What are some signs that a relationship is over and that it's too late to try and fix it?

[blunty]

[tischro]

We've all been there at some point, wondering if it's time to call it quits or keep fighting for a relationship. Here are a few signs that, in my experience, suggest it might be too late to salvage things:

Lack of Communication: When you and your partner stop talking about the important stuff or even the mundane day-to-day things, it's a red flag. Communication is like the oil in a car's engine; without it, everything seizes up.

You're Both Not Willing to Change: Relationships need compromise. If both of you are set in your ways and unwilling to budge, it's like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. Not gonna happen.

No More Trust: This is a biggie. If the trust is gone (say, after infidelity or constant lies), rebuilding it is like trying to glue a shattered vase back together. You might manage it, but it's never going to be the same.

You Feel Better Alone: When the thought of being alone or with friends feels like a breath of fresh air, that's a sign. Relationships should add to your life, not make you feel relieved when you're not in them.

Constant Conflict: Some arguments are normal, but if you're always at each other's throats, that's not healthy. It's like living in a thunderstorm with no sign of clear skies.

Different Life Goals: If you're heading in different directions (like one wants kids, the other doesn't), it's hard to bridge that gap.

No More Intimacy: And I don't just mean physically. If that emotional connection is gone and you feel more like roommates than lovers, it's a sign the spark has fizzled out.

The Bad Outweighs the Good: When your memories of the relationship are mostly negative, or the present is filled with more downs than ups, it's a sign things might be beyond repair.

In the end, it's about gut feeling too. If you're constantly asking yourself if it's over, that in itself might be a sign. Tough stuff, but sometimes it's better to face the music and move on, you know? Remember, though, every relationship is unique, so what's a deal-breaker for one might not be for another.

[AmandaYVR]

1. One or both parties having contempt for one another. This conveys such a fundamental lack of respect, it's rarely fixable.


2. The way the couple handles conflict. Again, if one or both or either doesn't do it well, a dynamic will be created whereby even the smallest of differences and disagreements will blow up and never be instead deescalated.

[Pinay_ako]

• The fights either get dirtier and nastier or lesser or none at all
• You’re more room mates or acquaintances at this point
• You don’t seek out each other anymore
• You guys both want out fast
• You’d rather be anywhere else but with each other

[Finchie40]

When they distance themselves from you , demanding space from you , excluding you from things , when they didn't before , everything is your fault , they blame you for everything , and they never admit they are wrong , they no longer want to be intimate and affectionate with you, you are no longer their priority their friends become mkre of a priority then you , they aren't excited to be around you anymore , That's pretty much how you know it's over , Best thing to do is just let them go and focus on yourself and distance yourself from them as well , they more than likely met someone else or planning to meet someone else , but they won't tell you the truth because they know they are a selfish POS that has been stringing you on while weighing their options , So word of advice , if your partner is doing this to you , dump them immediately, don't waste your time because they don't love you someone that loves you, doesn't need space from you and doesn't exclude you, do not fall for that shit , Not saying you have to hold your partners' hand e ery second but if your gut is telling you something is off , then more than likely your gut is telling. you the truth. A Loving partner doesn't need that much space from you , they will sugarcoat it as much as possible to make it seem like everything is OK when really it isn't,' We don't get into a commitment to be single , you get into a commitment to share things together , work together. Go on vacations together when a partner doesn't care about your where abouts , it's because they only care about themselves and what is best flr. themselves , don't hink otherwise , they are so playing you

[Socaljp]

Dead right

[sage2021]

@Frenchie40
WOW 😳 with all the experience you have you would be one of the "Good one's" when you hear us say where all the good ones. If only we could make exact clones of you, wouldn't that be great ladies!
Do a video about what you said so we can watch you on YouTube 🤔🙂🤞

[Finchie40]

Well thank you for the compliment😋 And yes my advice is sadly based off of my own personal experiences for sure , my experiences with selfish girls’ that only saw things their way , that never could admit that they were wrong , it was always my fault. Girls’ that would set boundaries in the relationship with me , that couldn’t follow the same boundaries , basically you do this for me but i don’t need to do that for you. Sadly a lot of people have this type of mindset and then they wonder why they can’t last in a relationship. If you want love to grow between you and your partner , you both have to learn how to remove selfishness from yourselves and for each other , and you both have to choose each other , over everyone else , Your partner should be your top priority , the same way they should be making you their top priority , A relationship needs to go both ways or it isn’t going to work period. It’s ok to be wrong , we aren’t perfect people , we all make mistakes , we all have selfishness inside ourselves and we all have some sort of insecurity in us as well , I don’t care what anyone says , someone that says they aren’t insecure or says they don’t get jealous is clearly talking out of their ass. The foundation of a relationship takes 2 people , 2 people that come from different paths in life to form into 1 , Sadly in today’s society with all the nonsense that’s going on in relationships , with people cheating and lying and backstabbing , the only reason that is occurring is because of selfish mindsets , people that want their cake
And eat it to. Relationships and marriages are not easy but it also doesn’t have to be hard, Both partners need to give 100 percent as much as possible or you are just wasting
Your time, if you can’t give 100 percent you are probably best just to stay single because you really have nothing to give So have the dignity and respect not to string someone’s heart along. If you want someone to love you , you have to love them

[sage2021]

@Finchie40
The guy I was with said he wanted to be with me because I was smart and we thought alike on so many things. The problem was when I was right about something, his ego would get bruised, although he would tell me "That's a good idea or that's a good point". If he didn't have intellectual stimulation he shouldn't have even started a relationship with me. I don't drink or do drugs and that's the type he would go for. Then they'd get crazy and he'd want out. When he met me he liked that I had some brains. Maybe I was too smart for his ego and he couldn't stand it. He had ADHD. I have a lot of common sense and I am logical. With his ADHD he was emotional unmature. These are things he would tell me, they're not things I would boast about our tell him. He constantly compared me to him. I used to tell him it's not a game where one of us has to win or lose. It's just communication.
What I didn't care for at all was when he would ask me a question and acted like he believed me, then he was always fact checking me not just about his questions, but everything I said. Thank goodness we had the internet cause when he didn't believe me, I would say ok "Google it". That saved me from an argument. But there wasn't any real trust there. Not if the other person knows for a fact that I lie why wouldn't he just believe me and move on.
How could that relationship work. Between doing that with me and him always skirt chasing he would hurt me. So I think this last chick he was hitting on while we were still together was as he put it "She reminds me of one of those stupid women like the have in Kentucky". Well, then he would always be the smart one then.
Since he was just in the throws of taking off with another woman, it's shameful he died before he could hurt me again. So, I feel like God saved me from the guy that used to keep hurting me and didn't care. Oh well!

[WhyohWhy69]

Maybe or maybe they like to do things alone sometimes.

[Finchie40]

Sorry to hear that @sage2021 , ADHD is not an easy thing to understand , I didn’t know much about ADHD until I had a son that has severe ADHD , and I still don’t understand his mind and his way of thinking , so I couldn’t imagine being in a relationship with someone that suffers from it , that had to of have , been a very hard relationship for sure , I feel bad for any girl that falls for my son even though he has a huge heart and I love him with all my heart , I don’t think he is capable of being in a serious relationship , sadly to say, I already witnessed it. I honestly felt bad for the girl that really liked him , mainly from how he treated her , But she kept coming back for more and more until finally she had no other choice but to thowIn the towel. I love him to death but parenting him has not been easy what so ever , trust me , I research it a lot took him to doctors and therapists etc trying to get him on the right meds and to try to understand his brain , but it hasn’t been easy what so ever. So don’t blame yourself for his actions. I pray every day that my son will be ok , he is 19 and still won’t get a job , his priorities are all screwed up , I tried every approach with him, he loves me to death as well but I honestly don’t know what to do for him , I am actually scared for him to be in this world without me. So again don’t blame yourself for his actions , and don’t assume all
Guy’s are like this because ADHD is a whole new realm. So next time you meet a guy , check his medicine cabinet That’s pretty much what I do now after having my heart shit on by my ex that suffered from PTSD , anxiety and depression , one of the hardest relationships I ever been in , I know I couldn’t handle it again , so I stay clear as much as possible lol

[Finchie40]

That’s fine @WhyohWhy69 , like I said , you don’t need to hold your partners’ hand at all times , but your partner should be your top priority over everyone no matter what , when it comes to making decisions , when your friend asks you to go somewhere , you should never just assume it’s ok for you to leave with your friends without confiding in your partner first , and sadly that’s where a lot of people make this mistake. When you make plans to go away with friends for a weekend getaway that’s fine , but you should always consider your partners’ feelings and make sure your partner is going to be ok without you by their side , before you say yes to your friends , don’t just assume you know what they are thinking , which most people sadly tend To do , and then they wonder why their partner is upset with them and have a hard time trusting them. If you confide in your partner first, it shows you respect your partners feelings , the same way you want your partner respecting yours. when you just make a decision without talking to your partner first , it shows you are just a selfish person , that only cares about yourself and more than likely it’s going to leave your partner feeling like you are being up to no good and doing things you shouldn’t be doing. Now if your partner is constantly telling you, they don’t want you going away with friends after you confided in them , then your partner is sadly insecure and doesn’t trust you what so ever , so the right thing to do , is to talk to your partner and find out why they don’t trust you , more than likely they will tell you the truth as to why. the bottomline is you should never choose your friends over Your partner , your friends should never come before your partner , whether you agree or disagree with your partner you have to remember You are no longer single. You should always wear your partners shoes before making decisions the same way your partner should be doing for you , If you want love to grow

[sage2021]

@Finchie40
He used to tell me that he sees the world differently than normal people.
I guess because I have a developmentally disabled son who's 45 now, I wasn't as shocked as some people would be l
that had to live with him.
He "told" that he tried to get on Adderall but the VA doesn't prescribe drugs that gave speed In them. He said he told his doctor he would have to buy it off the streets & which is what he did. When I met him in 2017, he wasn't on meth. He moved from these apartments for three years. When he came back and moved in with me, he promised he would stop taking meth. I said that is the condition. Two weeks later he said "Ya know, I'm not going to quit meth because I really like it too much". I am sick and he would cook for me so I let him stay. I couldn't even tell he was on it until he started increasing the amount. I read if you take meth long enough, it will make you crazy! He was at the crazy stage. He even asked if I thought he was a genius (because he really was) or crazy. I told him he isn't the man I fell in love with anymore and yes, I think you're crazy.
He always valued my opinion. Then he died two days later - poisoned by Fentanyl and meth the Cororner's office said.
Hours before he died he stole over $5,000 and that was all of my savings.
I asked him when he kept yelling at me for no reason (it was too much meth) if he could live with a person with severe ADHD and is on meth. I asked how he would deal with it if it was the opposite with us. He got real quiet and shook his head like the yes motion.

[sage2021]

@Finchie40
I started to follow you on here with hopes you would follow me and we could have more conversations about ADHD and your son, etc.
So, if you'd like, follow me then we can PM each other. These people don't need to know our business about our boys. Right? Thank you.

[Charliefretz329]

When they tell lies to the law and have you arrested and jailed. Then bar you from seeing your children and leave you homeless for 4+ months, while blocking you from working most of your jobs…..


Or after finding your wife in bed with another man and woman while you were waiting for her in the car out front and she punches you several times in the head and throws a board through the window of your house and stoves on the front door. And leaves you with a 3 day concussion, and didn’t remember any of it cause she fell off the drug wagon hard….


Or when you are on military deployment and your wife emails you that she needs some time apart and then drains the bank account and has sex with many guys at her job and you find out she was cheating while you planned your wedding and you’ve only been married for 5 months…


Yeah, those worked for me… and those where just the ones I married

[RoseySarah]

Lack of any good communication

No sex or feeling sex is not worth the hassle and arguing!

Secrets or feeling like they are hiding something

Thier idgf attitude not caring any more

[Paris13]

No Changes when Split up. xxoo

[sage2021]

When he won't look at you in your eyes when he's talking to you. He looks at the floor instead.
The cute terms of endearment stop - probably because he is saying them to someone else now instead of you.
He says he lost his phone and doesn't get a replacement because he doesn't want the two of you calling each other at all! This might happen as soon as he starts seeing someone else and doesn't want you to ask any questions about "Who called"? Etc.
He takes off very early on a Saturday morning telling you "I'm going to go to the store to get you your favorite raspberry danish - it won't take me long. Then doesn't come home all night.
On and on...

[sage2021]

Also when he's always told you how much he loves you and tries to make you happy. Then one day he turns on you like a pit bull and starts being mean and yelling at you and won't let you talk. He tells over you so he doesn't have to hear what you want to say, so you just stop trying to talk and just let him yell at you until they wear themselves out.
Also doing things to your food - like make you scrambled eggs and there is sugar on them, then you don't get anything else to eat.

[Kelly6]

these are solid points

[Socaljp]

Ok, sabotaging ones food is taking it too far

[sage2021]

@Kelly6
Oh, and if he is on any kind of drugs that's a biggie! And he could be hiding them from you. Meth is a definitely a personality changer too. That's when it gets really bad.

[Kelly6]

@sage2021 drugs are totally no for me

[Joshydavid25]

There's usually almost no physical intimacy between you two.. It just feels like you guys are roommates. The arguments can become nastier or there could become a weird level of peace to where one or both of you guys don't care to argue. You start to spend almost no time together and would prefer spending it with friends, family or even somebody else..

[WhereIsMyMind]

People that are set in their ways, unwilling to change their behaviour. There's no point staying in a relationship like this.

[IslaTheWitch]

no willingness to work on problems
coldness and detachment
indifference towards partner's struggles

[DannyUk2017]

Toxic treats, Always arguing, Always fingers pointing, Sex is non existent, Repulsive around you, Easy irritated...🤷‍♂️

[sage2021]

@DannyUk2017

How would he be repulsive to me? What kinks of things are we talking about? I thought he was easily irritated because he was on drugs. Cause I never did anything to him. But I read that person on meth start getting really aggressive and mad, but it's the meth, not me. They say stuff like "Stop attacking me" when I wasn't even saying or doing anything for sitting in my chair watching tv with thus guy that's like a brother to me. He was my witness - he would tell him I wasn't attacking him. He was delusional.
Why was I with him you ask? The deal was the would stop the drugs. He promised me!!! Two weeks after moving he announced he wasn't quitting drugs because he likes them.
I'm glad he died because he was at the crazy point with me. I couldn't do it anymore. He ruined a perfectly fun and loving relationship that lasted 7 years this week. He moved away for three years, then came to live with me April of last year.
Oh well, it's over now!

[DannyUk2017]

@sage2021, your situation is different than @blunty... and your "situationship" was about him using drugs, in @blunty's situation we don't know yet as it has been a very short description. 🤷‍♂️

[BadApple69]

I think anything can be fixed. But it takes both to want to fix it.

[syncheart]

I had a woman at work, that was over the top nice to me, and then all of a sudden one day she says she needs space. I figured ok this appears to be over. Things have never been the same again.

[sage2021]

@syncheart
See, that's what I was saying. Everything seemed to be fine, and in one say he turned on me like a pit bull. It was never the same after. That's because he started seeing the lady that helps me with my chores. I guess they had more in common. I know she cheated on her disabled husband with him. Since he was not going to be nice to me anymore and stole over 5 grand of my cash, my only me net, he had to go. Funny thing is they didn't get to have a good time together with my money cause he died within 10 hours I'd ripping me off. At least he can't be mean to me anymore or hurt me by making me jealous with them together in front of me.
,🤣😂 Their plans fell through. But I still think he gave her the money he stole from me and never gave it back to me. Witch!

[sage2021]

me net is supposed to say 💰 money 💲

[syncheart]

@sage2021 Sorry that happened to you. My thing wasn't all that bad. At least she didn't steal any money and died.

[mkkkkitan]

When you realize that you’re actually happier when you love them less

[HouseMoat]

Lack of sex, typically. Couples should want to fuck. So, if for some reason it's stopped, or has signifcantly decreased, somethings likely over

[Crankor]

It's really only too late if either person is willing to fix it. If they have reason to or just not want to fix it then there is no point. Like say infidelity

[Katebfun]

When the person is unable to love you like you love yourself or better

[Anonymous]

When she doesn’t cry anymore. When he doesn’t fight for her or try to win her back.

[Shiningtempest]

@blunty Some signs that a relationship is doomed are incompatible lifestyle, no shared hobbies, incompatible religious value, & no shared goals.

[sage2021]

@Shiningtempest
How is a woman supposed to share his passion in life (hobby too) is astrophysics and astronomy when none of it makes any sense to the average person. You gave to have a degree to understand what he's talking about. Sometimes I would be sitting watching tv or on GaG and he would start talking astronomy to me and not stop. He did that several times and he knew I didn't know a word he was saying so I told him I feel like a hostage in this chair. He wouldn't even ask first if I would listen to him 🤷🏼‍♀️

[sage2021]

Correction
You gave should be to have to have a degree

[KrakenAttackin]

When you regret the day you first laid eyes on the bitch.

[Socaljp]

Right on

[jimmy2]

What will save the relationship is forgiveness individually and between Two Souls and both find forgiveness in Jesus

[OddBeMe]

How much time you don’t spend together. The opposite is the measure of love post coital.

[Tomisworthless]

She bangs other men and doesn't play it off like you're the one at fault

[WheelerOfSeeds1]

When you give up on your passion. Try everything you can to show that you love your partner. Please give it a shot.