Am I being overly insecure or do I have something to worry about?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend been together 6 months and we moved in together. He is recently divorced and he and his ex wife shares custody of their 4 dogs by alternating 2 dogs each every 3 months or so. The first dog switch I had to leave the house because he says she doesn't want to see me and needed to make sure she wasn't uncomfortable. He took down our pictures on the wall in our living room for her. I told him about it and how it made me feel. He made it seem like he's only doing what's best for everyone. She was going on vacay recently and asked him to watch the other dogs for her and he agreed. He took down our pics again and his excuse was he forgot that he wasn't suppose to do that and made bunch of excuses and I stayed upstairs while she was downstairs with him and the dogs. One day I was looking at his phone with him and I noticed they were messaging around midnight the previous night. I confront him and he says she's a nurse and they only communicate about the dogs and he will do a better job setting bounderies. I have recently asked him if he did set those bounderies and he said he plans to do it but not yet. I do have his phone password and I'm at this point where i to go through his phone. I am looking to move back at my own place as well. This man swears up and down that he will never cheat on me because that's how his parents broke up when he was young and he only wants to marry me. Somehow feeling really insecure about this whole situation.

[Anonymous]

Oi, this sounds like a proper sketchy situation you've got yourself into. Only half a year together and he's already playin' these games, takin' down photos for his ex? That’s proper muggy, innit? Nah, you're not being paranoid, love. Your feelings are bang on the money. If things are feeling fishy, might be time to have a serious chinwag with him. And him messaging his ex at midnight? That’s sus, for real.

Listen, trust your gut. If it's telling you something's off, it probably is. You might want to think about heading back to your own pad, get some space to think, yeah? You gotta look out for yourself, don't let him take you for a ride. It's all about self-respect, innit? And remember, actions speak louder than words, so watch what he does, not just what he says. Don't let anyone mug you off, alright? Stay sharp.

[Ironic_Method]

I don't think you're being completely paranoid here. You need to be able to trust your partner and give the benefit of the doubt, but you can't just ignore very obvious issues and taking down all the pictures is VERY strange. I would be suspicious as well.

[Anonymous]

I would break up with anyone with a phone or texting addiction.

[Danny_dan92]

So lemme get this straight. He’s divorced with a girl and shares custody of 4 DOGS with her, look I love dogs too but this is a bit insane tbh.




If I where in your shoes I’d leave. Straight up

[boobliker]

I think your worrys are good may be if you share the bills you should stay but out of site