My boyfriend of 8 years said he loves me but is not in love with me but has also started being intimate since I’ve lost some weight?

[Anonymous]

Hi all,

so I’ve been with my partner for 8 years, I’ve always been big uk size 20 during the relationship. I did lose 3 dresses sizes at one point and we were having sex all the time. He recently said he loved me but wasn’t in love with me but wants to be with me also we haven’t had sex in a few years. Recently I’ve been going to the gym and want lose weight to feel better and happy with my body and last week we were in bed and he started kissing me and getting quiet hands on. I asked him in the morning ‘that was nice last night’ and he replied it’s probably because you’re losing weight. It’s made me think is it my weight? If I lost weight would he be in love with me? I’m confused about this all.
FYI all his ex’s and women he’s ever dated have been slim.

[hahahmm]

You found that 1 in a million guy who can actually get hotter women but decided to stick it out with you while you were stuffing your face & being too lazy to exercise or whatnot. Loves you but not in love with you? Same kind of thing women have said to millions of dudes... regardless of how she really feels. Could mean he is banging other women. Could mean he lived his life as a monk for years. Could mean he is in love with you but doesn't trust you enough to say it.

Bottom line is he stuck with you when he didn't have to. Now, I wonder if you'd stick with him if he hit hard times for even 1 week? Ha.

Of course, a guy is more into women who are fit. It's biological. Unless you're with the type of guy who would have sex with literally ANYTHING on earth. Then it doesn't matter.

[Honesttguy]

Its funny how clueless you are. You could also ask if guys pay money to see hot women, what are stripclubs for?
Its good that you took your head out of that rock you've been under.
Also i like how honest he was and just straight up told you its cus you go to gym and lost some weight. Good luck

[hahahmm]

Lot of women like that. Man says, "Honey when you wear that dress it turns me on." She instead wears trash bags & oversized man boots & says, "Why aren't you turned on? Doh.. uh uh uh Doh."

[Guy13]

He’s waited as long as he can…summer and skinny women. Keep losin…hopefully that’s encouraging for you.

[Asker]

So is it my fault for not taking action earlier?

[Guy13]

Yes. I would have friend zoned you long ago. Has to be a visible waist

[Avicenna]

He means he’s more turned on by you now that you’re slimmer

[Iron_Man]

Keep working with him

[Asker]

Would you elaborate?

[Iron_Man]

Talk it out with him go over every thing to find out exactly what’s going on remember talking is key

[Ballsack]

Wtf?

[Asker]

I know! He is definitely a shallow guy which he admits to but makes me think are men like this?

[Ballsack]

Yeah, assholes like him are like that lol. Why are you even dating this douche bag?

[Asker]

I do love him he is a great guy but I suppose I blame myself for being overweight which is my fault I should have been more disciplined years ago. Maybe self esteem?

[Ballsack]

He doesn't sound like a great guy lol