Are they just friends?

[Andrew5788]

My girlfriend has friends that are a couple. There has been a lot of sexual activity between her and the couple in the past us. When I first met her and then them later she told me nothing has ever happened between any of them. This had made me uncomfortable. She spends a lot of time at their place even when I tell her how I feel and ask her not to... what is really going on? Is it just that they are now only friends and just hang out or is there more?

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn bro, that's a sketchy situation you've got goin on there. A few red flags for me:

- If there was past sexual stuff between them all, that's definitely something she should have been upfront with you about from the jump. Not cool to hide that.

- You've voiced being uncomfortable with her hanging at their place a lot, but she keeps doing it anyway without respecting how you feel. Not a good sign.

- It's one thing to be just friends now if they've all truly moved on from whatever happened before. But continuing that cozy close hanging out alone could still stir up feelings again real easy.

To me it doesn't sound like "just friends" is fully believable here. There's obviously still some kind of chemistry or pull between them if she's ignoring your feelings to be around them so much. Friends don't come between you and your girl like that, know what I'm sayin?

Personally bro, I'd say you need to have an upfront chat with her. Lay it all out there - the past stuff, your discomfort, your boundaries going forward. See how she reacts and if she's willing to prove she's choosing you now by distancing from them some. If not, you gotta ask yourself if you can trust where her heart really is, feel me? Tread carefully my man, follow your gut on this one.

[Avicenna]

It's hard to say, but your concerns are legitimate. If she can't respect your wishes, you should think about breaking up with her.

[Anonymous]

Why does it matter? Are you really that insecure, or is it a jealousy thing?

[OlderAndWiser]

Do you trust her?

[Anonymous]

It seems so.

[Anonymous]

I think so yeah