decision about who to marry would never be based on their occupation.
Sorry to ask the obvious but for the sake of clarity what is/are the primary deciding factor/s for you?
Obviously, I wouldn't date someone if I didn't feel a physical attraction to them; that is an absolute requirement but never an issue. Aside from that, I am looking for someone who is a genuinely nice person, a gentle soul, someone who wants to love and to be loved, someone who does not dwell on conflicts, and who is willing to work on conflicts instead of walking away from the relationship.
Yeah I completely agree with that.
The profession doenst matter as much to me. What matters is the heart.
Personally, her job, career and earnings have no bearing or influence over my income. While I have no interest in getting tied up in a marriage, I wouldn't care if she worked at McDonald's, Starbucks or marketed corn chips. As long as we were a good match and we met each others preferences as a couple then I will be happy to be exclusive.
Ladies, what is it going to take to get you to understand that, unlike women, men don't care about your job or career. The only thing we care about in that respect is that you're not in a career that would make you a poor choice for a wife and mother.
Doesn’t financial stability come into play under that too though?
What career would make someone a poor choice wife/mother?
Financial stability is important but I can take care of that myself. What I need from a woman in my life is not to be a provider, but rather to be a lover, a nurturer and a good mother, and to make our house a home that everyone wants to come home to. Ambitious, career driven women don't make good mothers. A woman who is a doctor or a lawyer, for example, will never be able to make her children and family the center of her universe, as a good wife and mother will. Paying someone else to raise her children five days a week is NOT being a good mother. Daycare workers don't love and care for children the way a mother does. So many of the problems in modern society are related to the fact that children don't have good parents who put their children first, above all else.
Fair enough. Why are they not good parents in your eyes when their kids turn out to do well?
Just out of curiosity, how were you raised?
"Turn out well" is subjective. In the vast majority of cases, even if a child turned out ok, they would have been better if they had a fulltime parent, when they were young, especially the first few years , which are critical in mental and emotional development.
The first three years of life are a critical period for children’s brain development, and any deprivation over those years will result in persistent deficits in cognitive, emotional and even physical health. A good mother takes full advantage of those years to teach a child as much as she can, and help them develop emotional maturity. If you miss that opportunity, you can't get it back.
Yes, I had a good mother growing up. My siblings and I are very lucky that way.
www.educationalneuroscience.org.uk/.../
no, infact men prefer a woman with no job so we can take care of you, we want to be needed
@007kingifrit men can still be needed when she has a job, she’s just not dependent and he less chance of being taken advantage of or abused.
@007kingifrit I don't agree with that. I don't mind if she works, or even has a career, as long as it's not while kids are young. The kids and home need to be her focus during those years. It's fine if she wants to do some parttime work while the kids are in grade school, and maybe somethnig more serious once they are in junior high school, but she needs to be able to maintain the home, do the shopping and be there when the kids get home, and be available to pick them up from school during the day if they are sick, etc. Once the kids are grown she can reenter the workforce and have any career she wants. I think that's ideal actually.
you are trying to argue with me anon poster but it doesn't work, we know what we want, we don't like your job
@007kingifrit trying to argue with you? You mean just stating a different opinion that’s different to yours, that is allowed believe it or not. People will have differing views and beliefs based on their own experiences. If I know anything about life it’ll teach you a lesson soon enough to contradict what you say.
what is life going to teach me? men don't like women with jobs
@007kingifrit "what is life going to teach me? men don't like women with jobs"
You definitely don't speak for most men. It's about her priorities, and what job she has is a reflection of her priorities, but that doesn't mean she can't have a job at all.
You are part of a small minority of men. Don't act like most of us are like you. We're not.
i never said she can't have any job
@007kingifrit "no, infact men prefer a woman with no job"
Your words ^.
yes, i said ""no, infact men prefer a woman with no job""
you said : "but that doesn't mean she can't have a job at all."
i didn't claim what you responded to, you subtly changed the subject , my comment says men prefer women to have less of a job, your comment implies women CAN'T have jobs, very different statements
@007kingifrit No, you said men prefer a woman with no job, which is false for most men.
Aslong as we was able to get by fine the job don't matter
Financially you mean or emotionally?
Doesn't really matter to me.. If I'm attracted to her, and she's smart and funny.. She could work at McDonald's or Walgreens for all I care.. Although, it does seem like it would be nice to date a Massage therapist.
None of those, I want an artist that is also a scientist, gamer, and collector.
So you’re saying someone with common interests then
Yep. Otherwise the relationship will fail.
It wouldn’t if you were more open minded. Plenty of couples have different interests and hobbies but still work well together, it’s more about values.
"Open minded" isn't an actual thing, it's just something people say to oppose people disliking something when they have no actual argument.
People who don't share the same hobbies, interests, views, personality, etc, end up spending less tome together, arguing about things, and eventually divorcing. Or they live very boring lives to avoid combativeness.
Neither sounds appealing.
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Also values and interests/hobbies are tied together like a cobweb. If they lack shared interests and hobbies, they are going to lack shared core values too.
For example my core values revolve around perpetuating my interests and hobbies.
My personality, my goals, my lifestyle choices, my biases and perspectives, everything stems from those 2 things.
But then I'm a hedonist, so the entire point of existing is enjoyment, therefor hobbies/interests are my priority to which I build my life around.
It’s not that extreme, there’s actually more of a middle ground. But each to their own.
I'd get bored af living in the middle ground, I'd rather go all in on what I love, and I'd rather marry a woman who does the same for the same hobbies and interests.
Lol guys, too much virtue signaling 😂... I think out of these it'd be Beauty & massage therapist.. in an all women place of course 😤 haha..
This is what I wonder about. When there’s trust and a private space men often speak differently.
Why did you choose that option just out of curiosity?
Power dynamics being what exactly?
Random will still go for massages
Ah I see, and why don’t you want that? Because she’ll be more stressed and it’ll effect the quality of your relationship?
I don't care what she does for a living. I never have. I never will.
Healthcare worker. They are predisposed to be kind.
You can't answer that just from this. But let me say the least is probably Healthcare worker. Most women on dating sites are either teachers are nurses. That should tell you something.
Their jobs are more demanding, yes.
They also don’t work with as many males, so there are plenty of reasonable explanations too.
massage therapist, i want good back rubs sometimes 😂
Almost dated a massage therapist but I don’t trust her to not give happy endings and cheat
Really? I doubt women see things the same way men do, they don’t drool over having their hands on a man’s body when they have no emotional connection with them.
Maybe for the extra money though. It’s just that She would always try to get away with things, call out, leave early, lie about things and even the first week I met her she wanted me to sleep with her. We had an emotional connection at that point but she kept wanting to sleep with me even though she had a boyfriend. She was also flirting with everyone so It was just too many red flags for me to trust her at all.
Ah I see, sounds like her character was more the issue than her occupation.
That isn't how most guys think.
Guys say that but when it comes down to it they often do, I’ve heard some of my male friends say this themselves.
My friends aren’t teens 🙄 bit arrogant to assume you as one person also speak for an entire population, wouldn’t you say.
I didn't say anything about your friends' age. I brought up my age because being alive as a male for that long gives me more anecdotal evidence than your small sample size. Read the males' answers on this post. Me saying I have a more accurate male perspective than a female isn't arrogant. You thinking that as a female, you have a more accurate perspective is arrogant.
I've enjoyed dating nurses.
But I don't date or marry based on profession
I married a high-powered, high-earning woman and I divorced her cold-hearted abusive ass!
Did you take her money too?
No, butI wish I had!
the massage therapist as she can give me back rubs
All the above, doesn't really matter
Marketer. You talked me into it.
So it is about money lol
No, I’m also rewatching MadMen 😂
Massage therapist. I love massages.
Would rather marry/date seriously.
Definitely not you if this is your mindset lol
Why?
But as a man I would marry a prostitute.
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