My ex said I love you during sex?

[Lknsgtn]

Hi everyone !

So I've been seeing my ex for about 2 years now probably every week or so just to have sex, obviously at the start I had feelings for him still, and he really could care less about me (because he has a girlfriend, yeah I'm not so proud about this).

But now it's like the roles are reversed I really do not care anymore, and he's the one calling me EVERYDAY to see me (just for sex but still before it used to be once every 2 months), and the last time we did it he said "I love you" like he looked into my eyes and everything.
He saw my face just fall apart and then he said "umm no i don't know" and I sort of ignored it because I didn't want to make a big deal out of this.

But now I can't stop thinking about it and I wonder if I still have feelings for him or if he does? And it's not like I can keep him out of my mind because he calls me everyday, (I don't go everytime though), and also he has a girlfriend of 2 years and I just don't understand why he stays with her because he says "I don't care about her". And also I can't confront him about this because he's the kind to hide his feelings so even if it were true he would probably deny it. HELP ME UNDERSTAND MEN OHMYGOD !

1. Does he still have feelings for me? (I was his 1st serious relationship)

2. Does he actually still love/respect his gf when he's sleeping with me?

[Anonymous]

This guy is a major manipulator , First off you do care about him. Because you are trying to find out if he was genuine about I love you comment , No he didn't mean it. He was just trying to see your reaction , Mind game trick. This guy has a girlfriend , Don't believe he doesn't care about her. Because if he didn't he will leave , Men are always trying to make their girlfriend look bad when cheating. Because it will justify their actions in your eyes. By you giving him sex , Knowing he's in a relationship. You're further being used.

[Anonymous]

1. Sure.
2. No.

He's an asshole to be dating a girl for two years and still fuck around with an ex behind her back. You're an ex for a reason. You shouldn't be a "side chick" either. You're clearly being used for sex, but if that makes you feel good, then continue.

[Anonymous]

Wow there is so much messed up about that question. That guy sounds crazy to me. All of that is just confusing. Sounds like you should block his number or something. Wow.

[Lknsgtn]

haha all my friends say the same thing, but he's the only man I actually loved in my whole life and I sort of don't want him out of my life that's why I keep answering his calls

[Opinion Owner]

But he has a girlfriend of 2 years and you've been broken up for 2 years and have been seeing each other a lot in that time. That's strange...

[Lknsgtn]

yeah I know we've been seeing eachother ever since he broke up with me to get with this other girl

[Opinion Owner]

Wow... strange

[beesod]

He loves having a girlfriend and using you on the side. Of course he loves you. He probably loves her too and probably every other girl he cheats with.

If you are not proud of what you have done, change it! You have self control.

Also, avoid this guy. He obviously has zero trust or loyalty. I hope for his girlfriends sake he gets caught.

Supposing he left her for you. Would he think anything different in a relationship with you? No. Don't fall for his lying.

[Lknsgtn]

the funny thing (or not so funny) is that he actually did get caught, and she slutshamed me to everyone but still stayed with him I mean god, are you that stupid? If you know your guy is sleeping with his ex either deal with it if you wanna stay with him or dump his ass, and this happened at least 3 times in their relationship

[beesod]

He must be a very manipulative figure. I don't care how attractive he may be, he has a lack of respect for both you and his girlfriend. Don't bring yourself to his and her level. No matter how much you hate her or like him... Forget him and keep your self respect. You wouldn't want your future boyfriend sleeping with someone else even if you broke up with him unlike her... And no matter the story it takes two to tango.

[funkipunk]

1. He definitely still has feelings for you. There's no other reason he'd still be seeing you, and say something like "I love you" if he didn't.

2. He doesn't love/respect his girlfriend if he's been sleeping with you on the side for 2 years now. What a sleaze.

Don't you guys have any self-respect? Seriously, sounds to me like neither you or this guy has any character. How do you live with yourselves

[AmongTheApples]

"So I've been seeing my ex for about 2 YEARS now probably every week or so just to have sex.."

"he has a girlfriend of 2 YEARS..."

(I'd have bolded that instead of capitalizing it, so that those words would've been emphasized—which is all I wanted to do—and it wouldn't have came across as shouting, but since GAG doesn't allow that...)

After rereading your own words, do you still need me to address this?

[Lknsgtn]

yeah well he broke up with me to be with her, and ever since he's been with her, he's been calling me from day one lol

[AmongTheApples]

Ok. Now, think that through. What does that tell you?

[Lknsgtn]

I don't know that's why I'm here asking you guys

[AmongTheApples]

It tells you that he's very untrustworthy to say the least. He's not worth your time. You could never be sure that he wasn't cheating on you. And he might be telling you all this stuff just to keep you around.

[Red_Arrow]

He has a girlfriend that fucks him and keeps him even though he keeps sleeping with a gal on the side, and he's has the gal on the side that keeps fucking him even though he has a girlfriend that he is not leaving. I guess he has what he considers a bit of heaven: great sex with two gals who know about each other and aren't moral enough to get out of the relationship

[Greece1990]

If your sleeping with someone who is in a relationship, there is something messed up about you along with the cheater. Unfaithful, dishonest and immoral people need all the help they can get in the dating world, so good luck.

[Lknsgtn]

well she was flirting with him and sending him pics of her when we were together, so that's probably why I could care less about that stupid bitch

[Greece1990]

Your still in the same boat because the guy actually started all of it, not her.

[Lknsgtn]

not really she was the first to add him on FB, and always the first to send him messages, anyways that's not the point of the story. No I'm not proud but he's the only guy I fell in love with hardcore (and the best sex I've ever had), and I still feel for him, I'm just human after all

[Miniscream]

Us guys are just as confused as girls. BUT. A trick to find out what a guy truly thinks, is to ask him a question in his moment of truth. Which is right after ejaculation or sex. Without being driven by his libido, he thinks a different way. It confuses himself, but sometimes it's how a guy knows if he really likes a girl too (if he understands or has even heard of this before). He could be all into sex and wanting to get dirty and even thinking about future hookups, but as soon as he loses his sex drive while recovering, it's possible he could be thinking, "What was I thinking?"

He's gone back to you so much. I pretty sure he does have feelings for you. Definitely not for his current woman.

[Dakota_The_Rota]

Stop talking to him, what if you were the one getting cheated on?

[Anonymous]

If he cheats with you isn't he also likely to cheat on you?

[Kythe]

I'm thinking...
1. Yes
2. No

[WaterNymph611]

I guess he does still have feelings for you.