Earlier this year, I was dating a wonderful woman. From the moment we first kissed, I "knew" that she was the one. Over the next few months, we never argued and had an intense physical relationship, but were also great friends. I never thought about or was even interested in looking at other girls during this time. Then one day she ended it, saying she did think she felt what she needed to be feeling to continue to marriage, but told me I had been the perfect boyfriend. As a first responder who has seen many tragic and horrific things over the years, this pain hurt me like nothing ever has before. I was truly heart broken. Several months later, I started dating another beautiful and wonderful woman. The relationship dynamic has been different. We have each faced major health crises in that time, family stress, and other typical life stressors. We are now talking about getting engaged. I know that she is amazong and would make a wonderful wife and mother. I know that I can be a faithful husband to her. However, I wouldn't say that I feel the same way that I did about my ex, where I was over the moon in love. I think that this is normal and life is not a fairy tale. Perhaps that intense physical connection will grow over time. But I think that if my girlfriend heard how I feel, that she would dump me and say that I don't really love her, which I do. Also, I feel it is important to point out that we are Christians , so the speed of the relationship and lack of physical intimacy is what's expected, although I have not always followed that in the past. Am I being unfair to my girlfriend?
Girls, What if I love my girlfriend, but not how I loved my ex?
