Also, my friends say there is some significance to this, but she first stated she wanted a break, not a break up. I of course, reacted horribly to her suggesting that, and due to my actions she then stated, she wanted a "Break up". I can also say I was her first boyfriend, kiss, hug, anything you can think or I was her first... I am not sure if that means something though.
At any rate, she broke up with me, and it effected me greatly. Not only me but her as well it seems. Her and I both stopped eating properly for quite awhile. She put up sad love songs on youtube about regret and loss, she joined sad facebook groups some titled "Acting like everything is okay when it is killing you inside." "I think about you a lot..." Etc.
Granted it has been some time since I saw the last signs of pain, namely due to her blocking me on most things. Reason being, because I fell into the trap of desperation of trying to reach her, see what she is doing, so on an so forth. The last time I honestly did not try communicating with her was for about a month. So as far as that goes I am improving.
The more pressing matter I am concerned about is, after about a month and a half after the break up she started dating a guy over the internet. Now, I am 22, she is 19, but this new guy is 16 and lives in England where as she lives in the United States. All my friends are telling me he is just a rebound and it will not last, but it seems like they have been together for about 3-4 months now. I am unsure how long rebounds last, but I think that may be a bit long.
Also, awhile back I noticed that he would state things like. "I love you eternally! My princess! Forever we will be together! That will never change!" Stuff like that. And he does it often, but each time he shows public affection she does not seem to reply to it. The most he had received was. "Aw thanks."
Even on facebook, the moment we broke up she hid her relationship status, she never put single or anything. She deleted it. And if she is with this guy now, why hasn't she put up being in a relationship with "this person."?
A lot of it does not seem to make much sense to me and I am trying to piece together what is the most logical answer.
In the end my questions are...
Is this new guy a rebound?
Does she love him?
Is she still in pain due to the break up?
Does she still love me?
Did she really just want a break at first or did she really want to break up?
Would she want to make things work in time?
Thank you for your help in advance.
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Hi my name is Sean I've kinda had the same thing in my relationship. Me and my fiance were together 5 years, we were getting married had a home and department store.. At that time I had lost myself in our relationship and was dealing with personal issues that were hindering my relationship. She is my first love also, I know now after getting myself back I became clingy and our relationship was no longer evolving. When she left me I was very heartbroken did all that stuff I lost it, begged pleaded, numerous text.. I just couldn't believe I was loosing my family. Since then I've gotten in shap e, got a life coach began reading numerous books on relationships etc. I really put in the effort and I'm sincerely sorry for things I did. It's been 14 mo and 2 months after we split, she began dating this one guy, I ran him off.. Then immediately after she got with this other guy, who now lives at our house and they been going out 114 mo now.. Is he a rebound I mean she never took time alone.. Because I stayed single 8mo I still loved her very much and still do. I've loved her since kids, I know we forgot why we were together and both destroyed what we had. Now my actions led to it.. Do I have a chance. I could really use some input. I've dated other girls I'm 36 she's 33 we've talked a few times first time I took her roses on mother's day 2015 she was so mad, we spoken via text and she dosent really talk.. I just wish she would let me show her I'm 1000% sorry for the dick I was. One morning I came up stairs and she told me she prayed I would do better, the wheels vegan spinning and I got myself together. She's telling this new guy she loves him on FB it hurts to see that, but I can deal now.. I was so angry at her for destroying us but how can I be mad at her cause elfor everything I was mad at her for, she can be mad at me for something, she raised hell about me doing right, I don't know I sit sometimes and I still miss her so much #daily. It would be so nice just to talk. I've been NC 2mo she dosent ever reach out its like I don't exist, I moved to VA for her. She said she didn't love me anymore.. I'm not so sure of that. Her new boyfriend fell off the ladder broke his neck 2 places, so I know she's pulling wheight. When I first got together after 15 years apart I would snatch the sun down for her, I lost that somewhere became depressed and had anxiety. I don't think she knows how much work I have put in I had no relationship skills. Any advice, how to get her to talk?