Could you be in love but in a sexless relationship for the rest of your life?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I guess you can love whoever you want to, but would you really feel loved by someone that didn’t want to have sex with you? Me personally would not , because. if a girl doesn’t want to have sex with me? then to me , she doesn’t really love me and desire me , and appreciate me and value me. So. what would even be the point of being in a relationship with heron the first place ? if Intimacy and affection was an issue , especially in a relationship. I am not going to waste my time with her , I am not saying she needs to have sex with me every day , even though I wouldn’t complain lol but it should never really be an issue in the first place Based off of my own personal experiences with girls’ that stopped being intimate and affectionate with me. All of a sudden. Were all lying , cheating backstabbing l selfish whores , that were getting it elsewhere behind my back , so I am sorry , to me that isn't love The only way it would accept it , is if she had a valid medical reason as to why she couldn’t have sex , but even so, that doesn’t mean the affection should fade away as well. Life is too short to waste your time with someone that doesn’t want to be intimate and affectionate with you , people that withhold intimacy band affection , I will from their partners’ are selfish people that only care about themselves, if intimacy and affection all of a sudden becomes an issue and you claim to love your partner , then have the dignity and respect to let your partner have a choice on whether they can continue staying with you or get it elsewhere, it s selfish of you to hold that against them I don’t care what anyone says I do t tolerate that shit in a relationship if things aren’t going the same way between us then my ass is on my way out the door if she isn’t willing to compromise with me

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

I've gone without sex for this long. Don't think it would be hard to do it for the rest of my life. And it's hard for me to "be in love." I think it might only be possible for me to be in lust. But the lust can be expressed through other forms. Other forms of love besides sex.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

I was. He had erectile dysfunction because of his diabetes or something else. Anyway, taking those pills to help with that are very dangerous for your heart.
So we just didn't have sex. We hugged, cuddled, kissed, but we just didn't know what to do with a limp weiner.
I think he was getting a prescription from his doctor for the pills to give him a hard on. Once they were mailed and he handed the package they came in to me to open. When I opened it, it was his hard on pills. He told me they didn't work though. He lied about everything and I think he was cheating with someone in our apartment complex.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I don’t want to be in a relationship right now. I feel perfectly fine on my own.

hector · Answer

Being in love but in a sexless relationship? Yeah, it's totally possible and more common than you might think. It's like having a favorite song that you never get tired of, even if you don't dance to it – the melody's still beautiful, right?

You see, love isn't just about the physical stuff. It's those long, deep chats at 2 AM, the way they laugh at your corny jokes, or how they always know when you need a cup of tea. That stuff? It's gold. And sometimes, that's enough to fill up the love tank, even without the bedroom acrobatics.

Different strokes for different folks, right? Some people find that their connection isn't rooted in the physical. Maybe it's health stuff, personal choices, or just the way they're wired. The big deal is making sure both of you are cool with it. If one's feeling shortchanged, that's when the trouble starts brewing.

Communication is the magic word here. You gotta be able to spill your guts – fears, desires, the whole shebang. If you're both on the same page, then you're golden. But if there's a mismatch, then it's a bit like trying to fit a square peg in a round hole.

And hey, don't forget about other ways to be close. Cuddling up on the couch, those little surprise texts, cooking together – that's the stuff that can make a relationship super special, with or without the sex.

But I won't sugarcoat it – it's not always easy-peasy. There's a lot of pressure out there to have a certain kind of relationship. You might get some side-eye or weird questions from folks who don't get it. It's like walking a path less traveled, but if it makes you happy, then why the heck not?

Bottom line, if you're both smiling, feeling loved and connected, then you're doing it right. So, if a sexless but loving relationship is your jam, rock on!

robhazelnut · Answer

The definition of "love" which I prefer is a willingness to include in one's experience. As for being loving and intimate in a lifelong relationship with a woman, but without sex, I'd only potentially be interested if I could provide for the bodily health of her and our future children and if she would be willing and able to, aftter a year or two's time, instead artificially inceminate so we could become parents. I operate on no demands for anyone, only agreements, gifts, respecting boundaries and voluntary conversation. That's the only reason I would choose to have a lifelong intimate relationship with a woman, aside from a sense of concern of her potentially being painfully alone or choosing an abuser instead.

HawkPerception · Answer

Only if she was incapable of having sex and probably only if the cause happened while I was in a relationship with her. I'm not about to get with a girl that can't have sex, but if I fall in love with a girl and then something happens to, I'm not leaving her.

aceleon · Answer

if i had ED or was asexual or had fear of intimacy (which by the way i might have)

but in general i don't wanna spent the rest of my life with a woman, only woman i wanna do that with is my own mother the rest is unnecesaary burden.

i want a pack not a mate.

sheikalana · Answer

It depends. Sex is a very important part of a relationship for me. I wouldn't be in a sexless relationship from the start but if my husband for some reason had some accident or disability or health condition that wouldn't allow him to have sex that wouldn't make me turn my back on him.

BadApple69 · Answer

Not likely. Sex changes brain chemistry. There are a lot of “feel good” chemicals released during sex. Those chemicals cause closeness between couples without that closeness I think a couple couldn’t survive.
Just my thoughts I could be wrong.

JacobJordan · Answer

Nope. Intimacy is one of the core things that brings a couple closer and enhances the love. You see the number of women that get married and withhold sex thinking that will make the husband bow down or whatever they think is going to happen? All the guys do is find a girl who will be intimate with them and problem solved. Shortly thereafter the relationship devolves and they split and the guy ends up with the girl who wanted to be intimate and they end up happy

sawno · Answer

No because I prefer being sexually exclusive to her but that does mean she needs to meet my sexual needs.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

I think this would be a challenge, both mentally and physically, but if something were to happen to my spouse, that could not be remedied, I would deal with it.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

As someone who really doesn’t care for sex in general, yeah. I would actually prefer the relationship be loving and sexless.

Nik1hil · Answer

No!.. I would rather not find love, not have a relationship. but consistently stay drowned in sex..

IslaTheWitch · Answer

I would prefer not to... Like love is great but physical closeness is something I need and value greatly, so I would vote for both things together

Benjiman19 · Answer

Been sexless so far and I've been in love twice. Would I like to have my virginity taken? Absolutely! But if I'm not going to complain if I never get anything

Berethor · Answer

No children too? that love is pretty pointless, but with problems I can become pretty asexual so who knows? also women care about emotions more than men.

shiran_ · Answer

I don't think I could but maybe it's because I'm in a time in my life where sexuality is very important. I can't say that it will always be the case, but I hope it won't change.

Billlewis · Answer

My main concern is that she's completely satisfied at all times. As long as she's having sex once in a while with some lucky guy, that's all that matters to me.

Sour-rose · Answer

;) when you're not born a horny mortal... oh yes.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

No, I could not do that kind of relationship.

Radiate143 · Answer

That isn't really a relationship if both people are able-bodied and don't have some reason why they cannot perform sexual acts. That's a no from me.

Tim2nice · Answer

No. She would either have sex with me or allow me to have sex with other women and I’d allow her to have sex with other men if I can’t perform. But a relationship without sex is doomed

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

no. she would be invited to remove herself from my life.

michol1 · Answer

sex or physical intimacy is like a reformation of a emotional bond for men in a relationship words alone help us feel accepted or loved. In most cases people and relationships are different.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Romantically? Maybe. If she and I adored each other and there was some ailment that prevented it I could possibly.

Unit1 · Answer

Sexless relationships are called friendships.

SotiCoto · Answer

Would be tricky occasionally, but I figure I could manage it.

Raaj4you · Answer

No, not possible without sex. Possible only if she let me have me sex with other girls.

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Surely can change the sexless part for your relationship

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Without sex, there's not going to be any love. Sexless love is reserved for relatives and pets.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

No thanks, I'm good  😅

alexsprouts · Answer

Yeah I could, if I am allowed to masturbate sometimes :)

EmmaMary · Answer

No I couldn't.

rachel776 · Answer

why would you want to 🤷‍♀️

NathanDavis · Answer

I would not want that... I'm not asexual

Miristheiss · Answer

No. Of course not.

syncheart · Answer

Probably at my age and health I could.

mandyfire98 · Answer

I couldn't

Nifrayu · Answer

I learned the hard way that no I cannot.

12karen · Answer

Yep, where's the prob

jahaims · Answer

Depends on the context

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

I prefer not but it can happen

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

No, I need it.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I've gone a long time without it.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Sure

Flatmanlewis · Answer

Not really. No.

Minahh · Answer

100% yes, sex is an extremely cheap currency

nawtee_me · Answer

Not while everything still works…. lol

Anonymous · Answer

I think at some stage we all end up there.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm asexual so absolutely

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I COULD

eagle1951 · Answer

not only could be but was

KittygosMeoWW · Answer

Nope

RingOfFire · Answer

Negative.

loveslongnails · Answer

Not a chance.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Don't think so.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Nope.

dean53AU · Answer

No I could not

Gibbie83 · Answer

Absolutely not

Slim57 · Answer

Nah.

Anonymous · Answer

No way, not for me.

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