Girls, would you start a relationship with a guy who does not earn his own money and still receives financial support from his family?

[gayesblog]

I don't mean being unemployed, it is just when this is his own preference....

[Flatmanlewis]

I can say this: Some guy has parents help him make the payment on his 1994 Honda Civic so he can get to his video game release party at his friends basement and buy snacks on the way there - no women are probably interested.

His parents are helping him pay his student loans, gym membership, and make payments on his Land Rover while he finishes his unpaid internship as a surgeon in NYC - he’s not going to have a lot of trouble finding understanding women.

Context matters.

[OddBeMe]

Ambition needs to match in relationships. If he’s struggling but you can tell he will be out of his family home soon, sure, but there are people who mooch.

[Sirenboobzilla]

No. Not sorry. I don't need a man with a lot of money. Hell, I make more than twice s much as my boyfriend does. But I do admire and appreciate that he works hard regardless

[TheSpaceGnome]

Work smart, not hard.
People really need to stop worshiping hard labor, and start appreciating cleverness.

[QuestionareGirl]

I’m pretty sure it depends on the woman, her standards, and what she deems as the type of relationship she wants.

Personally, I wouldn’t.

[Finchie40]

Nope , I dated girls’ that wouldn’t keep a job , that made every excuse not to work , that thought I was this walking ATM machine , does girls’ didn’t last long with me , I will not get into a relationship with a girl that does nt want
To work as a team , a girl that just looks for hand outs is someone I don’t waste my time with what so ever , I want a girl that has my back like I have hers or ithe relationship is just waste of
Time , a good time but not a long time

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am very hard-working.

I’ve never accepted any help from my parents after the age of 20.

So, I would rather be with a man who’s as hard-working and independent as I am.

[Avicenna]

I bet it would Elend on how much it is as far as many women are. concerned. If it’s from a trust fund, they’ll be highly interested.

[ZackBan]

No such thing as "preference" when you're 27.
As someone who's turning 27 this year the thought of another guy my age still chosing to be a waste of oxygen is just gross.

What would he know about the work it takes to have a relationship he doesn't know what work even means.

If that's you do yourself a favor and run

[Wood3nWhal3]

Are you saying people don't get gold stars for trying at 27? Can someone start a social movement that addresses the detrimental stresses that come with having to work just like everybody else? I'm sure we can get a good amount of people behind this, as it would decrease stress, thus negativity in the world.

[aceleon]

if you put the value of a person same as the job the waste of oxygen is you. we are not our jobs or moneys in our pockets this is just your capitalistic delusion.

[ZackBan]

Do not make this about your misguided communistic views. If you do nothing at 27 except sit at home living off the hard work of your parents you are the very definition of a bum it's not that deep it's not political it's a simple fact.

[aceleon]

i'm not a communist, i could never be a communist either. ido believepeople should earn what they deserve from their hard work, what i don't believe is in order to be a valued human being a job is not the criteria, your job if not prostution is no ones business. your job doesn't decide your value.

[Wood3nWhal3]

@ZackBan total commie, a socialist would have eased into with a comment like ,"Are we really valued & defined by our jobs and how much we earn?"
But this guy just dove in!

[Wood3nWhal3]

@aceleon what's the possibility you marry a prostitute? In the idealistic perspective that we aren't defined or valued by our profession or amount of funds kept in our banks...

[aceleon]

@Wood3nWhal3 i don't get what you are asking here, but no i'm not even being friends with a prostitude let alone enter a relationship LET ALONE MARRY ONE job is another thing DİGNİTY is another, i don't have any business with someone who doesn't know how to keep her legs closed, also i'm not idealistic either neither a pragmatist everything isgood on small doses, no need for over-dose.

[aceleon]

also prostution is not a job it is just being a slut i don't care the circumstances go beg for money if you have to, it would be less shamefull and would make it easier to be symphatized.

[ZackBan]

@aceleon I don't think we disagree that much. I never said someone's job should decide their value. A McDonald's worker is a valuable person same as a lawyer.
What I said, and do maintain however, is that a laziness IS something to judge people with. And if you're not doing anything at all at an age where you should have been autonomous a while ago then yes you are a person of lower value and would make for a bad partner to date. Who wants a freeloader in their lives? Nobody.

[aceleon]

yeah i agree with this, even though i don't agree with the autonomous part cuz you can still live with your family even if you have a job and steady income, it is also advantageous cuz it would give you a chance to save money.

[ZackBan]

Right sure living with them is one thing. Living off of them is another.

[aceleon]

well i'm thinking about living off of them until i save enough money to buy my own car so?

[ZackBan]

I just checked, you're 21. At 21 I was living off of my parents too.
Moved away at 23.
My comment is about those in their late 20's. When you get to be 27 you'll feel wrong living off of parents (hopefully)

[aceleon]

i probably will not cuz i will have no reason to, if anything it will just be lonelier than it already is, why would i want to live on my on? to remember how i don't have nothing?

[ZackBan]

Oh waw I did not expect that.
And yes you are right it gets lonely living alone.
But at the end of the day hiding from your inner loneliness by surrounding yourself with people who don't even feel like they should be there isn't fixing the problem it's just a patch job.

I love my parents to death and I too am very lonely but living with them does not feel like a long term solution. The solution would be to face my loneliness, learn to love my alone time and surround myself with people that are meant to be on my path (not in a spiritual way) but more like a logical progression into adulthood.

[aceleon]

last part was senseless. people who aremeant to be on my path? so my parents are not meant to be with me? also who can those persons be? friends maybe but i think you more or less tried to hint a woman but sorry mate i'm not doing that shit, i can have female friends but i ABSOLUTLY don't want a relationship until i die no seriously i got stabbed once and i would still prefer to be stabbed again instead of going through that shit, aside from being a living nightmare, a relationship has nothing worthy in it for me to accept the burden that will come with it and considerin i have no interest in having a woman in my life, i don't see any reason to get myself into a place where i have no one, embracing the loneliness sounds cool and flashy but it is just that, flashy but empty words, you probably think it will amke you stronger but from this point on i don't want any more power than i already got through the life i led until now, being a strong person didn't make me happier and the power i got is eccentially useless since ihave no dreams or ambitions, i just continue living and do things that makes me feel good, the strenght, the motivation or any other thing has no meaning or use for me anymore, dicipline and strenght is meaningless if the person has no ''desires'' it is aimless. so by proximity the idea of progression into adulthood is also pointless, as long as i have the things i need for survival and can keep myself entertained becoming an adult or staying as a child has no hold over me, so ypur idea of progression into adulthood has nothingto offer to me aside from being less happy then i am but i'm gaining absolutly nothing from it as far as i can see.

[Anonymous]

I dealt with this from my ex back in 2005 it was so repulsive I couldn't stand it. She kept asking her parents for money even though she was 25 at the time old enough to get a job, but when I got laid off of my job she actually had the nerve to bitch her head off about me not working when I pointed out to her in front of her mom when was the last time you had a job oh that's right never which she tried saying I babysit my neice at which point I told her an actual job where you sign a w2 form and receive an actual paycheck. After that her mom and dad forced her to get a job and she hated me ever since

[Opinion Owner]

I've also dealt with women who had dead end jobs at cheap burger joints and it was disgusting and repulsive they didn't even have a pot to piss in all they were was a bunch of can kickers
I've dealt with women who worked in retail and some had the bitchiest personalities which was also repulsive coming from a bunch of can kickers who couldn't afford a pot to piss in

[Opinion Owner]

Finding a woman with a good career was rare it does happen but those type of women are rare and hard to find

[DermalPunch]

It depends the reason why. Is he starting a business? Has he shown that he is independent in spite of this privilege and working hard in other areas. Is he just in a rut. I wouldn't arbitrarily exclude them, no.

[TheSpaceGnome]

When starting a business, you want to work smart, not hard.

[SphynxUK]

I don’t think there are many men that would do bugger all everyday and get everything paid for by mum and dad. Obviously have no ambition or anything, so no. Never.

[Thestupidusername]

Not if that was his goal. If it was for now and he is working on getting a job and going to job interviews then sure.

I dont really care as long as he can pay for himself:)

[petitedollbabee]

Nope. It would only be a matter of time before he would start mooching off of my income instead of his families.

[NathanDavis]

none of my exes would have been okay with that...

not even with the ones when we were both in college and high-school, lol...

[kevypatyy7]

Ahh my answer is not. Besides it depends if he works in the family business or he gets free money

[molonski2]

Depends how he makes and receives the money.

[myacaii]

Assuming I was financially stable, he’d have to have a personality great enough to make up for it

[exitseven]

I sure would not my daughter to get involved with him. I might invite him to go "fishing " with me.

[sage2021]

No, I would not. I would like my man to be ambitious not a slacker!

[TacosRAwesome]

No. I don't understand trust fund babies or people who are too incompetent to make their own money

[andreasderjuengere]

Similar to a ''housewife'' - this guy would then be a ''house son'' :D

[Drumlin2001]

If he dosen't earn, how is that not unemployed? Regardless if he has money, it's unemployed

[Booklover_90]

Nope. Instant turn off. He has to be on his own two feet.

[Anonymous]

Maybe, if I could help him get a stable job and if he offered anything else otherwise.

[Anonymous]

I think girls should give chance to unemployed guys and date them. Some guys start working after the wedding. I mean you can't predict the future of any bad or good or loser guy.

[Nikki1989]

No, that would never work for me.

[wiltingrosepetal]

I'm 18 so yeah that's kind of to be expected

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Is he qualified? Or drop out?

[Anonymous]

If he's hawt enough.

[ImSparkly]

No. Full stop.

[Agape93]

Nope

[KittygosMeoWW]

nope lol

[DreamLife7]

Nope..

[fuddly]

If he's loaded

[Anonymous]

NOPE!